
Originally Posted by
t1mpani
Economic hardship breeds crime. Desperation breeds crime. A culture of believing that it can't get any better breeds crime. These things are all very strongly prevalent in many black communities, hence the disproportionate numbers of incarcerated black Americans. Their claim to feeling underappreciated, undervalued, wronged and set against as a group is--by any measure--a completely reasonable one, but letting go of that and deciding to prove the ignorance of the Ignorant through effort and achievement is their best hope.
"That guy hates black people!" ....well then, to hell with him; why are you worried about what an asshole like that thinks anyway? "This woman doesn't think black people are as smart as white people!" ...then show how wrong she is. Have your accomplishments show how idiotic her view is.
My sister and I have had this argument many times over the years. While never making a claim that I finally "won" the argument (you can almost never really totally win one) I did have the satisfaction of pointing something out to her a few years ago which she had one hell of a time forming a comeback to. I had said that no matter how justified a person is in feeling wronged, in being angry, in hating, he or she is really just wasting life until those feelings are abandoned and the future is embraced. As good as it may feel to wallow, that kind of self indulgence is always a barrier to things ever getting better, because it's an excuse. She then argued that it wasn't for me---who hadn't suffered what black Americans had suffered---to make such a determination for them. I then brought up how she had literally said, "They need to just get over it..." when a news story hard recently run about very small but nonetheless lingering militant sentiments within some Irish communities towards the British. How, I asked, was it her place to tell those people how to feel?
The answer, of course, was that it didn't matter whether or not it was her place to say it, she was right. They really DO need to get over it in Ireland, and FINALLY they largely have, and after centuries of grudges, hatred and poverty there is finally starting to be an explosion of personal possibility in Ireland---despite being hurt by Europe's current crop of financial troubles it's still one of the fastest growing economies in the world. As of three years ago (I don't have more current info on this) you couldn't buy a new BMW in Ireland off of a lot as every single dealer there was back-ordered with waits of many months. Higher education is becoming the norm there. Industry is moving in. Do you know how different that is than even one generation ago? It's because they "got over it", and decided that they were tired of being on the dole, tired being almost entirely blue collar, tired of not finishing school, tired of being considered 'quaint' and decided to do better. It's not that there weren't legitimate grievances with how they'd been treated in the past--there absolutely was a lot of bad blood and a lot of innocent people who got hurt by it. The thing is, legitimate misery, legitimate anger, and legitimate bitterness never take you anywhere you want to go. The newer generations there apparently don't want to hear about how awful it was, they want to think about how good it could be.
So, she was right, but she was also safe. It's politically correct to tell a young, angry Irishman that he needs to let go of the past, but you say that to a black American and you're a racist, or at the very least racially insensitive. It comes from the same goddamn place, people. I don't care if the anchor weighing you down is rage, heartbreak, addiction, or anything else; dropping it and resisting the temptation to pick it up again is the most important step you'll ever take. It's hard to do, huh? Well, of course it is---anything worth doing is hard. You ever read an epic tale about somebody accomplishing something easy?
The current President is one of my least favorite in terms of his political convictions and plans for the country, but I'll say "thank God he won" just because it finally put to bed this question of whether or not it was possible to elect a black president. Seeing as how I've served under black generals, can name several black congressmen, black governors, and a couple black secretaries of state (in the prior administration no less) it never occurred to me that we couldn't elect a black president, but I know there are many who didn't think it possible, so now it's been proven. Funnily, to me, those who assumed that no black man or woman would be able to overcome the prejudice are actually racists of a kind---well intentioned, apologetic doubters who felt that this race of people wasn't strong enough to overcome such a challenge, at least not without help. I don't scream at them or waste time hating them for their patronizing stupidity, however. Just like the overt racists, they're steadily dying off and/or becoming obsolete.
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