I think you are being a little to hard on your self. what are you using for equipment to sharpen with? Do you know the hardness of the steels you are working with? good way to tell is take the most coarse stone you have and a knife that is a low grade steel. Take a few strokes on that stone you should feel the stone "cut" the steel as you move it down the stone. Once you get a good feel of this take one of the better steel knives and do the same thing applying the same amount of pressure you used on the first knife. If you feel less drag on this knife than the first than you can do a few things to help you 1. push harder forcing the stone to bite harder into the steel trade offs for this is you will fatigue quickly the stone that you are using will most likely need to be lapped after you are done using it and you will get sloppy trying to go faster with because your hands are getting tired. The thing that I would do is find a finer stone or sand paper to work with, im going to say most coarse stones are 80-120 from what I have felt with my hands. Some stones that are 200-220 coarse I would not consider these to be coarse but they do have a much easier time "cutting" into the harder steels and they remove material plenty fast enough if you keep your stone clean or paper sharp. let us know how you are trying to sharpen your knives because you may be trying to cut glass with butter. I really think that you can do this on your own with a little info from you and help from us here im sure you can do it.