Becoming a Wheeler Dealer to Hide Purchases from Wife

I really do try to stay ahead with my wheeling and dealing vs collecting. But ya I play it up when I get something I want to keep. And I do get less complaints then when I used to just buy em and keep them all.
 
I actually have the luxuary to be able to discuss my latest purchases with my girlfriend. :) She's not 100% interested, it I said that I would be lying, but enough to pick up some knowledge abouts steels, locktypes, sharpening, ergos and so on. She has a couple of her own (Ontario RAT 2 and Kershaw) but is more into kitchen knives since we both loves to cook.

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Fiancé could care less but she knows how much I like getting new knives she's even picked up a couple she can even name every brand and model of knife I own. No reason to hide your purchases honesty is key in a marriage.
 
Is any knife worth a lie? Especially to the wife? Trust in a marriage is like a bank account or a china plate. In the bank account analogy you can withdraw and you can deposit, but once you are overdrawn it's all over. In the china plate analogy, you can keep chipping away at it, but sooner or later you're left with a piece of junk.

I've been married 30 years to the same woman.
 
1) start a slush fund. Money suddenly being removed from accounts or credit card bills stating "XYZ Knife store" can be a giveaway. Use money orders with the cash.

2) don't insist on showing her every knife. Let it become "the knives" instead of ones she recognizes because she is still burning over you spending $450 on a strider.

3) smuggle the knife in when she is not there, or asleep. If you are sitting there on your couch sharpening one of your "knives" it's doubtful she will notice it being new. If you walk in with a package or bag from a store her inquisitive nature will want to ask you what you want.

there are a few more but these are the most obvious. I am divorced but knives had nothing to do with it. :)

joe
 
I don't HIDE anything from my fiancé. She's fully aware and generally accepting of my knife purchases. That said, they do usually go onto a dedicated card so she never sees the prices, just the monthly automatic payment.
 
I'm a man who doesn't need to hide stuff from his wife. She's a woman who doesn't need to hide stuff from her husband. We have both earned that right.Works for us😊We try to stay within our means, so toy money is just that.
 
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I used to have a buddy that did this with guns. He'd buy new ones and tell his wife he was "selling" some of his others. He'd list them for stupid high prices so they never sold. He's divorced now.....go figure.

Myself, I don't keep anything from my wife. She likes different things than me. It used to bother me how much she'd spend eating out at restaurants. It used to bother her how much I spent on guns, knives, and tools. We just have different priorities. Now we operate on an "allowance" system. Figured out we both spent about the same, just on different things. Now she could care less what I buy with my chunk of cash, and I'm the same.

But regardless, no need to lie or sneak stuff by your wife. For the most part, they're smarter than you are in that regard, and they know what you're doing. Put your marriage first, and come up with something that works for the both of you. Be resourceful and work together like a team.
 
Actually, I do this quite a bit with knives and other hobbies like watches, camera equipment and bikes. But not only do I lie to the wife, but I lie to myself as I almost always intend on flipping the purchase but eventually end up keeping the item. Usually making a half-assed attempt to sell prior to deciding to keep.
 
Yes and no... I put a bit more emphasis on trading or selling as opposed to buying... I rarely discuss actual dollar amounts and just choose to withhold information as opposed to lie about it.
 
I've been married 32 years. I got past being sneaky 30 years ago. We decided early on that we would be straight up with each other, and guess what, nothing much to argue about. It also helps having the means to buy what I want, but that came from being careful in the early years.
 
Never had to be sneaky. Im not married but I were in relationships that operated as if I was. Of the two that were really serious one of them was a very selfish person. So whenever she had something smart to say about my knife collecting I simply had to point out her shoes, purses, clothing and it usually ended up with her not saying anything for the time being because we both had our poor spending habits. And the other one was actually very supportive of my hobby. And we had an agreement that if I were to get a new knife and old one had to go. I had no problem with this and it meant my hobby had a minimal impact on our finances. But lying and pretending to wheel and deal so she doesnt get mad about purchases? Im sure it may work for a bit but eventually I think she will catch on if she all ready hasnt. And a lie like that can open you up to a world of suspicion and lack of trust. Kinda like "if hes lying to me about this, what else is he lying about" For me Id rather her know and not like it than me living a lie. And I simply feel that if you have to lie to your spouse there are issues in that relationship that need to be addressed otherwise its just a bomb waiting to go off.
 
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