Broken; or, A Somewhat Boring Wander

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'Pump don't work cause the vandals took the handles..." Bob Dylan


Written 40 years ago and naive by today's standards...sigh.
There's a much smaller and personal issue here at home that often astounds me. It happens when one of my children lose or break one of their prized toys. There's a sense of frustration and loss, the knowledge we dont have control. There is actual sorrow over the passing of a revered toy, and that emotion reflects the sorrow over living.

In our Age gone mad, the small ways we maintain the illusion of control become very important, inordinately serious. I just drove 4000 miles and, 'all I wanted was to be able to keep 5 miles an hour over the posted limit'. I wanted this on every road driven, the entire length of the route regardless of condition. When people got in my way with their own plans, it was irritating.

The Road reveals the temper of our society. It's a good blank slate when evaluating our status. And everybody knows that condition isn't always good. The majority of us do pretty well, all things considered, but there are outstanding individuals behaving dangerously. They hardly value their own lives, let alone yours. And we've conditions in which nearly everyone is a scoff-law. Situational morality. The sign says 45 in a work zone. A single car or two push it to 60, and soon most on the road match them. A mob of cars all over the speed limit, spraying gravel onto each other and jeapardizing the men working on the freeway.

Nearly everyone I know has behaved stupidly at least once while driving. When an accident takes place, and you're brought back to reality, the reasons for the accident are correctly seen as trivial. What? What's that you say? You risked your life and that of your family's, and countless others driving near you, because the sports car cut you off and left you stuck behind a semi-truck? e How many minutes you figure you lost when that happened? You want your thirty seconds back.

The less responsibility, the less control the individual has over his day to day job and life, the worse our driving will be on the Road.


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Many years ago the nicest fellow, Carter the kind and good, took some peices from a Winnie-the-Pooh toy his younger brother was trying to assemble. He was jealous about the toy. There are lots of toys in his room. He didn't even want the Pooh car, but out of frustration he made sure the set wouldn't be complete.
Keith is the only one who hasn't spoiled his brother's toys, and that's probably because there was no one beneath him on the food chain.

It's funny how a little rot is passed down from head to head. And if the Good were not passed also, I'd be writing this from a cell.

There are some toys in the house, the most loved, which have fought the battle of Good vs Evil, and met the challenge of wether or not Life is worth living. Isn't that amazing? A little toy carrying all of us on its shoulders. They must be selling some powerful toys these days....

They want the toy to work. It's that simple. Getting to that event is not. My boys work for money. They do their chores and expect a reward. They save and wish, and eventually buy themselves what they wanted. If that toy doesn't work right, to them, the contract is broken. Those are real tears, and a window for some parenting.

The kids want to know; doesn't anything work in this world?
Let's imagine you teach your children to keep their toys in proper perspective; school, hunger, war and national borders are much more important. That's good. They don't cry over toys anymore. But the question remains, it might even show up on the Freeway years later, or in gun collecting, or....


Hold onto yourself and your loved ones, because the toys fail every time. Tools fail. Jobs are incomplete. Men fail. The rules of the road can be lodged, but will never be obeyed.

The most important things to keep can't be held or seen.

You know that years later, sometimes a part or two shows up and we can actually assemble the Winnie The Pooh picnic set? The Munk Brothers laugh with a kind of joy when that happens, knowing themselves just a little better.


munk
 
Ever take the time to put together one of those 1500-piece puzzles, only to discover that the one last piece you need to complete the puzzle is gone? Sometimes, one of the boys is the culprit. Other times, it was never there from the beginning. It's really hard to enjoy a sense of accomplishment without that last piece, but that should not be the case.

I see the toy thing with my boys a lot. I think it goes back to the notion that one's success means the other's failure. If he puts together that toy and gets to enjoy the satisfaction of playing with it, that means I don't. Therefore, I must prevent his completion of the task. Some folks never learn to delight in the success of others. That's a tough one.

(I do things while driving alone that I never do when I have passengers. Not good, but true.)

Eric
 
Thanks Munk. I love watching my girls when they get together. They are close and enjoy each others company and watch out for each other. They have learned to hold on to the important things. Probably their mothers doing. What you are doing now will show up when they grow up. They are lucky to have you for their Dad. God bless your family and please keep reminding us of the small things, the important things.
Terry
 
Great point about the traffic, Munk. I was nearly killed today by a motorist. Not a fender-bender nor would I have been badly hurt. No, I would have been crushed or thrown broadside into on coming traffic.

I live in suburbia. Ah, suburbia, the place where you strip away the humanity of "home" and cram as many people as you can into identical houses. I have always hated the idea of living in such a place, but for our budget a house out in our neighborhood was both practical and convenient.

Every morning, I ride my motorcycle the 5.1 miles from home to work. The main drag that I and everyone else must traverse is a two lane road. For decades, it was nothing more than a farm road with a few houses dotting the sides from time to time. Little and modest, and sometimes no more than a double wide. Fast forward and expanse has taken root. 2 or 3 medium level income subdivisions and 6 or 7 upper level income "estates" now choke the road. It doesn't matter what time you leave, you are always a pain in the ass to someone else trying to get someplace 5 minutes sooner. The posted limit is 45. It was DROPPED from 50 after a number of accidents. I ride at 50 and I'm tailgated the entire trip. Normally, I can deal with this. The doofus in the Lexus behind me won't hit the potholes like I will. They stay back and deal with the flow of things for the entire 3 mile straight...most of the time.

There is a point where I can take a side road to the left that leads me right to my office. Plus, it takes me off the congested road and the following highway. Today, as I slow down to a "crawl" of 30mph to turn off left, just by chance or the grace of God I look in my mirror as a Benz doing no less than 70 passes THREE cars AND myself in the incoming lane (in a no-passing zone to boot) to hurry up and wait in the mess of cars and trucks just 1/4 of a block in front of us. Had I taken the turn, I would have been destroyed. Blinked out and gone. For what? So that some dumb@$$ could get to work on time? Why are people so self absorbed?

I dodged one today. I won't forget it. The wife and I had a fight over something stupid last night. We made up, as always. However, her last words of the argument were chilling. "I'm sorry, honey. I was taking things out on you. I don't want you to be mad at me. I love you. You never know what day will be your last."
 
I've always enjoyed the stories that follow one of mine. That's the best.
We're all writing the Big Story.

Jake, I've had too many almost 'wink outs'. Chilling.


munk
 
Munk, you always use the most mundane observations to make the most profound points about humanity and life. Thank you for your continued writing. I know that your posts always demand my immediate attention.

Chris
 
"It's funny how a little rot is passed down from head to head. And if the Good were not passed also, I'd be writing this from a cell."

Very true. It's been known for a while too - not just to the "family of origin" counselors who think they'd discovered the truism. Couple thousand years ago, the writer of the Book of Deuteronomy observed that whether we mean to or not, blessings and curses are passed on from generation to generation. "Therfore," he said, "choose life." That is, try to pass on the good stuff, to the degree you can.

Sometimes, broken stuff can be re-made into new. I like that illustration you used; finding pieces of a toy that had been hidden ... and laughing at what it tells you about yourself.

This past weekend, my brother and his two boys came to visit. Oldest graduated from high school last June - we decided to do something to mark the transition. I had an old file that had been my late Dad's - their Grandpa's - that had dropped to the floor sometime last winter and broken in two.

Thanks to what I'd learned at this place, we made that broken file into two short knives - one for each of the boys. Ground and tempered the blades like Sarge taught us with his po'boy pukkos. Poured a cast pewter bolster for one of them, like I'd learned to do when I rehandled the KPH/Sarge knife I'd bought from Yangdu a long time back. Sewed up wet-formed leather sheaths using a tutorial I'd found from ages ago in the archives here, spiced with comments I remember Fiddleback making in other threads.

The knives look rough (their first tries, after all), but you should have seen the lads' eyes. And they've gone home with something that speaks to them of 3 generations of men in our clan. They're camping on the way home, and doubtless I'll soon hear how well the new tools performed.

Broken stuff can be made whole. There's always the option to "choose life."
 
As you know, Tom, our hearts understand one another. I look forward to your posts because no matter how I've said something, you find ways to say it fresh and from your own world. It's a world we enjoy. I'm glad I'm back and can talk to my friends once more.
..oh heck- if I'm talking about writers and communicators I'd better mention Nam- the kid I'd be if I had it to do over again. He and Ad Astra write better than I did at their age.

It's not the folks who can turn a phrase that makes these threads worthwhile, though, and we all know that. I'll just say again I like the Big Story.
That's the one I can't ever get tired of reading.

munk
 
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