I'd like to see more people's views on this topic.
Living in the City, many women I know are, or at least, try to be, pretty alert most of the time. Though I see them missing things quite frequently. I know my girlfriend is usually more alert than I am, but she is alerted by and notices different things than I do. I'll try to pay attention to what specific differences there are, if I can. She usually carries a knife, but it's more often than not in a backpack style purse, when I take it out and put it in her pocket she just rolls her eyes at me. But when walking through Oakland (where she lives) at night, she will often have a folder or auto (which I won't carry, but she will) in her hand. When I feel slightly unsafe, I will slide my knife part way out of my pocket, to make it quicker to grab, but I have yet to take it out and hold it closed; while she does this on certain streets, I would only do it as a reaction to a very specific (perceived) threat.
I also know a lot of women who are just completely trusting and oblivious, and I fear for them.
My roommate is the kind of woman who will bark, but not bite, and probably wouldn't run until it was too late. She doesn't take advice.
Most of the men I know are not very alert, assuming that if something comes up they will be able to handle it. There've been many instances when I felt unsafe, due to the general social environment more so than due to a particular individual or group, and my male friends didn't seem to notice a thing. This is when I wonder if I'm paranoid or they're oblivious. Overall I don't feel that I'm too paranoid though.
I would really like to see more people post their observations here, as it is an important topic which doesn't get addressed often enough.
And could someone break down for me the rainbow of alertness/aggression.
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Jason aka medusaoblongata
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"I have often laughed at the weaklings who call themselves kind because they have no claws"
- Zarathustra
[This message has been edited by medusaoblongata (edited 08-09-2000).]