Curve Balls

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I was reading Mike's thread about the old "Who owns a Busse knife..." thread, and found this, posted by me on February 28, 2002.

"Electrical Engineer, also picked up an MBA. Former Manager of Metering Services for Alabama Power Company. In the right place at the right time for a management forces reduction buyout last spring, so find myself retired at age 55."

At the time that was written, I was set financially for a comfortable, if not lavish, retirement, was not yet adjusted to not having a job to go to every day, and was somewhat at loose ends. The remainder of life seemed to stretch out in a defined path. Frankly, I was bored, but trying hard to occupy myself with church work, my recreational interests, and accumulating Busse knives. I had no idea that looming just 5 months away was the beginning of the most important job I have ever had. July 14, 2002, Kim's hit and run occurred. Ahead of me was the beginning of two long years of waiting at bedside, in a hospital and a nursing home, trying to see that Kim received the care she needed and doing everything my imagination could dream up to provide stimulation to Kim in the hopes that some day she would look at me, smile again, and communicate. Now I have been thankfully relegated to being her driver, financial manager, and an ever less needed caretaker.

One thing that life has taught me is that, just when you are absolutely positive that things are going to play out in a certain way, life will always throw you a curve ball. You have three choices, hit the thing, whiff it, or let it knock you down. And there will always be another curve ball coming. Circumstances will always change. Life will not stand still. The only fatal mistake is to refuse to get up to bat again.

And if you wait for the perfect time and circumstance to buy that Busse knife you want, you may never buy it.:D
 
One of the best posts I've read on BF. Kudos to you, Mike.
 
I was reading Mike's thread about the old "Who owns a Busse knife..." thread, and found this, posted by me on February 28, 2002.

"Electrical Engineer, also picked up an MBA. Former Manager of Metering Services for Alabama Power Company. In the right place at the right time for a management forces reduction buyout last spring, so find myself retired at age 55."

At the time that was written, I was set financially for a comfortable, if not lavish, retirement, was not yet adjusted to not having a job to go to every day, and was somewhat at loose ends. The remainder of life seemed to stretch out in a defined path. Frankly, I was bored, but trying hard to occupy myself with church work, my recreational interests, and accumulating Busse knives. I had no idea that looming just 5 months away was the beginning of the most important job I have ever had. July 14, 2002, Kim's hit and run occurred. Ahead of me was the beginning of two long years of waiting at bedside, in a hospital and a nursing home, trying to see that Kim received the care she needed and doing everything my imagination could dream up to provide stimulation to Kim in the hopes that some day she would look at me, smile again, and communicate. Now I have been thankfully relegated to being her driver, financial manager, and an ever less needed caretaker.

One thing that life has taught me is that, just when you are absolutely positive that things are going to play out in a certain way, life will always throw you a curve ball. You have three choices, hit the thing, whiff it, or let it knock you down. And there will always be another curve ball coming. Circumstances will always change. Life will not stand still. The only fatal mistake is to refuse to get up to bat again.

And if you wait for the perfect time and circumstance to buy that Busse knife you want, you may never buy it.:D


Mike, your and Kim's story is TRULY inspiring...

You and Kim give life examples to many... The lessons taught to you by your family, to Kim by you, and to us through your posts and by example are POWERFUL.

Write the story in a book, I'll buy it. :D :thumbup:

Sincerely,

John
Believer
 
Mike,

Excellent post but I think it was a "Fast Ball" low and inside that you hit out of the park.
Your and Kim's story is an inspiration to us all. :thumbup:

Sincerely,
dave & robin
 
Mine wasn't so much a curve as it was a blatent kick.

Had a similar life shake up just one year ago. Had a stable life, good wife, both of us had great jobs, 2 little girls and 15 years together under our belts. Wife hadn't been feeling good for a few months but just couldn't put a finger on what the heck was wrong. One doc said this, one said that, the next said something completely different. This went on until the first week of Oct. 05, flu like symptoms hit her hard. Went in to hospital for 2 days of tests, CAT scans, ultrasounds, spinal tap, and God knows what else, kinda lost track. finally at 10:30pm on a tues. night, heart specialist came along and said "looks like a Viral infection, probably in the heart, nothing major and pretty common". Finally a kinda straight answer! Kissed wife goodnight at 11pm, went to pick up kids from in-laws and went home. 2 hours later, wife suffered a massive cardiac arrest, destroyed her heart. The doctor's put her on life support, commendeered a Air force Hercules transport plane to fly her and an entire surgical team up to Edmonton hospital, (premier transplant center in western canada), spent 3 days and numerous attempts, with a doner heart and the best of everything we could throw at her, but in the end could not save her. She was 34. Even now I can't describe this without bawling all over the keyboard. My daughters were 4 & 7 when this happened, I was only 42.

Insurance saved my butt, but it doesn't do much for providing a loving mother for the girls, or a companion. That was one year ago. I've since been blessed with the support and guidance of some wonderful friends, and have a new lady in my life to help me carry on and raise a family. You talk about what really matters, I can relate! I've been to hell and back, but I still believe and if anything, moreso than before. If I have learned anything out of this, it's that life is too damn short. If there's something out there you want to do / chase / be, do it now. Tomorrow may never come.

Blaine.
 
If there's something out there you want to do / chase / be, do it now. Tomorrow may never come.

Blaine.

How true. Sorry for your loss brother. May time, friends, and loved ones help ease your pain.

Wife and I have had our worlds individually rocked by cancer, but after the first time we knew full well what was important in this ol' life.

Be sure to tell those you love that you do, and do it regularly, so they always know. Tell them now.

We don't know if we have the next minute.
 
Inspiring words Mike.

As a civil engineer with an MBA in a municipal management position, your words ring loud and clear to me. I only recently retired and was remployed at my workplace.

I reflect on my wife's current battle with bladder cancer. Like you and Skunk, we remain thankful for the things that matter - our 20 years of blissful life together, two wonderful boys in their early teens to keep us busy, and each and every day that God lets us enjoy this earth.
 
THIS is why the Busse forum is the way it is!! Family. I know I'll hug my wife a little tighter tonoght. Thanks and good luck to everybody in the future as it's just been made alot more preciuos.

Bob Mills
 
Mike, Kim & Blaine.

You guys are an inspiration and a reminder to savor every opportunity life gives you. Few things are guaranteed, so appreciate your blessings. I am proud to be a father, a husband and a member of this community.

God bless, guys.
 
Thanks for a hugely inspirational post. You, as well as others here who have previously shared inspiring events from their lives, really put things in perspective. Great job!:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
 
Both of your posts tug at the heartstrings. It somehow seems that when you are really challenged with adversity, only then do you truly find that inner strength. My hat's off to all three of you.

Cheers,
Art
 
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