Ya, stop listening to the directions!
Here's what you'll do instead. Take your Sebenza, and put some black Sharpie marker on the edge. Put the gray stones in the 30-degree slots. Now take 10 swipes on each side, and look back at the edge again. Chances are, the marker is worn away up at the top of the edge, but remains at the bottom of the edge -- this is a graphic illustration of the fact that you're not really sharpening yet, just removing metal to get to that point. Now, spend a few minutes working just one side of the knife, then switch and work the other side of the knife. You should be able to visually check the magic marker, and see that you're slowly getting closer and closer to the edge.
Now, since this is your first time, once you start getting close to the edge (i.e., most of the magic marker is worn away), you may want to switch the stones to the 40-degree slots. Once you do that, progress will be much quicker. What you want to do is work just one side of the knife until a burr forms along the entire edge on the opposite side. At that point, the magic marker will be all worn away, and the burr is an indication that you've finally reached the very edge. When you sharpen all the way to the very edge, it becomes so thin that it bends over -- this is the burr, and you can feel it with your thumb along the opposite side of the blade.
Now, switch blade sides and repeat -- just sharpen that side only until the magic marker is completely gone and you can feel a burr along the entire opposite side.
Okay, now that you've raised a burr on both sides, you can start doing what the Sharpmaker video tells you to -- do one stroke on one side, then switch sides for the next stroke. Do these smooth, and progressively lighten up on the pressure. Switch to the white fine stones and repeat, again progressively lightening up on the pressure. We're keeping a light touch because what we're doing now is trying to grind the burr off -- too much pressure and it keeps re-forming.
When you're happy with the results, here's the last step. Tilt the spine of the blade slightly towards the inside of the V stones, so that the angle is raised just a few degrees. Take one stroke down, using almost no pressure, just the weight of the knife. Switch to the other stone and repeat. This will hopefully finish off the burr. If it doesn't, strop it on some leather or your jeans.
Joe