EDC scenario: should I have helped her?

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Lennyo3034

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So I was at a wedding this past weekend and was unsure whether or not to use my knife to help someone. I was waiting in line at the bar when one of two girls in front of me noticed a stand of fiber coming from her dress. She needed something to cut it off, wishing for someone with scissors. Her friend responded with something like "good luck finding someone with scissors or anything sharp at a wedding", to which the girl agreed it was highly unlikely. At this point, I decided these two were clearly sheeple, and I wasn't sure if they would be greatful for the help, or scared that I had a knife. This is compounded by my carry choice that day as I had my Benchmade 810 contego clipped to my suit. I had just sharpened it that day on the edge pro to a hair whittling edge. No way was I going to give it to them to cut it themselves, she'd end up with a strandless but red stained dress. I decided to keep quiet and let them figure it out themselves.

For what it's worth, the two girls were not very attactive.
 
You should have carried a LM Micra. They would have thought the little guy was cute. Next to puppies a Micra is the best "chick-magnet" ;)
 
A simple match or cigarette lighter would have taken care of that....it's what we always did in the Army when we found "Irish Pennants" on our uniforms and gear.
 
Shotgun said:
She probably would have been grateful for your help. Not everyone is scared of knives.



Does it matter? You only help attractive people?
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Unfortunately I live in the people's republic of Maryland, where people have gotten scared when I used much smaller knives in the past. In fact it happens almost every time I pull one out to use it in public, quite sad. I'd hate to see their reactions if they knew I was CC a firearm.

The attractiveness comment was a poor attempt at humor. If they were guys, I probably would have helped.
 
I have a Victorinox Super Tinker which has little scissors. I agree with Jeff, chicks dig it! I have impressed the ladies here at work on a couple of occasions. Not having a scissor tool handy, you did the right thing. Most young ladies (attractive or not) do not think of a knife as a "sewing tool" and thus would, at minimum, be taken aback by "taking a knife to a scissor fight"...if you will.
 
I def would have helped her out, she probably would just think that's its how all guys are to carry a knife like that, maybs even sexay
 
In such a situation I would have asked if they wanted help, mentioned that I had a knife, and offered to cut the string for her if she would have wanted me to. Whether they were attractive or not shouldn't alter my interactions with them.
 
philllll said:
At this point in your post, I decided you have watched too many Nutnfancy videos.
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This is true. I don't even like him, but his videos (and those from others) are just so fun to watch.

That and I've been hanging out in the Busse forum. Some of those guys would think it would be perfectly appropriate to pull out a Battle Mistress for the job.
 
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Lennyo3034 said:
So I was at a wedding this past weekend and was unsure whether or not to use my knife to help someone. I was waiting in line at the bar when one of two girls in front of me noticed a stand of fiber coming from her dress. She needed something to cut it off, wishing for someone with scissors. Her friend responded with something like "good luck finding someone with scissors or anything sharp at a wedding", to which the girl agreed it was highly unlikely. At this point, I decided these two were clearly sheeple, and I wasn't sure if they would be greatful for the help, or scared that I had a knife. This is compounded by my carry choice that day as I had my Benchmade 810 contego clipped to my suit. I had just sharpened it that day on the edge pro to a hair whittling edge. No way was I going to give it to them to cut it themselves, she'd end up with a strandless but red stained dress. I decided to keep quiet and let them figure it out themselves.

For what it's worth, the two girls were not very attactive.
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i work at a resort where we do a crazy amount of weddings. the staff have ben with me for 5 years and they all know i always have a knife. and a few times have asked for it to cut something for a wedding guest. every time i give them the same answer, sorry i cant do that.

if i was attending the wedding i probably wouldnt hesitate if they were attractive. but not knowing them i would probably keep quiet
 
I wouldve cut it. I can care less if I "scare" someone with my knife. Especially a wedding, what would they have done? I recently used my 581 to cut some food for my son at a resturant, an old, old lady looked over and just smiled. I think its the manner of how you use it.
 
Yes, you should have helped her. That's what EDC knives are for, cutting stuff that needs cutting.

Lennyo3034 said:
For what it's worth, the two girls were not very attactive... The attractiveness comment was a poor attempt at humor. If they were guys, I probably would have helped.
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Why does any of that matter?

Lennyo3034 said:
She needed something to cut it off, wishing for someone with scissors. Her friend responded with something like "good luck finding someone with scissors or anything sharp at a wedding", to which the girl agreed it was highly unlikely.
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Let me get this straight, they were looking for a sharp cutting implement for a completely normal task, and you somehow decided they were "sheeple"? You passed up a perfectly good chance to be a gentleman and also reinforce the fact that knives are handy tools to have around.
 
Cynic2701 said:
In such a situation I would have asked if they wanted help, mentioned that I had a knife, and offered to cut the string for her if she would have wanted me to. Whether they were attractive or not shouldn't alter my interactions with them.
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Exactly what I would have done. There's nothing wrong with asking if you could be of assistance. Regardless of how sharp it is or big it is (excluding maybe a few super intense options), plenty of people would have just been happy for the assistance. 99% of the knife fear people have is how they are used and being caught off guard. Asking effectively fixes this.
 
NjHart said:
Exactly what I would have done. There's nothing wrong with asking if you could be of assistance. Regardless of how sharp it is or big it is (excluding maybe a few super intense options), plenty of people would have just been happy for the assistance. 99% of the knife fear people have is how they are used and being caught off guard. Asking effectively fixes this.
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Yeah, you're right here. Will note that for next time. Although I'd say the 810 contego is bordering on one of those intense options. Was definitely a poor choice to go with my suit, however I had just sharpened it and was still fascinated by the edge.
 
Have you had previous experiences where people refused your help or responded negatively? If not, then you should try it next time. If you feel like the Contego is overkill for a little strand of fiber, choke up on the knife and pinch the blade right behind the tip. Not only is it easier to cut a small loose string like that, but it makes the knife look smaller and makes you look like you know what you're doing.
 
simioh said:
Have you had previous experiences where people refused your help or responded negatively? If not, then you should try it next time. If you feel like the Contego is overkill for a little strand of fiber, choke up on the knife and pinch the blade right behind the tip. Not only is it easier to cut a small loose string like that, but it makes the knife look smaller and makes you look like you know what you're doing.
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Yes, I have. Just last week, I was using a folding knife to cut a pizza at a restaurant since the slicer did a poor job. Woman walking by our table went all wide eyed and backed away. Another time in my front yard I was trimming a bush, but a few of the branches were too thick for the clippers so I hacked at them with a Busse. Got a comment from someone walking by and looked at me like I was crazy. Although they didn't back away.

I'm from Tennessee and these reactions would have never happened there. I'm station in Maryland now, and the overall feel is very different.
 
Poor knife choice for the occasion when a small Victorinx Classic would have been just the ticket. You don't need a tactical 4" blade knife for "cutting stuff". An EDC with a blade like that is a poor choice for most occasions in a city. Carry a small pocket knife and you won't have to post topics like this. Don't get me wrong, carry what you want but making comments about other people maybe freaking out and being "sheeple" because you carry such a large knife to a wedding is, well...
 
A lighter would have worked and not raise anyone's brow. Keep a LM Style PS on you. Handy little tool w/scissors.
 
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