How can I tell if my apex is messed up, or my angle is wrong?
Best way to tell, is to correlate how it's cutting with how the edge looks under good magnification (with BRIGHT light). It also helps greatly to use an example of a good or excellent cutting edge (if you have one that really impresses you) to compare, side by side with the knife you're sharpening, both in terms of cutting, and how the edge looks. At the most fundamental level, a 'good' cutting edge (as defined by one which cuts in obviously impressive fashion) will always, always look like a very clean & precise 'V' under magnification. The higher you can go in magnification, while still seeing a good-looking edge, the better. Bad edges will become glaringly obvious in their defects, when viewed at sufficiently high magnification. They really get ugly when viewed close-up. The best cutting edges will always look a little more impressive than mediocre edges under magnification. Look for a very crisp apex (the 'peak' of the 'V'), symmetry (even & balanced in shape) and irregularities on the edge itself (burrs, dents, etc.). If it doesn't look that pure (if it's rounded, flat on the apex, oddly shaped, asymmetrical, etc.), then it won't cut all that well either.
If the angle is 'wrong' as you say, it'll show up as either rounded (constantly varying the angle on every pass), or it'll have multiple bevels (perhaps one or more off-angle passes, after having previously been on track). OR, if there's an angle mis-match between sides, it'll look off-centered or asymmetrical.
And while sharpening, the easiest and most obvious indicator that the apex has been reached will be the formation of a burr along the entire length of the cutting edge. Even then, it's never a bad thing to take a magnified look at it, just to see that everything's in truly good shape, and ready to begin the refinement of the edge (removing the burr, at least).
David