Finn and others, what happened shocked me at how blind I had been to my own values and beliefs.
By myself in my truck, even without a permit I can and do legally keep weapons.
Around my family, in the family sedan, I did not keep firearms although it was legal. I must have been unthinkingly doing the safety bit, keeping wife and kids away from the guns.
When the experience went down, I was thinking of myself only in regards to the jeopardy to my wife and kid if I got taken out of the fight or bought the farm.
On your own, if you buy it your wife and kid cry and go on. That's really the second reason to be able to defend yourself - your own safety.
THE FIRST REASON is that protecting your loved ones is absolutely paramount whatever happens to you. Go without defenses on your own, but do your obligation to protect the family by having the gun when you are with them. Even if your wife is uncomfortable to start with.
Please, think about this. Put yourself in my place and learn from it. Thanks.