Frustrated and Getting Impatient!

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Blade Babe

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Well guys I've been in Georgia for a little over a month now and I've been looking for a job ever since I got down here. I've sent my resume to over 25 companies and every single company has told me I am either over qualified or under qualified for their positions. This is getting ridiculous! And embarrassing at that. I have never had this much trouble finding a job.......EVER!

Then last Friday I had to drive over to Carrollton to get my new drivers license................I GOT SO FREAKING LOST! I had the worst road rage I've ever had. All the roads are so confusing down here and I'm usually pretty good with directions.

And on top of all that, the only family member that has called me since I've been gone is my dad! I am so frustrated it's ridiculous. I want to come home more than anything right now. I think I'm getting home sick. Maybe I'm just looking for an excuse to come home, I don't know. This move has been a huge change for me and I feel like I'm not ever going to get used to it.

I'm sorry for ranting but I don't want to burden Tony with this because he has a lot on his plate right now too. So anyway......thanks for letting me whine to you!

~Kassi~
 
Hey BB!

Don't give up yet! take it from someone who has basically moved to a new local every 3 years. It IS FRIGGIN' HARD! And Scary! Change is not easy for us to deal with... period!

Maybe a visit home would do your should some good... take a little stress off and put you in an environment that's comfortable... this will give you a chance to clear your head from what I call "head trash"... and look at everything objectively. The job market is tough despite all that the news tells us. With time and persistence you WILL conquer.

From experience… it take a good few months to settle in… finding new friends (which don’t come over night) helps this too. Give it time, your pain will ease! I promise! ;)

Foo
 
I know how you feel. I moved 3600 miles from home with my mom and brother to Alaska. It's a huge difference and the only family I talk to is my dad and grandma every week or two. On the job situation, it may take up to 3 months. Be persistent. It sucks, but keep at it. As for the driving, it may help if you can drive around a bit and maybe even pick up a local map so you can see where things are. If you have to, use yahoo map to get directions so you can become a bit more familiar with one set route. As for not knowing anyone, maybe look into a local church. If I didn't attend church, I would have no one around to talk to or hang out with. It may also lift up your spirits.

Take it one day at a time and remember you can always come here to chat with your other family :)

Bryan
 
Kassi -

The 'Foo and KAAK are right - from your perspective it has taken 'too long' for things to fall into place, but it really does take a while (months and months) for all of it to come together. Keep up the fight, things are bound to change for you. The only time I have ever seen things not work out in a situation like yours is when the person or people involved quit trying and don't maintain the positive outlook. Not to sound like Dr. Phil or anything, that's just been my experience. I moved to a new place once and it took about 13 months for me to finally stop wishing I wasn't there, but it turned out to be one of my favorite places ever....
 
B.B.,
I moved from NJ to Los Angeles about ten years ago. I am still trying to get use to it out here:eek: . I have been very fortunate and would not have the life I have today if I didn't move. Be patient, sometimes you don't get 100% use to it, but before you know it, you will be settled in nicely!!!!:D

rjd
 
Carrollton is a little weird in the way it has expanded over the years. You'll get the hang of it though.

You should swing by the Maple Street Mansion to kick back a few tasty adult beverages. You'll feel much better. :D

The job'll come. Just keep trying.
 
Blade Babe said:
Well guys I've been in Georgia for a little over a month now and I've been looking for a job ever since I got down here. I've sent my resume to over 25 companies and every single company has told me I am either over qualified or under qualified for their positions. This is getting ridiculous! And embarrassing at that. I have never had this much trouble finding a job.......EVER!
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Dumb down your application and go back there. Keep after them, tell them you will work less hard than you normally would. Find a basic job just to get the ball rolling. The problem with being unemployed is that you have too much free time on your hands. I was unemployed earlier this year for 4 months and had to part with some infi. I would sleep 12-14hrs a night because I had nothing else to do. It sucked struggling by, not having a purpose or reason to get up.

FIND YOUR PURPOSE!!! Each day, find a goal or plan and follow through with it. Whether it be finding 3 chinese food restaurants and a gas station, or making it a point to learn the routes to wally world, grocery store, etc... Look for the local job bank center. I went to one that helped me build a resume for free (They get gov't grants) and had job tips, interviewing tips, and the local help wanted ads. Also, they had a state job data base of openings.

Make yourself out to be like infi. Strong, sharp, quick... You get beat down, you simply laugh at it. Your coating may get worn down, but it adds character. You need to find the right boss/owner for your talents. As for family, same as infi. Sometimes you are the most sought out prize in the trough, other times you are in the safe for months, but remember one thing... You may feel like you are in a safe, but you will always be the most prized piece in that collection of life. Don't let yourself get discouraged.

If you are feeling down a bit, force yourself to get out. Set up a daily "visit" list of 10 jobs you want and make it a point to turn in your application/resume to that place. Visit back to those places a day or so aftewards for a follow up. Be persistant and see it as a challenge and not a down fall. Come on now... If you have worked for Jerry, you can work for anyone (Sorry Jerry ;) :D ).

Now, I know the above is easier to say than do. I have been there with others suggesting/telling me what to do and that they have no idea what they are talking about, or don't understand what you are going through. Just know that your family loves, we all care about you and if you need someone to chat with, we're here. You could also look into using a messenger online to keep in contact with family. Sometimes it's easier for them to be online, then to pay long distance (I know it's cheap to call LD). Get a calling card and maybe set up a time each week where you get to have time to talk to the family members you want to. That way, you get refreshed (Real Life F5) and can keep on keepin' on.


-Dr. KoinK- :D
 
KnifeAddictAK said:
.... FIND YOUR PURPOSE!!! Each day, find a goal or plan and follow through with it. Whether it be finding 3 chinese food restaurants and a gas station, or making it a point to learn the routes to wally world, grocery store, etc... Look for the local job bank center. I went to one that helped me build a resume for free (They get gov't grants) and had job tips, interviewing tips, and the local help wanted ads. Also, they had a state job data base of openings...
-Dr. KoinK- :D
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KAAK... This is really good advise!!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: Nice!
 
Look for all the local bars and liquor stores as well, so when we go down for Blade 2007 we can get some pigs nose instead of Jerry having to lug 10 cases down next year.:thumbup:
 
Kassi,

When the going gets tough, just remember all the heavy panting calls you endured from the nuts on this forum looking for their INFI fix!!!! Between us and Jerry, I'm sure you've seen much worse than this little slow down. :eek:

Keep at the job stuff. Until that works out, see the extra time on your hands as an opportunity - explore the area, do something you've never had time for, whatever. It might also help to network with people in a social setting. If you like to run ("run" being interpreted loosely) you might try this group:
http://www.atlantahash.com/ Basically involves roaming from place to place in search of beer. I'm not familiar with the atlanta group specifically, but Hashes tend to be a diverse collection of good people - not unlike this forum. They might also have a group closer to where you live. Anyway, the point is to keep your mind active and your outlook positive. You know you can do it!
 
Good luck in your new home Kassie. :thumbup:

Remember there’s always a door that opens somewhere, it might just take a little time. I still remember a lot of years ago hitchhiking out west with a swag and my saddle in a bag, my luck was down to the point where if there were no vehicles coming along I’d cross over to the other side and go the other way. :D

Something always seemed to turn up eventually though. ;):D
Ian.
 
Thanks guys for the nice advice! Great, now I'm crying! This is the closest I've felt to home in awhile! Thanks guys!

One of you really put a smile on my face! I appreciate it!

(Of course you all make me smile! Just in case you were feeling neglected!!:D ;) )

Thanks Again!!

~Kassi~
 
Kassi,

Hold in there and listen to the good advice of Dr. Bryan KoinK. The only thing I'd add is eat well and get some exercise. Just put the little one in the stroller and get some fresh air. The four walls of home can feel confining and the air rotten. Find a big leafy park and breath deeply. Find a pile of leaves and jump on in. Put the blanket down and ponder the clouds. That always makes a good day to me.

Cheers,
Bill :D
 
It'll all work out and if you get bored, I'm sure skunk will have a virtual pillow fight with you. :D

And if you ever need to chat, vent, kill time, whatever... We're here and you can drop me an email. I have no life and am always up for chatting. Psssssssst.... There's always death chat too ;) :D
 
Sorry to keep kickin' the horse (Not anyone in here), but a thought just occured to me. I know that you posted that you didn't want to talk to your husband because he has enough to deal with. I can understand this which brings me to my next point.

When it comes to friends, be careful. Make sure you don't over trust someone, but make them your friend over time through tests and trials. What I am saying is, that you are in an ackward (Spelling that word is a pain) state of emotions with being home sick and you may be wanting a friend to connect with badly enough that you will open up sooner than you should. I have done this in the past and wound up badly. So, no matter how much you need someone to talk too, make sure it's someone you can trust. There are, sadly, people out there that will notice you're feeling a void and will try to exploit that. Friends are out there for you, just keep your guard up and take care of yourself. Trust your instincts and carry a busse :D (Not jerry though, he's busy with a kid right now) :D

Anyway, I should be done posting in here. The thought just occured to me and I wanted to post it. Emotions and stress can make us let our guards down and I don't want you getting hurt or used or anything of that matter.


Oh yeah... I just spoke to my lawyer. I am to state the following:

Ahem.... *clears throat*... Due to recent matters, I am forced to state that I am not a doctor, nor associated with one. But I did stay at a holiday inn last night.


Bryan
KAAK
 
It certainly does help to talk to your friends...even your virtual ones.

But don't forget to be honest with your husband. He can't help if he doesn't understand -- and just bringing it up might help him air (and deal with) some of his own concerns. Believe me, he has some!

Moving is tough. I spent almost 30 years in the military, and I don't want to tell you how many moves that was. My friends, my wife, and the 'institution' kept me going all that time.

Looking back, there were more good times than bad ones. A lot more.

Hang in!
 
Kassi, me & my wife live only about 8or10 miles from you, we live in Dallas, Ga.we are slightly northwest of you. let us know what type of job you are looking for & maybe we can help! Eric knows me!
 
Tim the Slugman said:
Kassi, me & my wife live only about 8or10 miles from you, we live in Dallas, Ga.we are slightly northwest of you. let us know what type of job you are looking for & maybe we can help! Eric knows me!
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That's what I'm talking about!

Which other piglets live in/around GA?

BTW, I live in the real 'Dallas', Texas that is! :D :thumbup:

And, Kassi, look for the silver lining... I mean, today when I was in the recovery room after a quick knee procedure, the nurse was saying 'Your day will get better, you'll be ok' and I told her 'I've had much worse days than this', and I have. She thought is was bad that they cut on me, and I thought is was good that the problem was repaired (oh, and the pharmaceuticals):D :thumbup:

I agree, also, that Ohio and Georgia are a little apart in more than geographics. Perhaps time will help, and forumites can't hurt!

Just sniff out the INFI! :D :thumbup:

Best regards,

John
 
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