Bobby, I have no idea what you are going through and won’t pretend to say the worst words - “I understand how you feel.”
But I will say I’m so sorry for what you are dealing with. It certainly seems like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders and I hate it. If I could change things for you, I would in a heartbeat.
As a minister I must default to quoting scripture, Philippians 4: 6, 7- “Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers, by means of Christ Jesus.”
In other words, prayer and supplication does not change reality, but can change YOU to face reality with courage and emotional stability. I hope the best for you brother and am happy to talk if you need someone to vent to. I hope your boy makes it out ok.