I learned to sharpen watching my Dad, Granddad, Uncles and neighbours. They all had knives and everyone sharpened, some decidedly better than others but everyone could get a knife sharp enough to skin and butcher with.
When I got my first knife, at about 5, I was given a small 2 x 6 double sided wet stone. That was my first real introduction. Of course I borrowed my fathers stones as often as I could, oil and wet stones. He had great stones most he still has or replacements for them.
As I got older (9 13) of course I went looking for the easier, quicker, fancier, new, improved, guarantee sharp or your money back thing. Trust me such a gadget does NOT exist. Knowing this even from that age I still succumb to gadgets just some reason I have to try them. They all wind up in the same box or a new one as the old one becomes full
I got serious about sharpening when I started sharpening straight razors and microtome knives in my teens. Doing these by hand is truly taking sharpening to an entirely new level. Serious sharpening requires good stones, abrasives, strops, and polishing mediums. You dont need the same level for knives that you do for a razor or a microtome knife.
If you want SHARP knives look no further than Edge Pro, the Apex or the Pro, these are the ultimate in sharpening systems. Their only purpose is sharp edges and you will get that. The Apex is available from various dealers. The Pro is only available from Edge Pro Inc. Buying either the Apex or the Pro Id deal with Edge Pro directly. Their service is absolutely the best. You might find the Apex a few bucks cheaper elsewhere but you will never beat the service of Edge Pro. Ben Dale knows sharpening inside and out. Want to know how good your knife can be contact Ben and ask about his demonstration service, you send in a knife hell sharpen it and send it back to you for the cost of postage. You will be amazed I guarantee that.
If you want to sharpen with bench stones I suggest you do some reading first. Three books I strongly recommend. The Complete Guide To Sharpening by Leonard Lee, The Razor Edge Book of Sharpening by John Juranitch, Sharpening Made Easy by Steve Bottorff. Steves book condenses a lot of knowledge into an easy to use reference and covers a lot that is in the other two. If I had to buy one it would be Steves (check out Steves web site lots of information there). John Juranitchs book in some ways is a plug for his Razor Edge System but it does have a lot of good advice in it. Leonard Lees book is just great to have and has more information than Ive yet been able to digest fully. I read and re-read parts of it frequently.
If you want hands on training Steve's sharpening school might be the answer. I looked into it but the distance for me to get there was just a tad too far. Other hands on training can be had from Culinary Schools you may be able to audit just the sharpening portion of the class at a school for very little cost. Or check out woodworking classes. While sharpening wood working tools aren't knives the basics are the same.
If you want to start with bench stones, I suggest a basic Razor Edge System that will set you back about fifty bucks. The guide will help you learn angle control and you wont wreck too many blades in learning. Tip one. Learn on knives you dont mind scuffing up and scratching. Go to a second hand store and buy a half a dozen knives. Fair size chefs knives with wide flat blades and fairly straight edges are easiest to learn on. (Major curves or re-curves in learning to sharpen are best avoided in the beginning. The frustration alone can throw you off.)
Once you get to holding angles consistently you will be able to do without the guide and then you can begin getting into collecting stones from around the globe, the esoteric water stones, polishing media and the witch craft of sharpening. (sure sharpening under a full moon at midnight with a black cat and the chin whiskers of a goat will give you sharper edges but having to buy night vision goggles to do it kind of takes the fun away dont you think?)
Sharpening isnt difficult. It isnt rocket science. Sharpening is removing metal from the edge till it is thin, if you sharpen on both sides (double bevel) then when the edges meet and join it will be thin. Thin cuts. Paper will cut because its thin it just doesnt hold up well craving a turkey for some reason. Though it takes wonderful whacks out of my fingers very frequently.