How do you move states, change jobs, and buy a home all with a family?

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Here's the deal:

My wife and I (and baby) live in Montana and want to move closer to where our parents are in Kentucky, and want to do so in about a year to year and a half (I have some commitments to fulfill at my current job). We want our daughter and future kids to grow up close to their grandparents who live 40 miles from each other. We do not own a home, but we rent. We want a small house of our own soon after we move and want to live in the town between the grandparents.

The problem is do I move in with my parents for a couple of months to do job searching?

or do I do job searching from 2200 miles away and fly in for a few interviews I set up in the same week?

It is hard to get a new job from so far away, and yet I want to limit the time I might have to stay with my folks...and I am limited to a few towns close to the grandparents.

We have never owned a home (rent instead) and we want to buy a house, but I am not sure how soon we can get into one after the move, and we have very little savings right now for a down-payment (my wife has been a stay at home mom). With the right job, we can get into a house within a year, but should we just rent or try to live with family to save as much $$$ as possible for a house? (rent seems like wasting so much money)???

Usually, people who move do so b/c they find an awesome job and go to that town. I want to move for my family to a specific place and have no leads on a job or a house!

Does anyone have some advice? thanks...
 
Sounds like you have housing flexibility which is great, so I'd suggest when you're comfortable start you job search before you move and have them look for you too.

I wouldn't be in a hurry to buy a house, but that's me.
 
Start saving NOW. Start an account for just this and find ways to get every dime possible into it.

The parents have the room and don't mind you landing on them for an indefinete time?

Use the internet to check out housing and jobs in the area.

Monster and hotjobs....use the online newspapers too.
 
I agree with Dave.

Search for a job now, and see what is available in that area. Then you can narrow things down as you get close to the time that you want to move.

I also suggest you obtain rental listings in the area that you want to live in, and narrow that down as well. Don't be in a hurry to buy a house just in case the new job doesn't work out, and you need to move again.

As for living with parents /in laws for a short time, that may be an option, but I certainly don't recommend it. Too chaotic, and older folks have settled into a routine that does not include others, so living with them would be a disruption for all of you.

Good luck on your job search.
 
How well do you get along with your parents? ;) My wife and I did something similar to what you are contemplating before we had kids - and we had no problems at all (in fact, my wife always got along better with MY mother than she did her own). But our move wasn't job related. Right now, my own kids (24 and 28) have moved back home and we have no problems. Never had.

However, I have friends who still can't spend more than an hour with their parents before they are arguing about something or other. Make an honest assessment of your relationship (and that of your wife) with your parents and base the decision on that.

The short version: do it.

I have VERY few regrets in my life - but NOT doing what you are contemplating - work wise - is one of them.

I wish you the best of luck.
 
I think the job search depends a lot on the kind of work you are looking for. For some careers, I would suggest finding a job before you move. For others, it may not matter. What kind of work will you be looking for?

Another option is to have another kid or two. The grandparents will probably pack up and move to where ever you live just to see the grand kids more. ;)

By the way, where in Montana do you live? I grew up there and won't mind moving back sometime.
 
If the budget allows you might search for a local realtor that handles/specializes in corporate relocations. Although your situation varies from a strict corporate relocation, a lot of tips/referrals/help could be provided by one schooled in that genre of moving. Best of luck!:cool:
 
My $.02

Start job search now. Add "I'm especially interested in moving back to Kentucy since I grew up there. With family and friends there, I already feel part of the community." to your cover letter. Move in with babysitters, I mean parents.

Best of luck.
 
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