The key to not 'shrinking' your blade too much, when sharpening, is to make sure you keep up with the minimal touch-ups, when needed. If you really pay attention to the edge, more often than not a decent stropping will keep it sharp, and won't remove much steel at all from the edge. And then, if the strop doesn't quite do it, take very gentle 'baby steps' down in grit, until you find it's just enough to get the job done. It's all about giving the edge only what is exactly needed, and nothing more.
Blades lose a lot of steel when they've been neglected and/or abused for an excessively long time, requiring complete reshaping of the bevel to make them sharp again. And, inexperienced sharpeners usually tend to grind off a LOT more steel than is necessary, each time they 'touch-up' a blade's edge. That'll shorten the life of a blade more than anything.