How would you like to be remembered

kamkazmoto

kamkazmoto

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I am a semi-old fart of 61 years young who is very familiar with mortality. I sometimes wonder how I will be remembered by my family and friends. Will it be for my intelligence, kindness, stubbornness or stupidity. My grandson will probably remember that old man that always carried a knife:D . My son hopefully will have a more complete memory of my "unusual" personality. My wife and daughter, well you do try to make things go better the second time around.

Question for the Cantina: How would you like to be remembered and what are you doing to create those memories.
 
This is one of the most beautiful musings on that question, Kam, that I have ever heard. I couldn't say it better:

"Will you say when I’m gone away
'My lover came to me, and we'd lay
In rooms unfamiliar but until now'

Will you say to them when I’m gone
'I loved your son for his sturdy arms
We both learned to cradle then live without'

Will you say when I’m gone away
'Your father’s body was judgement day
We both dove and rose to the riverside'

Will you say to me when I’m gone
'Your face has faded but lingers on
'cause light strikes a deal with each coming night'."

-Iron and Wine, "Each Coming Night"
 
Remembered ? I,m not sure I want to be remembered except in the context of not being mourned . I,d like to think in terms of a 3 night wake and a 3 day archery shoot .
Party the night and shoot during the day . I,d like to be thought of in the same way we think of a spring or fall day . No concept of time . The day was here and it passed . If we mourn its passing we lessen it .
 
I'd like a city named after me, or possibly a country. A planet would work as well.

Hey, they told me to aim high when I was a child. Why not?
 
I would hope to be remembered as a possitive person, who helps her family (not only blood relatives, but friends as well) not only when times are easy but when the going got rough as well, someone who will NOT run away from problems or issues (etc) no matter how BIG they are (personal or otherwise), as a person who fought the good fight, as a loving wife / daughter / friend / maybe mother someday (?), as someone who made a difference in people's lives, and a horendous speller.

What I am doing to make it happen..... I am making my brain work through different neuropathways to think more possitively and teaching those that want to learn this trick the same, I am being the one up front when it comes to my mother-in-law's dog's cancer fight (by asking the questionss, calling the doctors, talking to the doctors when we go see them, etc), I was there for my sister in her most recent time of need, and even drove with my husband 1 hour to her house in the middle of the night to protect her though she didn't know about it at the time, I am facing my personal demons which are many and each larger than the next, I am helping a person I recently began calling a "best friend" (of which I have few) by supporting her and listening and lending strength and giving advice when asked, I am trying SO har to be a better sife to my hubby SilverFoxKnows and I hope he is noticing the difference (I have many years of depression on my shoulders that spilled over onto him to make up for :( ), I am trying to be open and honest in my dealings with people while not giving all of myself to others and leaving me nothing, and I just use my 40 year old dictionary thingy, hehehehee, to help with my spelling (I think that'll keep my spelling horrible as it can be ;) ).

So I guess tonight I had alot to get off of my chest, so to speak, on this subject. It has been a rocky road for me and many others, but you have to keep walking it, running it, and maybe even sometimes skipping on it :D .

-Heather
 
I guess my only wish concerning such an issue, would be that my wife and children remember me as their loving/caring husband and father.
For them to remember me as a man that always felt that his wife and children were the most important aspects of his life.

Knowing that would make me happy :)
 
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