I am in trouble !!!!!!!

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schwingmichael

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Two years ago I got really into knives for a couple reasons: collectibility, EDC, and they are damn cool! However, my mother (now divorced) looks down on my hobby, my dad (who is getting deployed to afgahanistan) supports my interests... WHAT DO I DO!!?? I need help convincing my mom that knives are a good thing. Have any of you had the same problem with wives, girlfriends, and or mothers? What did you do to settle their unrest?
 
Begin with carrying and using knives circumspectly and responsibly. Try showing nothing more than a Swiss Army Knife. Continue on by using kitchen knives to help prepare food. Show further ability to handle tools by fixing things around the home and doing chores.

You may not be able just now to represent knives positively but you can represent yourself, and then the knives won't be a problem.

(Please notice I changed the thread title and think why.)
 
The discussions I have with my wife would not help you with your mother. Not the same relationship.
 
Acting responsibly will make your mom trust you more. Take out the trash without being asked, do the dishes, support your mom. Impress her with your character and willingness to help. You will not even need to discuss knives. Keep them low and out of the picture for now. Good luck and carry on. Prayers for your dad's safe return home. If your mom still has issues with the knives, bury them in a closed piece of 3" drain pipe glued shut and bury them for a couple of years, and tell your mom that you got rid of them. Make sure you oil them up first. :-)
 
Yup, I' ll second what Esav said. Show her how you can handle your knife responsibly and use it for helping her around the house for example. May I ask how old you are? That would interest me.
 
CJ and Esav nailed this question. Their wisdom will take you a very long way with your mom. (Dad too for that matter.)
 
Esav & cj65 gave you some good advice. Doing what your mother asks you to do, and doing those chores or things to help out without being asked to do them, will go along way to prove you are becoming a responsible adult. Burying them and lying to your mother, in my mind, is seriously bad advice. The ethics you develop and live by are very important. When you give your word, or just say you are going to do something, people should know 100% that you are going to do exactly what you said, barring unforeseen circumstances. Lying to your mother about these inanimate objects, our knives, is simply wrong. Even if she never finds out, you will always know you lied to her, and then it becomes easier to tell lies to anybody. Being truthful is the way to live your life. As others have said, helping her out where she never has to ask you twice to do something. Not complaining, helping other people out freely, sooner or later she will realize that you are becoming an adult, and are a responsible person. She may never like knives, but she will know you are responsible enough to handle them safely.
 
My parents never supported my hobby and we've never been on good terms i left the house when i was 17 and later on enlisted in the u.s army. im 22 now and ive been on this site more than 5 years now (lrked since i was about 14-15). after i left my home i really picked up my collecting and have one hell of a collection (not the most impressive compared to some of the people on this site but im proud of it $10K plus) after being away from home and not talking to each each other for along time we just kind of learned to coexist and ironically my family and I are alot closer now that we almost never see each other maybe 3 times a year. It can be really hard to be a very different person from your parent/legal guardian but you have a long adult life ahead of you if your mother doesn't want you to have them then store them with a grandparent, uncle or good friend who supports your hobby (and is responsible) and wait to move out as i said there is plenty of time in life to enjoy the pleasure of sharp blades, custom guns and other finer things in life


I think earlier posters nailed the meat of the issue i just wanted to demonstrate that even if your mother never comes around its not the end of the world. also do you mind me asking your age?
 
depending on your age , nothing you say will convince her , she is mom , what mom says goes. Are you buying the knives yourself ?
 
yo, hide ALL of the steak knives, have a bbq, big thick juicy steaks, then pull out your pocket knife. see her reaction then
 
If you spend lots of money on knives and the money from your parents, it could be a problem. But spending money earned by yourself, no problem at all.
 
Knives are all about responsibility. Whether it be ownership, use, or carry. Behave as though you deserve the priveledge of carrying a knife, and demonstrate that you indeed do; this is how the Boy Scouts handle it.
 
one day while Mumsie is making dinner, bring out some sharpening gear and offer to hone her kitchen knives. explain that sharp knives prep food better with less effort, and are safer.

Little things like that go a long way to easing them into the knife world.
 
"schwingmichael"
for a start, you need to buy "real investments".
the basic proof that it's more than just an a passing fancy.
convince her that knife collecting has had a long solid reputation of being a legitimate source of income as well.
buy a copy of bernard levine's knife guide and highlight the good parts.
wouldn't be too bad to start a healthy collection on Case Knives.
good luck!
 
As stated before, show responsibility (not just with knives) and earn more trust. Try having a conversation with your mom about the importance of knives (that is if she's willing to listen). I know it's not my business, but if your mom and dad had a divorce, your mom might be disagreeing with your knife hobby just because your dad supports it (he possibly had a knife hobby as well?).

Carry a pocket knife regularly when possible and when she's having a hard time trying to open something you can offer her your knife or offer to cut whatever she needs cut. Worst case scenario you'll have to keep your hobby under wraps for a few years.
 
All moms are different, and furthermore all women are different. It is really hard to say what you can do since we dont know your mom. You probably know her the best so you will have to work around her personality.

The comments about responsibility are key, however the method that you use to comunicate responsibility are even more important. The key word is comunicate. Just realize that everything you do is comunicating to her. And her personality will be the judge of how she interprets your verbal and non-verbal comunication. That is what you have to work around to properly comunicate that you know what you are doing; her and her personality/ perceptions/ biases.

Good luck.
 
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