"Just a big ole wussy" rant

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I come from a family of volunteer firemen (Grampa, 4 uncles, 2 counsins, and one of thier wives) and nurses (Mom, and 2 aunts). I was an EMT for a year and a half before I got married and moved overseas. I was also on the first responder team at a factory I worked at for a while.

My point is I`ve been around lots of people on the worst nights of thier lives and I was calm, cool, and professional. Burns? No problem. Car crashes with multiple victims? I`m on my way. Heart attacks, broken limbs, blood and gore...never phased me. But now I`m married.

Last night my wife went into the bathroom during dinner and seemed to be in there an awful long time. Just as I walked over to the door to ask if she was okay, it opened she crawled out, collapsed, and said "Help". She was consious, but doubled over with abdominal pain. Skin was pale, cool and clammy. She was coherent, but too weak to move. I carried her to bed and called a neighbor who`s an M.D. and he came right away.

I was able to keep it together enough to start writing down a history AFTER he examined her and administered some meds.....but I was a complete basket case. Ryoko is fine today and we`re both relaxing at home. The Doc called early this morning to check on us. After my wife seemed okay my daughters laughed and said I looked like I was about to die on the spot.

I`ve never fallen apart like that around someone who was hurting, but man when it`s somebody you love all the experiance goes out the window. I never knew I was such a wuss. ( Hey Jerry, if you knew, why didn`t you tell me? Oh wait you did.) Maybe I aughta change my handle to "Sissy-boy". I`d try "Girly-boy", but that would be an insult to some tough girls I`ve known.(You were in labor for 36 hours??!! Hell, I don`t want to do anything that feels GOOD for 36 hours.)
 
Glad to hear that she is doing fine.

Most that deal with the types of situations you describe have a bit of a switch to go into a business mode that allows you to disconnect from the victim so you can deal with the task at hand in a professional manner.

With someone as important to you as your wife, it just wouldn't happen as easily. It certainly wouldn't mean you are a wuss!
 
Seein a loved one hurt changes the whole playing field.

Hope your wife is ok now, and that it wasn't your cooking that caused it...;)
 
There is literally nothing in the world more difficult than seeing someone you love in pain.

I'm happy to hear your wife is OK.

And you did exactly the right thing, whether you felt tough or not. :thumbup:
 
I don't think that makes you a wuss. If it does, I'm a wuss as well. You did what was best to do in that situation, and things seem to have turned out well. It's hard to feel tough when someone you love is in danger. That's the same for almost everyone.
 
Sounds to me like you maintained enough composure to get her the help she needed and took care of the business at hand. That is the only part that matters in a critical situation. It's ok to have fear, just as long as it doesn't take control. You did fine. Glad she is ok.
 
Very glad to read your wife is doing better, now. You are not a wussy-boy for losing composure when the most important person in your life was in trouble - you're a human.
 
dont beat yourself up. perfectly normal, and i imagine you handled yourself better than most would given your work history and abilities to remain calm under stress.

glad she is doing well.
 
The TOUGHEST of all can still be easily brought to their knees when something bad happens to those they care about the most... It's NOT being a "wussie", it's called being "Human". I don't think that you are a "wussie" in the slightest... I'm glad to hear that she'll be OK! :thumbup:
Love can be a wonderful thing, and you're a lucky man to have found love.

Try not to beat yourself up, instead celebrate with your daughters & your mate. :thumbup:
 
Glad to hear that all is well. That is definitely a scary moment. My wife got bit by one of our dogs breaking up a fight a while back. One clamped down on her thigh and left four serious puncture wounds. She called me at work and I couldn't think of anything else until I saw that she was ok. She's a tough one and drove herself to the doctor before I got there. She's fine, but it still freaked me out. Not to mention I was pissed at the dog.

When I read that your wife was in the bathroom for a while I thought she was flushing your INFI down the toilet!!:D:p;)
 
i little quote i thought of while reading your post. may mean something, may not.

pain shared is pain divided. joy shared is joy multiplied.
 
Sounds like to me you did just fine. You dealt with the crisis at hand in a calm and collect manner. It was only when your wife was in the clear that lost your professionalism. I would not call that being a wuss it's part of being human. You did just fine. I had a similar experience with an ex-wife several years ago. But that's my story and I don't want to hijak the thread.
 
1) Thanks guys, I guess I was beating up on myself more than I needed to. When the Doc came by the next day he said the same thing happened to him when his wife came into the E.R. a few years ago.

2) If she tried to flush the INFI I`d dive after it ,if it didn`t cut it`s way out first.

3)Hey Mike, if I ever make it back to Columbus I`ll cook you up a feast.....don`t worry about the "secret ingredients", the Exlax just adds flavor. (Just kiddin` man, you`re still one of the nicest guys I know on this forum. And that`s sayin` ALOT!)
 
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