I don't personally care for revolvers when it comes to self defense (i.e. from humans). That puts a burden on me to own highly reliable semi autos.
Originally posted by pyrguy
The best to carry is the biggest thing you can shoot accurately.
That about sums it up.
For me, that is .45acp +P.
I have a .44mag S&W 629, but it carries a 2X scope and is for hunting when conditions are for sure under 75 yards. It is too much to shoot as quickly as would be needed in a self defense scenario for me personally.
I used to own a ported .357mag and a ported .44mag, and while the ports definitely reduce muzzle rise (but not the straight-back recoil into the hand) and allow you to get back on target much quicker, the ported handguns are terribly hard on your ears when you shoot them without hearing protection... and are even very loud with my custom $700 amplifying, yet noise limiting in-the-ear-like-a-hearing-aid hearing protectors I use when hunting.
10mm is a bit snappier than a .45acp, about the same overall recoil (only feels different, again snappier) than a .45acp +P.
Either of those constitute the most I can shoot quickly and accurately.
Maximum pistol? ... kind of depends on your size. I'm 5'-11" and weigh 180lbs. I've read where guys who are 6'-5" and 280+lbs say they can handle .44mag and upwards to .50 Dessert Eagles and can shoot them quickly and accurately, and I have no reason to believe they can't. For
most women, a 9mm is about tops.
Another form of self defense:
If I were to carry a sidearm as a backup for a substantial rifle, for say hunting brown/grizzly/kodiak bears, I'd probably carry an open sighted .44mag S&W 629 with a good trigger job and 300gr pills, semi wadcutter for balance of penetration with some minor expansion, and a speed loader. But eating my own cooking from above, I'd think hard about carrying a .45acp in 230 FMJ in +P and with a spare magazine, since I shoot it better and you really need a head shot w/ a pistol on browns. (and I sure as he1l wouldn't hunt alone).
Bullet selection:
I've read plenty on the fast/light and slow/heavy debate. Don't wish to debate it here. Decide for yourself.
I will say that after pretty much landing on the Marshall/Sanow band wagon years ago, I then leaned back towards the middle somewhat after watching results of fast/light vs. pretty fast & tough bullets on game animals (yeah, they aren't humans, etc...). Fast/light can produce some impressive "lightning" type shots on soft tissue and in the right spots, and can be best in many cases, but can produce some real dramatic failures on bone and on angling/raking shots. But in terms of penetrating bone when it is hit especially at a bit of an odd angle, heavier (and better, a tougher bullet) tends to help a good bit in overall effectiveness. This logic falls into the "where ever it happens to hit" thought process. I think the trend towards expanding but tough bullets is moving from the hunting realms to the pistol/self defense arena.
I will say this:
in the "reasonable for humans" range of calibers, if you can shoot it well,
the .45 ACP is much less sensitive to ammo selection than either the .40S&W and the 9mm. With the .45acp, nearly any good quality hollow point (that feeds reliably in your setup) from 165gr to 230gr will generally provide a very balanced level of performance on human targets... expansion plus penetration, soft vs. bone. With the latter two, and especially in 9mm and .38sp, you must really be selective with your ammo choices to ensure you have enough balance of bullet design, energy and momentum. I do have one 9mm pistol left, and settled on 124gr +P+ ammo, but I'd take a heavier bullet (~135gr) if I could get it +P or better and not subsonic (they may exist now, haven't looked since I don't rely on this pistol). At least you can range from 135gr to 180gr w/ the .40S&W. The faster 155gr and 165gr rounds here strike me as a good balance. "Bleeding out the backside hole" is more important than many of the fast/light proponents will admit. Overpenetration isn't "good", but it isn't "bad" either, as exit wounds tend to bleed much more profusely than do entrance wounds (much larger holes), and as the adrenalized heart goes into overdrive, a drop in blood pressure is one prime way to incapacitate (ugly to think through this, but it's an ugly subject). Overpenetration issues tend to be an overweighted variable in many self defense debates. As long as 70-80% of the energy is dumped before exit wound creation, probably fine. IMHO anyway. YMMV.