Leading the way to kindness

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My wife and I were eating in a dinner this morning. We were remembering fondly the day before with family.

In comes six young men. I eyed them warily. Then I noticed the hair cuts.
The clean clothing. The quiet respectful manner in which they treated the waitress. Finally I noticed a shirt: U.S. Marines
For some reason they really got to me. So young and proud. So willing to throw their young lives into battle to keep me and my family safe.

So I walked over and said Hi. I asked them if they were Marines. They said they were and mentioned the three young ones were fresh from boot camp.

All of them looked me in the eye. No hostility, no arrogance, no swagger.

Just quiet confidence. I asked a few questions, the last of which was, do you train hard? They said "yes Sir" in unison. I said well guys in that cause today your money is no good here. I reached over and took their bill.

I sat back down and held my wifes hand while she cried. She remembered me at that age. She remembered what its like when your man goes off to war.

When they left they all walked over to us and shook my hand. The diner was quiet and every eye in the place was on those boys as they left the building. Somehow they all seemed bigger and stronger than when they came in. I think we fed them something even more powerful than food.

I went to pay our bills, but there was a problem. Its seems that somebody had ALREADY PAID THEM. BOTH OF THEM. I looked out in the diner and nobody would make eye contact.

I thanked the cashier and left. I told my wife I felt bad and wished I knew who had paid the bills. She asked me if when I was a soldier did I train hard?
I said yes, yes I did. She said then in that case it looks like your money is no good in there today.

Happy Thanksgiving.
 
Thanks for bringing this great moment to all of us.

These moments happen much more frequently than the nay sayers and doomsday crowd allow. Human beings recognize one another. Kindness is a secret coin uncalculated by mathmeticians. It runs through our society. I noticed it was prevelant in rural America when I moved Northwest, but that doesn't mean it's not found in the sleaziest paved roads of the City either. It's there.

I like grocery store lines, like to break the pattern and raise a smile. Everywhere I go. The lines we wait in, and every place in between. We don't need permission to be here now, to be human and care for one another, all we need is to act.

Preacher Munk
 
Thanks for sharing that BigJim.

The ripple effect of just reading something like this goes on and on through us, and without a doubt through those people in the diner, and most definitely through those marines.

and through me...

Thank you.
 
Thanks for making that gesture BigJim. Last week I went to a falcons game and one of the guys tailgaiting with us was fresh from boot camp. I must have talked to him for an hour about his getting ready to go. Finally I told him I was proud of him and my family would pray for him. He shook my hand and gave me a stare I won't ever forget as he said Thank You. I wish I could have done more. I wished I had a Khuk to give him. I didn't, and I'll likely never see him again, but I won't forget him. He didn't talk big, or act cocky, just quiet confident reserve. He signed up to go for this very reason. I'm proud of all of them, our heroes.

Andy
 
You know I was thinking more about this, and I don't know if anyone else does this, but i pick up stories. No I don't pretend they're mine, but I will retell them as I heard them.

This is one I'll file away. I'm sure I'll retell it to someone, but even if I didn't I'll think of it when my faith in people is running low.
 
Happy Thanksgiving, BIGjim.

We need more folks like you and your wife.
 
I have heard the story before. It is the thing we would all like to do. I have been in the supermarket queue and come across the dishevelled lady in front that is 3 bucks short. Easier to give her the money.
 
No fair making me cry in the University computer lab.

Happy Belated Thanksgiving, y'all. May we all be truly thankful.

John
 
Spectre said:
No fair making me cry in the University computer lab.

Happy Belated Thanksgiving, y'all. May we all be truly thankful.

John

Thats funny. I am a really gruff kind of guy. But the trials and triumphs of our Service men and women make me cry like a baby all the time.

Further up in this thread is a link to the WONDERFULL commercial that came out a few years ago during the Superbowl. The one where the troops are walking through a Major airport coming home from the sand and everyone starts clapping. That freaking thing makes me cry every damn time. I guess
I remember coming home from the gulf war ( PART 1) and My wife and all her friends and about 50 strangers she rounded up all started screaming and yelling for me and the other Army guys that got off the Aircraft.

That was well over ten years ago and there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of it. Long ago the smells, sounds and images of war began to fade for me but the image of her running into my arms in her Laura Ashley sun dress is some how more vivid everyday. I remember the smell of her hair and the way she trembled.

The power to do great good and heal broken lives is in all of us. Even crowds and groups of people can be lead gently to great acts of compassion.

Now if you guys don't mind I am going to go shark some freaking Khuks on the DOTD before you maggots get them all.:D
 
Yvsa said:
You're a dayumed good man BigJim!:thumbup: :cool:

No not really....but I am trying. I turned 44 today. My health is fine but I am beginning to struggle with '"life". Questions like why am I here? When I die will anybody give a shit are beginning to matter to me. I panic that being as over weight as I am I will die to soon and leave my wife alone. What happens to her then? She counts on me for so much, and I live to meet those expectations.

I guess I am lucky. I know why I am here, my purpose is to care for and cherish the foolish woman that married me.

Today she went and bought me a new pillow. I mentioned a few weeks ago that my neck was stiff. Any pain of mine no matter how trivial is a matter of over riding concern to her. What is that worth? How do I repay that?

This is what I think about while I sharpen my khuks.
 


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Thanks for being who you are, & sharing your experience.

It reminded me of my father-in-law remarking on several occasions about his steadfast memory, respect, & appreciation over the years of the Salvation Army / Red Cross volunteers who met his (& other) troop trains at every stop across the country with coffee & donuts, on his way to war. It's clear that nobody EVER better try snatching one of their collection pots when he's around.

It also reminded me of the meaning of the apochryphal story of US soldiers marching along a country road in WW-II France who came across a crucifix whose arms the S.S. smashed off; somebody had later attached a note in English saying "I have no hands but yours."

"Now if you guys don't mind I am going to go shark some freaking Khuks on the DOTD before you maggots get them all."

You change gears faster than a speeding Kobra !!!
 
Being a freshman in college, I have had numerous friends who have enlisted. The most amazing one is a kid I knew who I had pretty much written off. Every drug known to man, no future plans, no college, no nothing. Always looked like crap. Then he enlisted in the Marines. Next time I saw him, he was fit, well-dressed, his shirt tucked in, standing tall, looking adults in the eyes, and calling adults "sir" and "ma'am." I was amazed by his transformation.

This thanksgiving weekend, I want to say thanks to those of you who have served. We have you to thank for everything that we now possess, and for that I am truly thankful.

Chris
 
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