Life Lessons

Mistwalker

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Recently I have come to learn that when both Lisa and I are working crazy schedules, we don't get much quality time alone together, and I have to make the time on one of her off days if I want it to happen at all. I have also learned that if our quality time is going to be limited to one or two lunch dates a month then I have to go with a quality over quantity approach and make the time as pleasant as I can. The upside is that the limited number of opportunities more easily justifies a greater expense on the times we do get together. She is off on Mondays, but Mondays are a crazy day for me. They usually start before sunrise with either important photo shoots with the morning light, meetings after 9, and then working until sunset out in the field. So, I have planned that every other Monday I take the time for a long lunch with her, enjoy a meal together and just hang out and talk about life. I've learned this helps me keep my goals in mind and not just get lost in the mechanics of doing the work, which is actually very easy for me due to previous life experiences. . It helps me stay in touch with why exactly I work as much as I do. Yesterdays lunch was at Tony's Pasta Shop in the Bluff View Art District. It was were we went on our first date as more-than-just-friends thirteen years ago, and where we celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary this past June. It is our favorite restaurant overall.

It has a nice atmosphere inside with exposed beams and wooden panels with lots of windows, but this time of year we prefer to eat out on the back deck. The view isn't bad with the large wind sculpture right beside the deck and the the art garden just down the hill.

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She has a tendency to make me laugh by stating the obvious...lol, I have known this for more than a decade :D

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I love have never gotten the hang of the fork and spoon method of eating pasta, and I don't dig the twirly method, so I have a tendency to gut my pasta to the size I want, somewhat like eating a steak...but different... I love the spicy Low-Country sauce at Tony's and always have them add extra sauce and extra craw-fish. Seemed fitting to use the Handyman that I edc for this :)

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I still have a habit of feeding bread to the birds. A habit I developed thirty-five years ago as a teen living on the streets one winter in St. Louis. Day old bread is cheap at bakeries and will fill an empty stomach pretty quickly. Feeding them today is still enjoyable for me today and therapeutic as well. It helps me stay in touch with where I came from, and recognize the improvements in my life for what they are.

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Some things just haven't changed about her in the years I've known her. She still prefers to go barefoot. When we used to meet at the art district for lunch when she was going to UTC, it would always make me laugh to see her coming up his walkway barefoot, carrying her shoes.

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I did notice I seriously need to get a nicer sheath for this knife. The Condor sheath is actually well made, and works well for it, but doesn't seem suited for this knife, and actually seems rather insulting...

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EDC-ing the Handyman is another thing in my life that is therapeutic for me. When my work involves testing new designs and new steels for RMJ it's easy for me to get drawn back into the darker memories of my youth and get hung up there for a while. The hawk in this shot is an experiment with cryo-quenched 80CrV2 steel, and the Dagger is a new issue tool for the Marine Raider Teams in cryo-quenched CPM3V. Later I will be testing out a 3V hawk and comparing it to both their usual 4140CMA and the 80CrV2

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I have also been snapping some quick shots to supplement the wild plants work shops for the folks at RMJ, and using tools they are familiar with as a size reference. Like easy tips for distinguishing between Solomon's Seal and False Solomon's Seal, a topic that came up in the last workshop.

Solomon's Seal plants terminate in a leaf at the end of the stem. The flowers and berries grow along the stalk

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False Solomon's Seal plants terminate in the flower and later a seed head.

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Both are in the Asparagus family, both are edible in different ways, and both have important medicinal properties. But with the rhizome of one being an edible starch much like a potato, and the rhizome of the other being an excellent laxative, it is good to know the difference between the two in a wilderness setting :)




Some interesting contrast from my evening at work :)

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Nice post. Sometimes we get some busy and caught up with life and work that we forget to take a step back and connect with some of the things that are super important.

Lately, I've been making a better effort to stay in touch with people that are important to me. I'm a terrible communicator sometimes, so it's an effort to fight against that.


I saw something that looks like Solomon's seal this weekend, but with red berries instead of dark blue. I didn't take a picture though... next time.
 
Awesome post Brian. I can see why you take photos and write for a living. You are a good storyteller. I am glad that you and Lisa got to enjoy a nice outing to a favorite sentimental spot. Good marriages are all about making every day a special occasion. I hope that you get to enjoy many more together.

Phil
 
@mistwalker

Great story, very nicely told, along with some beautiful pix to boot.

We all have dark places in our past and I'm glad you've come a long way in life. And purposely finding ways to share quality time with those important to us keeps us centered and grounded.

All the best, keep stories coming!

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Leah and I recently did some re-connecting. We are happy as newlyweds lately. 20 years together. Glad to hear y'all are still going strong. Congratulations.
 
Love that Mauraders Map shirt too btw.
 
Remembering the little things all adds up to big things. Thanks for sharing this.
 
Nice post. Sometimes we get some busy and caught up with life and work that we forget to take a step back and connect with some of the things that are super important.

Lately, I've been making a better effort to stay in touch with people that are important to me. I'm a terrible communicator sometimes, so it's an effort to fight against that.


I saw something that looks like Solomon's seal this weekend, but with red berries instead of dark blue. I didn't take a picture though... next time.

I'm not the world's most social person, and I enjoy my work, so it is a little too easy for me to get caught up in it for weeks on end without noticing...

I'd really like to see a pic of that if you can. Nothing else here that grows and berries the same way Solomon's Seal does.


awesome way to spend the day.

It was a good day :)


Awesome post Brian. I can see why you take photos and write for a living. You are a good storyteller. I am glad that you and Lisa got to enjoy a nice outing to a favorite sentimental spot. Good marriages are all about making every day a special occasion. I hope that you get to enjoy many more together.

Phil

Thanks Phil. We make a point of spending some time talking every day, but with our offset schedules it isn't always long. I hope we do too.


@mistwalker

Great story, very nicely told, along with some beautiful pix to boot.

We all have dark places in our past and I'm glad you've come a long way in life. And purposely finding ways to share quality time with those important to us keeps us centered and grounded.

All the best, keep stories coming!

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Thank you. Yes we do, and I suppose life would be far less interesting without them :)


Leah and I recently did some re-connecting. We are happy as newlyweds lately. 20 years together. Glad to hear y'all are still going strong. Congratulations.

Yeah, the Gatlinburg trip was good for us. It gave us some time to reconnect. But between my mother-in-law's work schedule and my sister-in-law's complicated pregnancy and then a premature delivery, we just haven't had the opportunity to get away for a weekend just the two of us in a while. So, for now lunch dates it is. Wow, 20 years, congrats on that!


Love that Mauraders Map shirt too btw.

Yeah, when she saw that she had to have it lol.


Nice post! Thanks for sharing as I enjoyed that

Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the post!


Remembering the little things all adds up to big things. Thanks for sharing this.

Thanks Preston. Yeah, sometimes I need reminding and the posts of others here do that for me.
 
I'll get a buddy to take pictures this weekend. He's going back up there
 
Thanks for sharing the natural interp. about Solomon seal and it's deceptive cousin. Currently, both species are bearing fruit in the inner Mountain Rockies of SW Montana; especially the False Solomon. I walked passed numerous patches of them this weekend and their vibrant red berries shout out loud to me. Thank you for posting such quality visual narratives - your contributions nurture easy community into this forum.
 
Does she have the marauder's map? Dang it... Andy beat me to it...

It's a dangerous world to go barefoot in!

Great photos and congrats on your time together.
 
Brian, you postings always are wonderful to read.

And your pics are fantastic.

Great job taking the time to appreciate the finer things. I just dropped my boy off at college a few weeks ago, and what I wouldn't give to have just a few of those days, weeks, or years back to throw rocks, go sledding or swimming, or have mud fights in our garden again.
 
I'll get a buddy to take pictures this weekend. He's going back up there

Thanks Orion, that would be awesome!


Thanks for sharing the natural interp. about Solomon seal and it's deceptive cousin. Currently, both species are bearing fruit in the inner Mountain Rockies of SW Montana; especially the False Solomon. I walked passed numerous patches of them this weekend and their vibrant red berries shout out loud to me. Thank you for posting such quality visual narratives - your contributions nurture easy community into this forum.

Thanks man. Yeah, being further south where things start earlier, both are winding down now.

I was out getting some of the final photos of it for the year for the flora data base I am working on. I am putting together a Fiddleback Specific post on Solomon's Seal vs False Solomon's seal from beginning of season to end. I should have that posted later today :)


Does she have the marauder's map? Dang it... Andy beat me to it...

It's a dangerous world to go barefoot in!

Great photos and congrats on your time together.

Lol, I wish she did! Would be too cool to see that :)

Trust me I know, but she is the type who wouldn't wear clothes at all in the summer if the law didn't require it lol. She doesn't do barefoot out and about as much as she used to though, and always has shoes with her at least...


Brian, you postings always are wonderful to read.

And your pics are fantastic.

Great job taking the time to appreciate the finer things. I just dropped my boy off at college a few weeks ago, and what I wouldn't give to have just a few of those days, weeks, or years back to throw rocks, go sledding or swimming, or have mud fights in our garden again.

Thanks man, I'm really glad you enjoy them! Yeah, the time passes far too quickly!
 
Thanks for sharing Brian. I took a class about 20 years ago on sustainable design. The instructor talked a lot about how everything, whether consciously or not, is by design. He stated the importance of making sure you design "hammock time" in to your life. If you don't, it is easy to get too busy and fill your time with work and other things. Designing in a time to have a lunch or do something special with our loved ones can make a big difference when our lives get busy. Good for your for carving that out of a busy schedule.

I love the last picture too. Definitely some interesting contrast in that shot.
 
Thanks for sharing Brian. I took a class about 20 years ago on sustainable design. The instructor talked a lot about how everything, whether consciously or not, is by design. He stated the importance of making sure you design "hammock time" in to your life. If you don't, it is easy to get too busy and fill your time with work and other things. Designing in a time to have a lunch or do something special with our loved ones can make a big difference when our lives get busy. Good for your for carving that out of a busy schedule.

I love the last picture too. Definitely some interesting contrast in that shot.

Thanks Todd, from my experiences in life, I agree with your instructor. It's not always easily done, but it is necessary none the less.

My work definitely has its contrasts. I often end up working with tools made from complete opposite ends of the spectrum of purpose on the same day and throughout the same week. It actually helps me improve designs sometimes :)
 
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