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...I'm learning not to blindly accept or totally disregard any advice on childraising. I do have one principle, though:

Never assume that you've mastered a difficult aspect. In my case, that would be most everything, but my hubris in diaper-changing was quickly reduced to a humbled state.

Also, like all new dads, I wanted a Garud Ang Khola khukuri, so I ordered one from Uncle Bill's website.
 
There is a whole lot of story there, untold, but very apparent. ;)

I am not now, nor have I ever been a father. But it is not hubris for me to state, that should that time ever come, I will quickly become an expert at AVOIDING diaper changes. :barf: :p :D :eek:
 
Remember that the word humble comes from the latin root "humus" or fertile soil.
Forget the book, chapter, and verse, but " do justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God ".

I take that to mean I should be fertile soil for the seeds God(s) wish to implant in me, and nurture them as they grow.

Having said that, I usually manage to forget it as soon as possible.

( Micah 6:8 )
 
I like that very much, Rusty. When you're humbled you're on the ground, from where you rise once more, but now clean.

I've done some of my best peace making staring at sand from a few inches away.



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MacHete said:
should that time ever come, I will quickly become an expert at AVOIDING diaper changes.
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And here I was thinking that khukuri fans would leap at the chance to do gruntwork for the good of their family. Well, the 'gruntwork' would be done by your child, but it's the same idea. :)
 
How much do you value your sleep? If you do, get this:

On Becoming Baby Wise

Can't say enough about it...both our kids were sleeping through the night by the 8th week. It's very hard at first, but if you can tough it out, you'll make it.

Here's another good one:

Parenting with Love and Logic


In the words of Lavar Burton..."But don't take my word for it" ;)

Check it out yourself.
 
I'm an attachment parent. We also co-sleep. Sure it means a little less sleep, but it's worth it to us. Our kids are very confident, not afraid of strangers, not afraid of the dark. I hated sleeping with anyone touching me (even the wife) before the kids. Now I love sleeping with my 2 1/2 year old son snuggled up next to me. If he has a nightmare I'm right there, ready to comfort.

Do what works for you. Attachment just seems to be what I'm made for.
 
#1 Son has now gotten to the point that he changes his own diapers - but won't use the toilet. Don't know if this is a sign of genius or idiocy.

One thing the hospitals should send home with these kids is those little vibrating chairs. I tried several of them and finally settled on the cheapest twenty-buck model. It duplicates the vibration of a small-block Chevy V-8 exactly due to its light construction and will put a kid to sleep right now. Prior to discovering this I had to drive him around alot to get this done and it burned alot of gas.

Also, those symeithicone (sp?) drops AKA "baby beano" work like a charm to solve that inexplicable howling that occurs in spite of dry pants and a full belly.
 
cliff355 said:
#1 Son has now gotten to the point that he changes his own diapers - but won't use the toilet.
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When my daughter wouldn't try the toilet,
after several days I finally gave up on coaxing
& tried the indirect approach.

"That''s OK. 'Brown Bear' needs to use it now anyway.
I put 'Brown Bear' on the potty seat,
"There you go 'Brown Bear'."
Daughter immediately starts saying,
"Me sit. Potty mine. Brown Bear up."
She used it from then on.

I wish all child care challenges were so easy.
 
It got to where the diaper changing didn't bother me much. My wife and I split the night in half, one shift from 22:00-02:00, the other from 02:00-06:00.

We rotated the shifts.

During those times when I was changing the diaper and my kid had somehow woken up, I used to cherish them as a special time we had together there in the late night or early morning.

After changing her diaper sometimes we'd play a bit. Sometimes I'd give her a raspberry whistle on her tummy or chest. Sometimes she'd just lay there holding onto my finger with that tiny fist of hers and we'd stare into each other's eyes.

A lot of times I'd pick her up and just hold her for a long time.

Played hell with my sleep patterns, but I didn't regret it then, nor now. I miss it now in fact. Sometimes my mind is on that little baby and then my 14-yr old daughter who now stands an inch taller than her mom will walk in the room and I'm momentarily puzzled.

Man, she grew up so fast.

We moved into our current home some seven years ago. At that time my kid would play a game with me where I'd sit on the floor and she'd pretend to be a lion cub and stalk me and pounce on me. We'd roll around a bit and then she'd end up sitting on my chest pinning my shoulders to the floor and then she'd bonk her nose into mine and say, "Pinja!" (Pinned you!).

Doesn't seem that long ago. I can't remember when she stopped playing "Pinja Cub". But man, she certainly stopped playing it much too soon for my taste. Now she's talking about which dress to wear to the first high school dance. (mildly sad sigh........)

Don
 
Thanks for the tips, guys. I read some of the "On Becoming Babywise", but it was hard to digest the gold with the dogma. Kind of like reading Juranitch's sharpening book, but with an infinitely more important subject (so should you use oil, water, or nothing when raising children?). I'll check out the other one. Thanks.

And for the record: I wasn't complaining about changing diapers. I was saying that my assumed expert status was brought crashing back down into reality. :)
 
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