It sounds like maybe you need a
learner model
I started with a Parker Sterling Silver Cisele model. I was writing so much with bad ballpoints, my righthand hurt, often very badly. I never did learn to write with my left hand (my legibility is pretty bad with my right hand so, trying to go lefty didn't help

).
My father stepped in and gave me his only good pen to use while in college, a Parker matched pair Fountain pen and Ballpoint. Both of these pens had seen over 20 years of hard service and, you could hardly tell. My college career was possibly saved due the simple act of giving me those pens, specifically the fountain pen. Am I biased by that experience? You bet I am!
That being said, I really honestly think the Parker Cisele Sterling silver model is a good place to start. Why? Great looks and class combined with a relatively low entry pricepoint. I really liked the convenience of the Parker ink cartridges, which for a novice seems like a good place to start. Ink pots/wells in my personal opinion are better for someone a little more advanced.
Something nice to be looked at, comfortable to write with, and does not break easily.
Nice to look at? I think so.
Comfortable to write with? I think so but, if you are looking for a larger or fuller (thicker?) pen, maybe not. Certainly better then a very good ballpoint

Does not break easily? A 40 year service life is pretty darn good. Maintanence was minimal and usually due to something stupid user inflicted
At $125 for an "inked" learner model from some place like Levengers, you can test drive it and then put it on EBAY with little risk of signficant financial loss.
Levengers Pre-Inked