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Mtnclimber69

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First, I will say this isn't a joke... I was out sick yesterday and now came back to see all those random posts... this has nothing to do with that.

I am really unsure what to do. My sister is engaged to a guy I just found out had an issue with depression. I have no real experience with it, but I hear that in his case he needs to be constantly on some kind of drug or he gets either angry or suicidal. I am torn because I feel like it is not necessarily my place to interfere in my sister's choice, but if this guy who I don't know all that well is truly someone that could place her safety in jeapordy then...?

So without having any great resource to turn to I thought I would ask my INFI brothers... do any of you have a thought or suggestion? I am truly struggling with what to do about this.
 
Here's a link to a support site that I had heard of for people with mood disorders and those caring for them. It might help you find the resources to sort out the real risks/issues from the understandable fears, which might help you decide what is best for you do. I wish you luck, brother...

http://www.dbsalliance.org/

Zyzax
 
After being married to one with mood disorders, note the past tense, I would say that it is never fixed just controlled and the risks are not worth the worry. Besides there are alot of single good infi brothers that are single that you could fix her up with... Good luck.
 
Although you may have a legitimate concern for you sister, I would tread lightly. No one likes to be told that the person they have decided to spend the rest of their life with is crazy and poses a threat. Your sister may end up distancing herself from you, and put up communication barriers. Have you spent much time around the guy? Have you ever seen him act erratically or fly off the handle?

I think your best bet is to quietly and calmly raise your concerns to your sister, and see what she has to say about it. I'm sure it's crossed her mind.
 
Thanks for the replies guys. I have spent some time with him and for the most part he seems ok. I guess I will just let this one play out... they have been dating for a while, but I only just recently found out about the rest.
 
It’s your sister’s decision, and being in love is a far more powerful force than a brother’s concerns.

I read a stat that suggested that one in five people will experience some sort of psychiatric illness in their lives, so we better learn to cope with the reality of this fact.

Be ready to support your sister if necessary, but also be ready to get to know this new member of your family.
 
He's done more than a lot folks do and got himself a psychiatrist and he sought out a way to overcome his deficiency. Ever meet a redneck that seems pissed off all time, and probably beats his wife every now and then, and drinks a lot? Or a woman that always keeps to herself and about half the time seems to be on the verge of tears? Probably depressed, but will never do anything about it. He did the right thing, and you should too. Let them conduct their affairs as adults and individuals.
 
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