OT- I'm back.. Married but also family loss

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Long story but I'll summerize ....:o

It's been quite a summer. Unfortunately I haven't had much opportunity to get on the forum recently. I have been dating my wife for almost 7 years. We finally got married August 9th. We've been waiting, with a plan, to allow 1 of our children to graduate high school, 1 to graduate college, 2 of 4 to get married, 2 of 4 to have children and more. :D This summer was OUR time! :thumbup: We still needed to combine two households and physical residences. We also renovated our condo during all of this. (bad idea I know HAHAHA)

August 9th..... Suzanne and I finally got married !! (both our 2nd) I married my best friend!!! The event was very small and just our immediate family. Unfortunately her parents are elderly and live in South Carolina and couldn't make the trip. The wedding went off flawlessly. I couldn't have asked for a more perfect evening. My brother in law set up a live web feed for her parents to view the wedding. Suzanne never had a wedding so this was important that her parents be a part of it.

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After the wedding we spent a few days in northern Michigan and really enjoyed our time together. It was the perfect quiet honeymoon.

We returned Thursday night just in time to see our youngest daughter graduate cosmetology school Friday morning. We then drove about 40 miles to my old apartment. We had 2 days to finish packing my personal items and odds and ends so that I could vacate my apartment. The furniture was gone.

Friday evening the phone rang... My wife went silent ... then tearful. Her dad that she loved so dearly was gone. We met my daughter to drop the dog back off. We grabbed our our still packed honeymoon bags and my wedding suit and drove 14 hours to South Carolina. It was obviously an extremely difficult ending to a beautiful week. The service was a moving tribute to an amazing man, an amazing father, a marine and a retired Detroit police officer. The good news was he saw his baby girl get married.

While we dealt with the arrangements my daughter took over at home. She gathered family and friends and got me out of my apartment before the Sunday deadline. We were humbled beyond words.

I'm sorry to be so long winded. It's good to be home both physically and here on the forum. We have so much to do still. My entire apartment is in our condo's garage. We are still dealing with her father's business affairs. The condo needs to be completed and work is out of control for both of us! :eek: Thanks guys for listening.

I want to end on a positive note. Overall Life is good!! Suzanne and I both feel we are absolutely blessed and I, personally, am thankful for the time I had with my father in law.

Dave
 
Well first condolences to you and your wife on the loss of your father-in-law. He seems like a great man who lived a full life, and no doubt went out with a smile on his face knowing that his daughter had married the man that made her so happy. And congratulations to the both of you for finding true love, not only with each other, but from those who care so much about both of you to share their time with you, in good times and bad. May you know nothing but happiness from this day forward!

Tom W.
 
Congratulations on our marriage & condolences on the loss of your Father-in-Law Dave.

Above all best wishes for a lifetime of joy with Suzanne. There is nothing like being blessed to marry your best friend.

Peter
 
Goodness sake Dave, what an emotional roller coaster. FIrst, it is great to hear from you. I am very happy for you and Suzanne. It sounds like your wedding went off exactly as you both had envisioned it, and it is fabulous that the video feed was set up for your in-laws.

I lost my father in 2005 and my mother in 2011. As our parents age, we become faced with the reality of their mortality. From purely a logical standpoint, we begin to prepare ourselves, at least mentally, for the inevitable. When my father passed, it was relatively sudden. He went from normal to dead in about 6 months. During his illness, we all felt that something medically would be done to stop the progression of the disease, but it was not to be. Mentally, I was prepared for his passing, logically it was inevitable, but my dad's passing effected me emotionally and spiritually in profound ways that were completely unexpected.

I regret that you and Suzanne have to begin your lives together as husband and wife with this additional challenge to deal with, above and beyond the transitions that you were going through. All I can say is that this might effect Suzanne in ways that are completely unexpected to even her. And the effects may linger months or years. I think that all that you can do is to remember that above all else is love, no matter the challenge that you are faced with.
 
Thank you for the well wishes and kind words.

McVeymac I appreciate your post. I also lost my father 2 years ago and this past week felt all too familiar. Suzanne and I both have a strong faith and we are blessed with a very close family life. We will move forward and begin our life together (even at our age :)) with a strong foundation to grow on. A foundation that both our parents started. We look forward to being that foundation for our children. Suzanne's parents married later in life like we did. Suzanne says it was a blessing because she actually saw her parents fall in love. I thought that was very cool and hope we can give the same gift.
 
Was wondering where you been. Congratulations and condolences .. definitely sounds like it was an epic ride of a summer.
 
Dave, I am sorry for your loss, but that is a wonderful story of how he got to witness your wedding! :) Congratulations and welcome back!

Will
 
Congratulations and condolences! Quite a time!

With all that you have to do, at least you can apply yourselves to something and try to keep your minds off the sadness. Best fortune to you and your family. :thumbup:
 
I was wondering where you were. It's good to hear from you. Congrats on marrying your best friend. Reading that made my day. You two look genuinely happy. Sorry to hear about your father in-law, that had to be tough.

Welcome back buddy.
 
Congratulations on your marriage Dave, and my condolences on the loss of your father in law.

The wedding pictures are beautiful and it is great that your father in law got to see his daughter married before he passed.

I wish you and Suzanne the best!

Tod
 
Very sorry to hear about your father-in-law Dave, but very happy for you on all other counts. Seems life has taken a turn for the bitter sweet for several of us lately. Congratulations and may your union be blessed!
 
its a tuff one but be sure to know he will be looking out for you guys , lost my father 8 weeks ago and iv never felt so much guidance in my life.


ps you did good real good .
 
Congratulations and condolences, I don't think I've ever used those two words in the same sentence before.

When you find the one it's great, getting married to your best friend is even better. Unfortunately bigger families leave more room for tragedy and sadness. Smoke and prayers for your family on both counts and here's to a long and happy marriage.
 
A sincere and heartfelt THANK YOU you again for the all the kind words. It's good to be home on the forum to share and vent among friends. :thumbup:

Bluebs4 I am sorry as well for the loss of your father. Prayers from my family for continued strength and guidance my friend.
 
Wow, congrats, condolences & prayers all at once.

You married your BF and she's a beauty to boot. You're one lucky man!
 
Some people hang on for just a while longer to see a person or event. I have heard farther fetched stories than an ex-Marine / ex-police officer biting back pain to see his daughter into good, safe hands before he submitted to eternal rest.

Condolences, but mostly Congratulations!
 
While I am sorry for your loss, I am glad to hear that he was able to give his little girl away. Congratulations on the wedding, you two look like an exceptional couple.
 
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