Passing Down a Well-Used Knife

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You’ve all seen a Sebenza before, but I wanted to share the story behind why I purchased mine because it directly relates to this community.

Back in 2017, I joined Blade Forums because I needed some advice. You see, my sister-in-law was dying from breast cancer that had aggressively invaded her brain and spine.
We learned the cancer we thought she’d beaten had returned, and in a worse form. The doctors told us she had 2 weeks to live. We were all stunned.

My sister-in-law asked for my help. She wanted to give pocket knives to her 2 boys. Something that would last a lifetime and with handles where we could engrave their names, written in her handwriting.

Blade Forums members almost unanimously said, “Sebenza.” I purchased 2 small Sebenzas (one a left-handed version, which was an added benefit for lefty Troy). They arrived quickly and were engraved in just a few days. I'm grateful for that. Cassy passed away 7 days later.

As an additional note, I was overwhelmed by a particular member of this forum. Whitty, who runs a store here (USA Made Blade). Whitty offered two knives of my choice for that purpose, free of charge. I declined his kind offer, but still that gesture resonates with me and my family. A stranger offering such remarkable kindness. As soon as I was in the market again, his store was my first stop. Alas, no Sebenzas in stock.

Well, I remember being so impressed by the quality of those knives, but never thought I’d spend $400+ on a single knife myself. I was wrong.

Here we are, 3 years later and my mother-in-law at the age of 66 is fighting pancreatic cancer. As such, I’ve spent a lot of time lately thinking of my own mortality.

Last week, I purchased a large plain Sebenza 31 with the intention of using the crap out of this knife. Use it so much that my son (who is 12 now) knows this as dad’s knife. I’ve told my wife the Sebenza goes to him when I’m no longer here.

I’ve included pictures of what we did for my nephews, but also my new large Sebenza before it starts to wear. I’m looking forward to the character that titanium will take over hopefully decades of use.

The little Spyderco Dragonfly in G-10 is for the 5th pocket & for people who ask to use my knife. Everyone knows I always have one.

Thankfully,
Tim
 

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Great story and it highlights how much a knife can mean to someone and if it's maintained, can last a lifetime. I have a large Buck 110 knockoff made by Schrade that was my fathers fishing knife. 3.5" inch blade and it weighs 8.1 oz and it's been sharpened by my dad with his Japanese wet stones from the 50's. Every time I look at that knife I think of my dad. I'm sure your nephews will cherish those knives.
 
Sorry to hear about your sister in law and mother in law, but that is a really touching story with the engraved knives.
My dad is into polishing and making things look good (always has the cleanest car in the neighborhood), and since I’ve gotten him into knives he has done some pretty cool things with them.
For example, most of his knives have something unique. He sanded, clearcoated, polished a few ZT clips for me. He turned his method into sort of a “black chrome” blade, and my favorite is my Kershaw Asset, which has a black chrome clip, and a satin blade (just like a 0452).
I know it’s not much but I think it’s really cool, and ever since he modified the Kershaw I will never get rid of it, or the very good looking clips he did for me.

Edit: sorry if I derailed a bit, but that is a special knife for me, and if he was no longer here it would be my favorite.
 
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Cancer sucks ass. Sorry for your loss and about you MIL. My wife lost her dad 5 years ago to cancer and now her mom will most likely be passing away from it soon as well. Everyone hug your loved ones and make sure they know how much they mean to you.
 
Sorry for the losses! That's a great way to be remembered, every day, every time they are used they will bear memories for each.of them!! Thanks for sharing your story! May your new sebenza give you many faithful years of service before doing the same for your son!!
Best,

James
 
My condolences for your losses Tim. Thanks for sharing the great story. Hopefully it will be a long while before your son gets the Sebenza but a plan in place is a smart thing to do.
 
dealing with loss is seldom ever easy.
terminal illness is tough time for everyone in the circle.
and a particularly sad period to have to go through.
there is much comfort in knowing that friends and family will do their best to
care for the sick.
close family support is probably the most
important element in the battle for hope.
that being said with every ending
comes a new begining for those
who are left behind.
its is heartwarming to be filled
with memories which matter.
and if the message has been
communicated well enough,
the sadness will give in to hope.
in this day and age we have
means to record messages
and even videos to remember
people by. but nothing beats
a momento with a personal
message like a simple "i love you"
to burst the flood gates of all
the good times for the rest of
one's natural life.
thank you for sharing.
life is short and unpredictable.
our earthly time is a precious gift
please remember to use it well.
 
Thank you for sharing and the Sebenza will be valued when handed down, the more so when you take time to use it now and make some memories.
 
Please accept my condolences. I've also dealt with more death to cancer than I care to admit. Cancer is a selfish b!tch that just takes what she wants. It took my dad in 2015, it tried to take me in 2018, and it took one of my best friends just last month.

The loss of my friend hit hard, and it's still hitting me hard. He gave me a custom fixed blade damascus knife four years ago, and the handle is made from a mammoth tooth that he found. It's a work of art that I don't carry very much, so I bought a damascus Sebenza 31 as a user instead. Every time I put that 31 in my pocket, I think of him.
 
To all going through this I pray for you and wish for hope and love to be with you.

tas237 tas237 I never had a good connection with the generations before me, my family is totally disconnected and unstable mentally. I only have 2 objects to connect them, both watches. One is a wind up, still works perfectly!

I spend good money on these blades, knowing they will last and that I will give them to the important people in my life. My family is my life, and I promised we would break cycle of dysfunctionality. They think I'm crazy spending this kind of money on a knife, buy once cry once!
 
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