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I've gone and ranted and raved several times over the years of how I want to lose weight. I've changed habits, adopted different things, but still kept my unhealthy mental fascination with food, and the usage of food as a reward (yes I know I give my pups a treat when they're good).

Due to my obesity and size, my dreams when I was in my 20's were reduced to a few long walks in easily accessible parks. I'm going to be 36 soon, on the downward slope to 40. I have been battling the bulge, really back on the wagon, since about May of last year. I might've even posted a thread about it. I think I was exhausted after a long drive into the mountains for my father for a tractor wheel, and wanted to go for a kayak trip in an area of the Susquehanna between York and Lancaster.

I have been going to Scott Gossmans campout for some time now, but have never stayed the night. I have attended a wilderness survival class by Kevin Estela. The biggest thing I took away from that is that I can survive, but not at this size.

In the fall, I had another impetus, one of them being that a lot of heavy and not so heavy people had lost amazing amounts of weight, at work, on here and in my general circle (not orbital circle ;) ). I started walking a mile every night, and three miles on the weekends. I cut out all sodas, flavored teas, snack foods etc. I had a setback, after losing about twenty pounds, had wisdom teeth extracted and I fell off the walking wagon for a couple weeks. Got back on it a couple months ago, and feel better.

Last week, I had some chest tightness/right arm pain and tightness in my legs, which prevented me from walking, and I eventually went to the ER, where they kept me for a few days. I didn't have a heart attack or stroke but had all of the symptoms of them, and they determined it was my weakened heart due to diabetes and sleep apnea. Not what you want to hear at 36, or any age. So, I've cut my ties to breads/pasta/rice/potatoes etc, been checking my sugar as opposed to maybe once a couple months before, and have made an appt for a follow up sleep study.

I walk a mile every night in northwestern Harford County, as some call it God's country. It is beautiful, especially at night. I am looking for some things that I can do to build stamina, and muscle and lose weight. I do take diabetic meds, and those make weight loss harder, but the fact that I was still eating bad stuff was the culprit. I am scared to death that the coming hot weather will have an impact on stamina, and the mile will be decreased to a half mile. I have swelling of the legs and feet, a broken leg that has healed incorrectly because of all the weight it has to cart around, a broken spine that has healed incorrectly because of the same, and broken ribs and chest cartilage, that have healed incorrectly because, you guessed it, of all the weight. I know I'm going to live life with those issues, but I don't want to force my body to carry that cargo around. It's preventing me from getting out and doing what I've wanted to do.

It's kind of do it or die now, I don't want to end up in the hospital long term, stroke, whatever. I've got an appt with the podiatrist coming up Friday, appts with the optometrist next week, the endocrinologist and nutrititionist coming up and a sleep study next weekend. I don't want to do all of these things, but in ten years, when I am in a tent on a nice spring night in the mountains after hiking ten miles that day, I'll be glad I'm not laying in a hospital bed wishing I was on the trail like I did last week.
 
Hey I think getting a plan together like you are with Dr's and nutritionist is definitely the right thing to do. Ask them if you can do any weight/resistance work outs - dumbells or bands, etc. If they say it's OK or maybe OK to do certain ones, that's very helpful from what I understand. Muscle constantly burns fat, even when you're not working out, so building it up could be a great asset to your efforts. God bless on this!
 
Continue to set reasonable goals and realistic expectations for yourself and you'll eventually see the change you want. Modifying the diet is step #1 and regular exercise is #2. Keep it up! Hope to see you around here for many years!
 
First of all, good on you for admitting that you have a problem and resolving to solve it. I also REALLY like the title of your post. If you live by that, then the rest is just details.

I was a VERY skinny kid in HS. At 47, I have seen my adult weight fluctuate between 195 (bad) and 165 (maybe too skinny). Here is what I have learned:
- losing weight takes a lot of will power and work.
- the older you get, the harder it gets.
- everyone has a fad diet or an exercise plan that they want to sell you. Some may work, but imho, a lot are BS.
- the key to weight loss / getting in shape is simple: exercise more, eat less.
- for dramatic weight loss, exercise A LOT MORE, eat less and eat healthy. (what is eating healthy? i can't tell you for sure. i think there is a lot of conflicting info out there. a lot of folks have a financial interest in you following a diet that makes money for them, so i think that the fad diets are mostly bs. for me, eating healthy means eating almost no processed foods, lots of veggies, fruit, animal protein, whole grains, no soda, little alcohol, and keeping calories at a reasonable level. ymmv.)
- start slow, monitor your progress and DO NOT STOP! make adjustments if what you are doing is not working, but DO NOT STOP.

I am just an average guy, and claim no special knowledge. I am just sharing what works for me. Although I have had my weight spike up to 195 a few times, by "eating healthy" and consistently exercising, I have been able mostly to keep my weight in the 170 - 175 range. For me, that is pretty good.

I wish you all the best. If you stay committed to this, you can lose weight and get in shape!
 
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Learn about real nutrition and work with that .Stay away from fad diets !!
 
Pretty much any simple starch or sweet will trigger my appetite. Green beans don't, sweet corn does. When I am able to stay on a low carb diet everything but my triglycerides goes down. Think about the foods that trigger your lapses and avoid them like the plague. If you have type 2 diabetes the change in diet/exercise might help with it. And yes, as you age it becomes more difficult.
 
I know how you feel. I was in the same boat as you are, only my ship was in the water 25 years ago. I went from a waist size of 61" to 39" over the period of 1.5 years. I have remained at the 39" waistline ever since. I'm now 45 years old, am 6'1" and weight 230 lbs.

How did I get there initially?

Suzie Q's, wet bottom shoe-fly pies, soda and everything you SHOULDN'T eat in large quantities....


What did it take to lose the weight?

1. Damn near starving myself, and;
2. Stupid amounts of exercise.

Now when I say "starve myself," I'm obviously not entirely serious but I will say this much....I learned to hate salads, fish and chicken for a long, long time.

The exercise I did was nothing crazy - just walking.....but walking up steep hills and mountains [I have a small "580' above seal level" mountain] in town. The trick is to make your "trips" take less time. Every time I went for a walk, I'd try to shave off 5-10 minutes from the previous time. Mind you, my first trip took almost 4 hours to make a 3 mile 'hike' up that mountain but I got that down to just over 50 mins. At some locations, that mountain had an 18% grade [as per the road sign for big rigs]. That is steeeeeeeeeeep when you are "big"....

I can only offer two things:

Persistence and resolution to get the job done.

I'm not going to lie....I thought about giving up a hundred times and it was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do by myself. The only thing I really had going for me is that I'm a stubborn SOB.

I got down to 39" and that's pretty much where I 'plateaued'. I've been there ever since.
 
I was going through old clothes I didn't know I had, and came across a pair of pants that were pretty small. I remember being angry when I bought them, they were expensive and they were too big for me. Now I wish I hadn't grown into them. I do have a slight incline on the 1 mile walks, but I have to do more of the 3 mile hikes. I'd like to do one this Saturday night.
 
This crisis may be what is needed to literally save your life.
I would encourage you, in addition to what others have said here, to reach out to family,good friends and co-workers. Allow them to be part of this transition that has to take place. There are people that care about you and want you around for a long time. Be honest with those close to you and get some accountability partners. Let those close to you that you won't be eating junk any longer. Avoid fad diets and get with that nutritionist. Eat normal food that you like, just shrink the portions. Have healthy, small snacks around for cravings and hunger. Anyhow......you can do this. Others have done it. I write this as someone who has struggled with similar problems.
Remember the scene from "the edge" when Hopkins character makes the other guy repeat, " what one man can do, another can do !!!"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=O9ajZhH-yds
 
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Similarly, my metabolism came to a screeching halt at about age 30 or 35. Even with a job that involved walking all day, every day, I still never lost much weight on account of the junk food and eating out lifestyle that's hard to avoid when living on the road and sleeping in motels.
Then I really put on a "few pounds" when changing careers to a job with less physical activity.
Went to the doctor yesterday and I've been the exact same weight for the last three years. The nurse thought that was pretty good, that I hadn't gained any weight, but that's not really what I was aiming for. :foot:

Obviously I need to eat less and exercise more... :rolleyes:
 
Eat less? Often it is eat different, not less. Best of luck with this guys. I recently went the other way. An uncontrollable, unstoppable weight loss having to do with a medical condition. I beat it and stabilized, for the time being, at a comfortable and healthy weight. But it did take some work. In my case forcing myself to eat when I was not hungry. And consuming a lot of fatty, sugary foods.
 
Good on you for taking the plunge! Regarding your back and leg, have you considered a physical therapist? It may be that orthotics + therapy can help.
 
Lot's of good comments here.

Remember, it is not a complex equation: eat less calories, exercise more (burn more calories).

YOU CAN DO IT! Commit, and hang in there.
 
I would add that the "calorie" us a misleading advertised quantity. They only matter when you arecounting backwards, i.e. working to lose them.

It is possible to eat 700 calories, that contain the macro-nutrients, and vitamins equal to cardboard! In the end you will be hungry and malnurished despite having eaten those calories.

As NCRockclimber said, I agree, eat naturally. If it grew out of the ground, was picked from a limb, or cut out of an animal, it's the most nutrient dense foods we as humans have in our food chain. Eat that stuff and forget all the other aisles in the damn store.
 
Set some short term goals and because success usually means more success, you may find this a motivator towards your long term goal.
I did this when I went through something similar.
" what one man can do, another can do "
 
Plan
What diet at what carbohydrate and what caloric intake
What exercise daily will burn what calories
Known diet and known exercise equals caloric burn = Weight lose

It might take a long time but it is a known planned way
Take out the guess work
Plan
Set realizable goals and set them with professionals
Dietitian and a Physio therapist
Then get your doctors buy in in regard to medication

G-d bless you in your endeavors

Background.........
Two years ago I found out I have diabetes Type II
I live by myself
I now shop and cook for myself
I do not buy what is destructive to me
Does not mean I do not crave sugar
It is harder than when I quit smoking
 
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Im not good with words, by any means, so I will simply wish you the best of luck. My only advice I can give would be ask a doctor to help you figure out a diet and excercise schedule. You say you are afraid he summer heat will stop you..well, why not try a gym..elipticals, treadmills, etx. Or, if you can afford it, maybe buy a reasonably priced one. I often found walking on an eliptical while watching a tv show, to take my mind off things.
 
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