Scattering Dad on the Emerald Isle

Steely_Gunz

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If you guys could spare it, my wife and I could use a little positive smoke Friday-Friday. As some of you know, her father passed away in January. Part of the planned closure of his death is to scatter part of him in a trout stream. The other part will be mixed with my mother-in-law once she passes away.

This originally was planned to be a trip out to california where he grew up and often traveled to for the fishing. However, my mother-in-law has decided that we should make a big trip out of it. They went to Ireland three times over the last 10 years, and loved it. He loved to fish there. Also, this is the primordial pool from which both my wife's family as well as my own sprung from (she was a McCormick. I'm a Kelley;)). So, mom is treating us to a trip across the pond to see all the green and leave a part of dad behind.

A little smoke would be so appreciated. We're going to be there to have a good time, but we're also going to have to let go of some of dad. Also, I'm not really big on planes. This will be my first time going over the water, and I'm not super excited about it. Ativan should help.

Now for a special concern of mine: I am going to be stuck on plane with my brother and sister in law for like 8 hours. Also, I'm going to be spending a week with them. I love them to death. I really do. However, it's in more of well-thanksgiving-is-over-so-get-the-hell-out-of-my-house kind of way;) They are large people. They are loud people. They are extremely passionate people. They will literally be slobbering all over one another making baby coos one minute, then nearly coming to blows the next. It really depends on their level of medication at the moment. The cars in Europe are small. A little smoke for patience would be very appreciated.
On top of that, my poor mother in law needs her knee replaced. She's needed it for years, but has always had it take a backseat while dad was sick. She was going to get it done this summer, but her quack of a doctor gave her the wrong meds and she passed out, fell, and tore her rotator cuff. She had to get that fixed instead of her knee. That procedure is coming this winter. Ireland is not known for it's flat even terrain, so a little smoke for mom's locomotion would be great;)

So, jet lag, flight anxiety, a hobbling mother-in-law, overly passionate siblings, and the emotional strain of letting go of the physical remains of one of the greatest men I have ever known. Am I leaving anything out?;) My wife and I were worried that she could be up to 3 months pregnant at the time of this trip. However, blessing or not, this has not come to pass yet. I think maybe the Big Guy Upstairs is just throwing me a bone.

Thank the good Lord for pubs and pub food:thumbup:
 
Learn to doze off. Great way to get through arduous plane flights. And family gatherings. I slept through a thunderstorm on my second flight.
 
Thanks guys:)

Ativan is probably the greatest controlled substance in the world. I've had a lot of success using it to fly cross country. You're sleepy enough to nap in those cramped seats. You're loopy enough to find humor in the little things (I once got a case of the giggles playing with a gum wrapper:o). About the only thing it's not good for is watching movies or reading a book. I read a book cover to cover between layover and flight. Have no idea what it was about save the Knights Templar:eek:

The good thing is that I think I should be able to sleep...maybe. I'm going to have to on the way there. We touch down at 7am Dublin time Saturday morning, and we hit the ground running.
 
Prayers out for you Jake. Have a good trip and 'try' to ignore all the drama. Give your dad-in-law a great send off :)
 
Jake?

It'll be fine.

Irish sentimental...a little goes a long way, but what the hell?

My favorite Irish joke:
Why does it take five Irishmen to change a light-bulb?
One to change it, and four to remark about how grand the old bulb was.
(We Irish can get melancholy about anything.)

You can manage more time, in total, away from the in-laws than the amount you will have to spend with them.

Just put the anticipation of the dreaded times away in a room in your mind, lock that door, and leave all the good parts of the trip out to savor.

Oh, and smoke a good cigar before the trip, save the ashes, and mix them with the remains you scatter. Dad will enjoy it.

:)
 
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Damn Jake. Sorry to hear of all this stuff. You've my smoke brother, of course.
 
Learn to speak incoherently. Youtube probably has some Keith Richards interview videos for use as tutorials. :rolleyes:
 
Take walks. The Land will take care of many of your worries. A primordial pool? Wow. That is about as cool and spiritual as it can get.
Air travel does Suck though...
Smoke for a Journey of Significance :thumbup:
 
Smoke and heartfelt wishes for you, your wife and family's safe journey. I bring my own slippers and a fleece pillow on long plane trips. Maybe re-read 'The Hobbit' and you'll soon get to see some greenery likened to the book. Take care Jake, it is a special way to send off a loved one.

Mark and Holly
 
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Smoke and prayers for safe trip, Jake
 
There's a Buddhist teaching that the universe presents you with the Buddha (learning experience, opportunity for growth, etc.) that you most need at that time. Sounds like the challenges here are like that - nothing you can't handle, but maybe not so pleasant at the time. :D

Smoke for safe travels, and patience, and finding the perfect pool of cool green water for dad's ashes to drift down through before he makes it back up the food chain into a silvery trout.
 
Smoke for safe travels, and patience, and finding the perfect pool of cool green water for dad's ashes to drift down through before he makes it back up the food chain into a silvery trout.

LOL, you have no idea, but that is my father-in-law to a T. A spiritual, yet practical conservationist of a man. "I don't want to take up any space. We don't have enough as it is. When I'm cremated, they don't have to put me in anything. If they MUST, make it cardboard or something. Don't waste any nice wood."
"I want to be scattered in a clear stream so that my ashes contribute to the ecosystem."

I've found a lot to look forward to this trip. It's time with my family on a once and a lifetime adventure. My meager means would never allow for my wife and I to visit Europe, well certainly not before we were in our golden years. We're only available to afford this because of the money he left mom.

On a morbid yet somber note, my final gift to my father in law and a duty to my family is to be the one who literally scoops some of dad's ashes out of the main urn and places them in the smaller urn before we leave town. His calculated practicality is not a gene that was passed on to either of his children. Being the one that has to handle the remains beyond tapping them out over the water is not something that anyone else in the family would be able to do. I mean that's their dad/husband in there. It's a final, and some what dirty job, that has to be done before we leave tomorrow. It's the least I can do for a man that did so very much for me.

Thanks so much, guys.
I'll see you all in a little over a week:thumbup:

Dad's favorite Irish Blessing/Toast

May those that love us love us
And those that don't love us
May God turn their hearts
And if He cannot turn their hearts
May he turn their ankles
So that we will know them by their limping

Isn't that a wonderfully passive aggressive and distinctly Irish thing to say?:D
 
"May those that love us love us
And those that don't love us
May God turn their hearts
And if He cannot turn their hearts
May he turn their ankles
So that we will know them by their limping..."

:D My mom loved that phrase.

Here's one for you,"Tá súil agam go bhfuil turas sábháilte agat," - I hope that you have a safe trip.

You'll love it over there, despite the nature of the journey. Enjoy the Guiness, Jake.


Mike

P.S. Tell no one, "pug mahone." It's not a traditional greeting.
 
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