I'd like if at all possible to get a shaving edge (who wouldn't) maybe I'm expecting too much...
No sir, you are NOT expecting too much. I consider a shaving edge to be standard, and it's not difficult to achieve. I'm not familiar with the dog-bone you use, maybe it's a bit coarse? Unfortunately, it often takes a bit of work to get a factory knife's bevels lined up nicely; that's likely part of the problem, as others have said. Stropping is for final polishing or touch-up on an already sharp edge.
Keeping the angles nice and even is the skill part of sharpening, it only comes with practice. Going slow and paying attention to the angle is best. If you're like me, the first knives you learn to sharpen on will have kind of messy bevels and scratches on the flats and stuff, don't sweat it. Get those edges as sharp as you can with that dog bone only, to set the bevels. Once you have that down, polishing the edge to a near mirror polish will go quickly with a finer stone or strop.
If/when you see grey grunge on the sharpener after some use, that's tiny bits of steel caught in the pores. The stone won't work worth a damn if it gets all clogged up. On ceramic, diamond and Arkansas stones, some Comet or Bon Ami cleanser, a little water, and a toothbrush has worked very well for me to clean them up.
Hang in there man, you've been asking all the right questions and soon your friends will want you to sharpen thier knives for them
