Should I be offended?

wvriverats

wvriverats

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A while back I gave my cousin a Spyderco Salt1 after seeing what he was carrying around and trying to use as a knife. The Salt was used but in good shape. I sharpened it up to shaving sharp and told him to just bring it over whenever it needed sharpened again. I was looking to change up my edc and saw it as an opportunity to do us both a favor. Yesterday he comes over to visit with what you guys would refer to as a "jarbenza" clipped in his pocket. He said that he leaves the knife I gave him at home. Afraid someone at work would manage to pocket it. I sharpened his beat up turd of a knife and never said anything about it, but I was a little disappointed. I think that I would rather have him lose a good knife or get it stolen than to let it sit in a drawer. Am I crazy? :confused::grumpy:
 
Maybe not crazy but expecting your values in others might push you there in time.

Perhaps he'll carry the Salt as a special wedding or barbeque event knife.

Best.
 
It just means your Cuz, treasures your gift to him.
It's really a compliment. It just doesn't feel that way to you.
 
Yeah, it's definitely a compliment. But I can see why it upsets you. I would just explain why he should use the hell out of it:thumbup:
 
He'd likely feel terrible if your nice gift to him was taken. He likely wouldn't feel the same if it happened to his other knives. Even if it doesn't make sense to us, I can see it.
 
Definitely a sign that he values your gift and doesn't want anything to happen to it. If you care to intervene, let him know that it is a user knife and it would mean more to you if he carried it regularly.
 
He just forgot to carry the knife you gave him when he stands a chance of seeing you. Kinda like when Aunt Hazel came over, you had to wear the fugly sweater she gave you for Christmas.
 
Not everyone wants to carry a valuable knife (whether it's monetary or not). I know many people who carry inexpensive throw away knives everyday.
 
I know the feeling. I gifted my brother-in-law a CB Leek and have yet to see it on him. I do see his old, no longer working, beat to hell, flea market auto he carries. He says the Leek is too nice to use and he leaves it at home so he doesn't lose it. I can understand where he's coming from, if you had given me a Composite Leek when I knew nothing about knives I would have been afraid to use it too. But it does kind of make me feel like I wasted a good knife. Oh well, it was a $75 knife so I can't get upset over it. Had it been a $200 Benchmade or something I'd be a little more inclined to moan.
 
wvriverats said:
A while back I gave my cousin a Spyderco Salt1 after seeing what he was carrying around and trying to use as a knife. The Salt was used but in good shape. I sharpened it up to shaving sharp and told him to just bring it over whenever it needed sharpened again. I was looking to change up my edc and saw it as an opportunity to do us both a favor. Yesterday he comes over to visit with what you guys would refer to as a "jarbenza" clipped in his pocket. He said that he leaves the knife I gave him at home. Afraid someone at work would manage to pocket it. I sharpened his beat up turd of a knife and never said anything about it, but I was a little disappointed. I think that I would rather have him lose a good knife or get it stolen than to let it sit in a drawer. Am I crazy? :confused::grumpy:
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No, you not crazy.

Word of advise, REFUSE TO BE OFFENDED.
 
Maybe the guy likes the junk knife more than the good knife? Some people value looks over function. It'd suck to get a gift that I was grateful for but didn't particularly care for and the person who gave it to me came up trying to guilt me into carrying it. I say that you did right by giving him something nice and he did right by graciously accepting it. After that you might want to let sleeping dogs lie.
 
Hey hey, don't underestimate the power of the Jarbenza!

Seriously speaking, I wouldn't be offended. That's pretty cool that he values it enough to keep it at home. Do I think he should carry the hell out of it? Absolutely. But different strokes, ya know.
 
Nope, don't be offended. You'll be glad when years later he still has it and uses it every once in a while. Nothing wrong with keeping it in good condition.
 
Maybe he lost, broke, or sold it and he didn't want to tell you.

If I knew that someone needed a quality knife, and if I gave them a quality knife, and if they chose instead to carry a junk knife, that would bother me a bit. But of course, when you give someone a gift, it's theirs to do with as they choose.
 
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He doesn't see it as a used knife, but as a gift from someone he respects.

Plus, he understands the environment he works in. Respect his choice.
 
wvriverats said:
A while back I gave my cousin a Spyderco Salt1 after seeing what he was carrying around and trying to use as a knife. The Salt was used but in good shape. I sharpened it up to shaving sharp and told him to just bring it over whenever it needed sharpened again. I was looking to change up my edc and saw it as an opportunity to do us both a favor. Yesterday he comes over to visit with what you guys would refer to as a "jarbenza" clipped in his pocket. He said that he leaves the knife I gave him at home. Afraid someone at work would manage to pocket it. I sharpened his beat up turd of a knife and never said anything about it, but I was a little disappointed. I think that I would rather have him lose a good knife or get it stolen than to let it sit in a drawer. Am I crazy? :confused::grumpy:
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Maybe your cousin knows the people he works with better than you do, and has good reason to suspect it being a possibility. So why take valuables through a known den of thieves?
 
What everyone else says. Don't fret over it but if you really do care just tell him you don't mind if it gets used abused and lost/stolen as long as he enjoys it :)
 
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