smoke and prayers needed...

manghu67

manghu67

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never thought id be posting one of these asking, but here it is...

close family member (and thus myself) is having a very rough time mentally right now... im nearing my wits end because i want so badly to be able to fix her, but i cant... trying to remain positive, but its really hard right now...

smoke and prayers needed badly to see us through this...

this really sucks..
 
My wife has had a 'tough time mentally" but it was a chem imbalance, and her meds have really helped her confront her past and move inn to the now.

Love her dearly, as I'm sure you love your kin.

Keith
 
All I can suggest is this. mental illness can be very real and devastating to whomever it afflicts. And they may be unable to say I need help. So its up to the combined efforts of loved ones to takem by the hand and get them the help they desperatly need.

I know, I've been their and don't want to go back their. Their are a lot of good mental health people out their. Who are willing to help. You just have to find the right one and tell her she is not alone! And that many people, famous ones even have suffered from some type of chemical imbalance.

And their is no shame in seeking help for it.

I mean if you have a bad tooth you go to a dentist. right?
If you break something like a bone you go to an orthopedic doctor. etc.
And if it's your thoughts you go to a psychiatrist or psychologist its just logical. I did and it does work!!!
The point is that you get help when you need it.

And tell her people she don't even know are prayong for her! I wish you and her both well.
 
Ferrous Wheel said:
My wife has had a 'tough time mentally" but it was a chem imbalance, and her meds have really helped her confront her past and move inn to the now.

Love her dearly, as I'm sure you love your kin.

Keith
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its my wife... shes on meds right now, but this last week, they dont seem to be helping... she has past issues that shes struggling with, and is suffering from ptsd... this deal is killing me, man... i keep thinking there has to be something that i can do, but other than just being there for her, i cant do squat...

we arent afraid to seek help, BuraFan... we are both seeing a therapist... therapist suggested an adjustment of meds on thursday when we saw her, and has scheduled an eval with a psychiatrist this comming week...

im just deeply worried, and very worn out...

im hanging in there (not much else to be done)...

thanks for smoke and prayers, all... we need all the help we can get...

ill check in later...
 
manghu67 said:
its my wife... shes on meds right now, but this last week, they dont seem to be helping... she has past issues that shes struggling with, and is suffering from ptsd... this deal is killing me, man... i keep thinking there has to be something that i can do, but other than just being there for her, i cant do squat...

we arent afraid to seek help, BuraFan... we are both seeing a therapist... therapist suggested an adjustment of meds on thursday when we saw her, and has scheduled an eval with a psychiatrist this comming week...

im just deeply worried, and very worn out...

im hanging in there (not much else to be done)...

thanks for smoke and prayers, all... we need all the help we can get...

ill check in later...
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Dear Manghu67,
I'm sorry I misinterpreted what you had written. But, I do sincerely wish you the best! One bright side is this. I cannot tell you their is any majic pill out their but their is some alteratives. It takes somewhere between 1 and 2 weeks for a medication to take full effect. At least that is what I discovered with my drugs. First I was on Prozac made me so anxious I couldnt stand it. I tried this forever I thought I was gonna die.

The second drug has turned out to have worked real wonderful for me. It is called zoloft and I have never been happier. Their is hope my friend and I know your hurting!!! Hang in their and know this isn't the lady you married she is sick emotionally not because of you but from some past experiences.

Here is some insight into my depression that may or may not help you.
I was horribly sexually abused from age 7 to 13. Daddy worked all the time at the plant. And a local black woman kept us She never let me outside. I always had a green army man in my hand and escaped the only way I knew how through fantasy.

I'm not saying she was abused or anything but trying to give you some hope.
Hang tough you can overcome anything!!!

We all have issues sometimes they don't catch up to us until later in life. But, they can be overcome half the battle is admitting they happened.........

Baby steps my friend is all you both can take right now my friend.
But, as long as you both perservere you will make it. And be closer for it!
It's that one liner I guess. For Better Or Worse ...
 
you didnt misinterpet, BuraFan... thanks for the advice... its much appreciated...

and thanks again, all... more later...
 
Manghu67: I know more of ptsd and depession than I'm willing to talk about. Living with an autistic kid is only part of it. Sending smoke for your wife.
 
Done. I had to put one of my ex's in the hospital once years ago for similar. Warn't no fun at all.:(
 
manghu,

You've heard this before, let me say it again-

1. Remember what she says now may not be the real story so take everything carefully. If she hurts your feelings with something, shelf it- it may not be an accurate event.

2. Remember you're in it for the long haul, so don't get bogged down in reaction over a single event. I'm talking to you now, this advice is not for her. She's allowed to get bogged or unbogged as she sees fit. In other words, like a bad acid trip, remember, "this too shall pass". EVEN IF IT SEEMS TO BE WRITTEN IN STONE. No matter how terrible the damage seems, please think of this.

you'll make it.


munk
 
thanks for the support and advice, guys...

she admited herself to the hospital last night... that is one of the hardest things ive ever had to go through... my army experiences didnt touch that... i didnt get home until about 4.30am... headed back up there now... i am a zombie... man, i just want my wife back...

found out she stopped taking her meds about two weeks ago, so hopefully thats all it is and she just needs an adjustment...

thanks again, all...
 
Manghu?


Get some rest. Eat a solid meal (Personally, I recommend crisp bacon, eggs over easy, hash browns, country toast with strawberry jam, and maybe a side of pork sausage. :) )

huh? what was I saying? Oh, yeah....

Get some rest, eat a solid meal, take your own self out for a long walk, run, bike ride...something physical.

Sit someplace outside with minimal noise and people, or barring that, in a church of your choice...or hell, even one you've never been to before.

Go back to the house and either nap, or clean the kitchen or paint the bathroom, or clean a closet.

Then, maybe make something...from a book shelf to an essay.

It will get better, truly.


Kis
 
Chemical imbalances are a bitch. My wife has them, too, though not as bad.

Manghu, Kis's advice is sound (like he needs my approval), but I'd add some fruit to the meal.

Here's hoping that the most optimistic scenario plays out, and it's only the meds. Scary that she stopped taking them, though.
 
Glad to hear she is in good hands. And maybe you can get a few breaths in between sounds like you and her both are on the right path;And I wish you both a happy and healthy life to come.
 
you guys are awesome... thanks again for everything...

KIS, your advice did the trick...

wife has been improving all day long! not out of the woods yet, but things are looking really good... smoke prayers and meds seem to be doing the trick... seeing the head doc tomorrow... more later... i must rack out now...

peace...

dj
 
seeing the head doc tomorrow... more later... i must rack out now...>>>>>>>

I like seeing the Head Doctor after the Foot Doctor... ok ok

'''''


I'm so glad things are looking better. Breaking down is hard to do.


munk
 
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