Some good news and some very bad news

theamazingdrew

theamazingdrew

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Well i guess I will start with the good news, my taxes came back today 3200$!!! im pretty happy this will give me an excuse to take an extra trip this summer and get some new gear.

and some s***** news, I have been looking after my 93yo grandmother at her apartment gladstone OR for the past 5 months, she has alzheimers and usally the 2 last hours of everyday for the past 5 months i have spent trying to get her calmed down and in bed. The rest of the day you would think she a normal old lady but the last few hours and she forgets who I am and where she is. She passed away about 2 hours ago due to old age, it has been hard on me I have been crying for the whole time and decided i should post it up here and try to ease the loss..... So I will be taking all of her precious belongings and heading to my house in Baker city or I may head to my little house in the grasslands of utah and get away from it all for a few weeks...
well thought I would share this with my support group here in WSS
thanks for the support
-Andrew
 
Aw, shoot Andrew. I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like you were an attentive and caring grandson, and I'm sure it was appreciated.

Take care. I hope that you get the opportunity to hit the grasslands for a few weeks.

All the best,

- Mike
 
My condolences to you and yours ..... Your a good man for looking after her.
 
Hey Andrew,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I knew what to say to make you suffer less, but I don't.

Alzheimer's is a terrible, terrible thing. It robs you of your dignity and your identity. Your grandmother no longer is confused or suffering. For this, be grateful.

Doc
 
DOC-CANADA said:
Hey Andrew,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I knew what to say to make you suffer less, but I don't.

Alzheimer's is a terrible, terrible thing. It robs you of your dignity and your identity. Your grandmother no longer is confused or suffering. For this, be grateful.

Doc
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It was hard on her........
she lived a good life thats for sure...
thanks guys this has helped alot, I dont think i will be sleeping much the next few days.
I made up my mind and I am headed to my place in utah this weekend Im going to take a leave from work and drop of the map for a month.
 
Sorry for your loss Andrew. Keep your head up and keep checking in with us :D Enjoy Utah, but don't "drop off" just hang LOW :D
 
My cabin (as i call it) has satalite and runs off a giant generator I bought some land 8 years ago out there and built it my family are the only people who even know it is there I dont even has an adress there....
After think this over for awhile I realized i have not told my family she died I think its time for some alcohol and phone calls. I will let you guys know how it goes....
 
Andrew,
My sincere condolences.
From what you wrote it seems you were a very caring and attentive grandson. You are to be commended.
I am truly sorry for your loss. At least you can carry on knowing you did what you could for her in her final difficult months.
My mother in law passed 2 weeks ago at 68 years of age after living with us the past 6 months. My wife is taking it as well as can be expected...hard.
You should take some time for yourself and do things to occupy your mind, but refrain from making big decisions for awhile.
Enjoy the good memories and think of all the things you can do for yourself now with that tax refund.
Got any "gee I wish I owned one of those" knives you haven't pulled the trigger on for one reason or another?
Hmmmmm!
Take care.

CP
 
Andrew,

You took care of her and that is something to be so incredibly proud of. You're a good man and that's a rare enough thing in this world.

You rest easy brother.
 
She had a good long life and a grandson that loved her, I hope I am that lucky. Don't be sad, remember good times and be glad she is in a better place and no longer confused. Chris
 
calls didnt go well, I dont talk to my family much other than my little brother who i try to contact twice a week at least.
my mom is on her way to see my father for the first time in 4 years (why shes going to him is beyond me)
anyway just thought i would let you guys know.
 
Andrew, you did good -- and so did your grandmother. She lived a long life, and she must have done something right to have someone as dedicated as you looking after her at the end, instead of depending on strangers.

It can never be easy losing someone we care for that much. But you did your part. Now you can go off to mourn by remembering better days together, and look forward to better days to come.
 
Andrew, you pulled some tough duty but in that, you stand relieved. As others have stated above, the fear and confusion are over. It sounds like a pretty complicated family dynamic. Will there be a memorial?

There may be a few more things to tough out with burial, family grief, and such, but I hope you can get some rest and maybe have others that can pour into you to replenish teh love and care you've expended on your grandmother.
 
Many people wouldn't have had the patience, loyalty, respect or decency to do what you did.
I'm sure that your grandmother knew this, appreciated it and loved you a hell of a lot for it.

You are a much better man than I.
 
you are to be commended for your efforts. It was a long road and you walked it. Sorry to hear about your loss. It is very difficult to have loved ones not recognize you at times. I have gone through that in the past. Peace be with you during this most difficult time. Regards, Loosearrow
 
Smoke and prayers up for your Grandmother and you. God speed to her on her journey. Take care of yourself.

AJ
 
My condolences Andrew.
Smoke and Prayers sent from Chicago.
Brighter days are coming
and Grandma will be shining the light.
 
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