Starting my lifestyle change

I.N.F.K

I.N.F.K

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Okay so since 2012 I have been plagued with chronic yeast infections due to terrible health choices. Basically I weigh 330 pounds right now, at 5' 11" and I'm only 22 years old. I know that it is because of my eating and one would think that after just one infection I would have changed my lifestyle by now. Especially since it sent to the hospital once and has racked up many bills from a multitude of doctors. It's like my body is saying to me that "this is not you, you don't need this" But no, in my own stupidity I just kept shoveling all this crap down my throat and chased it all down with nothing but liquor & soda. But I have had enough. So that's, why no more than ten minutes ago, I went in my pantry and threw out all my junk food and grains. I have left myself with nothing but lean meat, fish, veggies, and fruit. After three years of putting up with the recurring infections, depression, being criticised, friend zoned by ladies, and finding solace in junk food I'm done. I know that my quality of life could be so much more better if I was only fit, because being healthy isn't what I want. I want to be fit, I want to be able to walk around the pool without a shirt on. I want to be able to walk into a department store and buy off the rack, instead of having to go to a big and tall store. I want to change my god dang life
 
Go for it man! Stay strong... it's gonna suck for a while, but once the changes start happening it will get easier and easier. Maybe find some activity that is fun and gets your blood flowing. Good luck to you.
 
I say this in the most honest non insulating way, I think you might have other issues to deal with first. Being fit won't change depression, and many many formally heavy people aren't able to achieve the body they want because it's unrealistic. I truly wish you all the best, please reach out to that someone you most connect with in this life and begin a change for the better.

Nathan
 
SurpriseGoat said:
I say this in the most honest non insulating way, I think you might have other issues to deal with first. Being fit won't change depression, and many many formally heavy people aren't able to achieve the body they want because it's unrealistic. I truly wish you all the best, please reach out to that someone you most connect with in this life and begin a change for the better.

Nathan
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I believe that everyone has different levels of fitness depending on their build, I'm just aiming for my. If it takes me years to do so, so be it.
 
I.N.F.K said:
I believe that everyone has different levels of fitness depending on their build, I'm just aiming for my. If it takes me years to do so, so be it.
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That's actually an excellent attitude to have. Get there over years, not months or days. Do it slowly and do it right and you'll be much more likely to make the gains permanent.
 
Congratulations and best of luck. A word on depression: Depression is high cholesterol of mental illness. Both can be due to genetics, environmental factors, lifestyle, stress, etc. Both can be minor and annoying or severe and debilitating or even catastrophic and deadly. Again, in both conditions the sufferer may be able to control it with diet and exercise or require medication and intervention.

You, sir, are on the right track and my hat is off to you for going after what you want! You will almost certainly find some relief from depression, but do not be surprised if you need some extra help in the form of medication, if only for a short while. Meds can be a great leg-up on the road to recovery and can help the sufferer from slipping back to old behaviors or mental states. Again, think of high cholesterol. Some people use statins for a while and then move off them. But either way, it's about living healthy. You're doing that!

Another point, you can't go on meds until you get therapy from a doc. If you go this route, you'll get lots of great support for the changes you're making. Best of luck!

Zieg
 
Best bet is take a good break from any liquor or alcohol. A good long break.

You can do it!

Eric
 
I.N.F.K said:
Okay so since 2012 I have been plagued with chronic yeast infections due to terrible health choices. Basically I weigh 330 pounds right now, at 5' 11" and I'm only 22 years old. I know that it is because of my eating and one would think that after just one infection I would have changed my lifestyle by now. Especially since it sent to the hospital once and has racked up many bills from a multitude of doctors. It's like my body is saying to me that "this is not you, you don't need this" But no, in my own stupidity I just kept shoveling all this crap down my throat and chased it all down with nothing but liquor & soda. But I have had enough. So that's, why no more than ten minutes ago, I went in my pantry and threw out all my junk food and grains. I have left myself with nothing but lean meat, fish, veggies, and fruit. After three years of putting up with the recurring infections, depression, being criticised, friend zoned by ladies, and finding solace in junk food I'm done. I know that my quality of life could be so much more better if I was only fit, because being healthy isn't what I want. I want to be fit, I want to be able to walk around the pool without a shirt on. I want to be able to walk into a department store and buy off the rack, instead of having to go to a big and tall store. I want to change my god dang life
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You are a young man and should be able to recover relatively quickly from this. I would recommend checking out this quick film from Joe Cross:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JK6PogbLPjw

Cheers,

Frank
 
This is a good change. Your weight was going to kill you. My wife works in a hospital. She says that most of the younger sick people are obsese. Loose some weight. Take your time at it, but stay focused on your objectives. If the self imposed dieting doesn't work, consider surgery.

Personally I think obesity can cause depression especially over a long period of time. You see how people react to you socially and at work. It wears on you as you begin to see that you aren't like everyone else. You make excuses for yourself, but ultimately you know the root cause.

I feel sure there must be support groups like AA for dealing with this. Maybe this would be a good thing if such a thing is available in your neck of the woods.
 
Look into OA... Over-eaters Anonymous. Best of luck. Working the 12 steps will lead to freedom.
 
SurpriseGoat said:
I say this in the most honest non insulating way, I think you might have other issues to deal with first. Being fit won't change depression, and many many formally heavy people aren't able to achieve the body they want because it's unrealistic. I truly wish you all the best, please reach out to that someone you most connect with in this life and begin a change for the better.

Nathan
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It's too hot outside for insulation or insults, so praise Tintin for that. :D

I'll also say that sometimes we assume things are always too complicated for simple answers where psychology is concerned, because our lives and thoughts and emotions are very complicated. In some cases, however, being overweight might be the crux of the problem, if it's affecting self-esteem, health, and success with women/men. Unless someone is suffering from serious health concerns -- cardio-pulmonary, respiratory, or digestive ailments -- exercise and a healthy diet are always good ideas.

Fitness is relative, but even slow, steady improvements in small increments can add up to something noticeable in a few weeks of exercise and healthy eating. Whether you're working out to gain muscle mass and tone, or to reduce fat percentage and generally improve your health, once you see those differences in yourself, it's harder to quit exercising than it is to continue. It sounds like INFK has reasonable goals and expectations, so the only concern is to not let it become an obsession.

Other than that, it's something that will improve your general health, make you feel better in your own skin, increase your self-confidence, and often improve your outlook on life... things that some mathematicians believe equal 'happiness'. ;)

Good luck, INFK! You'll do fine. :):thumbup:
 
Good for you and best of luck. The Paleo lifestyle (look it up) seems like a wonderful opportunity to turn your life around and create a new lifestyle. Fad diets do not work, you must adopt a new way of living and embrace it.

I have seen firsthand the Paleo lifestyle give people like yourself another lease on life without the traditional sacrifices of a fad diet. Easy to understand, no count calories or points and makes you feel wonderful.
 
bravodelta said:
Good for you and best of luck. The Paleo lifestyle (look it up) seems like a wonderful opportunity to turn your life around and create a new lifestyle. Fad diets do not work, you must adopt a new way of living and embrace it.

I have seen firsthand the Paleo lifestyle give people like yourself another lease on life without the traditional sacrifices of a fad diet. Easy to understand, no count calories or points and makes you feel wonderful.
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I really hate to admit it, but the Paleo diet isn't bad. It's overly complicated and the supposed science the creator used to justify it is utter crap, but the actual diet is very healthy. Just beware the many, many people looking to spin off of its success.
 
Ok, now I'm pissed off. Don't care if I'm infracted. Some of you just have to be right, all the time. Do you have depression in your family?? Do you or someone you love suffer from it? Have you LOST those you love from it?? It doesn't matter if your thin, fat, tall, short, rich or pour!

He clearly states he has depression or depressive tendencies. Then goes on to say that this change is NOT for health reasons, only appearance. Which is exactly what a depressed person might say, believing that something as simple as losing a few pounds will change a life. There is so much more to it than that!

By all means, loose some weight. I and everyone here want you too. But you put the weight on didn't you? Sometimes you have to fix what's wrong inside you before you can move forward to a better life. You will need friends, family, and support. I wish you nothing but the best.

Also, I've been eating paleo during the week for over five years now. Weekends are cheat days. Crossfit in my garage gym. Lost 60 lbs, and settled in at 40-45 pounds lost. Have kept it off. Can't maintain a six pack in day to day life (and drink) but zero issues taking my shirt off at the pool. And still battle depression. Two of my cousins lost that battle. If I'm way off base I apologize to INFK.
 
Depression is something that you can't objectively diagnose on yourself. Other people who know you will see it, but for you it is natural.

I am no expert on loosing weight. I could stand to loose 15 lbs myself. Oh gee..... I know, 15 whole pounds?

I do shop in the big & tall shop because of a bit of a gut. Not huge. But it's there. There is no shame in shopping in the big & tall shop or area of a clothing store. I just like to have clothes that fit.

When I was 22, all I had to do was not eat dessert for a couple days and a few pounds would disappear. It doesn't work like that after 40ish. I was that skinny nerd looking guy in high school, that filled out. Weighed in at 145 lbs my senior year. I average 190-200 now and mostly around 195 at 6'1". So, yeah, I really don't understand the weight thing. But I do understand depression to some degree.

Keep at this. Rome wasn't built in a day. Just stay away from the high carb foods and stop drinking sugar soft drinks. Go sugarless. No dessert for you tonight! :D
 
Good luck brother. Fast when you can occasionally, when the hunger pangs come, imagine it is some fat being chewed off of you. It will make you welcome a discomfortable feeling. Take your shirt off outdoors, the sunshine will combat depression via vitamin D synthesis. Do it in your own backyard if need be. Good luck and stick with it.
 
Well, it sounds like you have a desire to change who you've become. As you start this new chapter in your life, the most important thing is to be true to yourself. Educate yourself in the way you plan to achieve your goals. Don't fool yourself into thinking this is going to be easy. Change is never easy, especially a life style change. It's not about a diet or being healthy. It's about making that change and living with it for the rest of your life. It's about liking yourself, the person that you are.
I will tell you this, through all your upcoming struggles and self doubt, if you stay true to yourself and achieve the goals you set, the rewards are priceless.
Good luck on your journey and be humble if you need help.
 
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