You can't heat water under atmospheric pressure to above 212F, so that is out. Oil can be heated safely to 350-400°F, so it is possible. I know a couple guys who use a surplus deep fat fryer to do temper in. It works very well. As far as doing it in the home shop, a hot pan or can of oil is very dangerous, I would not do it. If you think your mom doesn't like you messing up the kitchen, think how she will feel if you burn the place down.
The trick for doing oven tempering is to clean the blade off well first. Wash in soap and water a couple times, then dry well. Place in the pre-heated oven right on the middle rack. Keep it there without peeking for one to two hours. Take out, cool off in running water in the sink, dry off, and put back in the oven for another hour or two. This won't smell and will take the least oven time.
An alternative for tempering is using a toaster oven. If you do this you want one from the thrift store. You will also want an inexpensive digital oven thermometer to track the temperature ( they are cheap at Kmart and other places), as the toaster ovens do not read accurately. Place a piece of 1/4" steel plate on the shelf. Place the knife blade, and the TC from the oven thermometer on the plate, and set another piece of 1/4" plate on that. This "sandwich" will even out the temperatures in the oven, and the TC will be reading what the actual knife blade temperature is. Turn the toaster oven on and set it to about 50° below what you want to temper the blade at. Let it run for about 15-20 minutes, and raise the dial as needed to bring it up to the desired temp. Take your time. Once you know where the dial needs to be set to get a desired temperature ( 400°F is a good temper point) make a not of the reading and use that in the future. Always check the temperature of a toaster oven every ten minutes or so, as it can drift a lot. Use the alarm feature of the thermometer to let you know if it goes more than 10 degrees above the target.
There are plans in the stickies to convert a toaster oven to POD control, but that is probably down the road a bit for you right now.
Be safe, be polite to your folks, keep everything neat and clean, take your time when working on a project, and talk to them about your knifemaking hobby. Once they realize you are not just being a foolish kid, they may well try to aid you in your efforts. If they understand what you are doing, they will be more likely to allow you some leeway in the kitchen.
Keeping your grades up, and your attitude down is uppermost in impressing parents. Keeping things secret or hiding knives from them is NOT the way to get their approval or cooperation.