It's okay to have the knees a bit wobbly, its a scary thing to relize your whole way of life is on the verge of a really big change. But always remember- When one door closes, another opens.
When I got married I was scared to death. I'd met and fell in love with this little lady on the pistol range of all places, had a whirlwind romance, but the morning of my wedding my two best friends had to practicly throw me into the car to the church. I'm glad they did. Don't get me wrong, I was all for marrige, but I was scared of the big change.
Boy was I wrong. It turned out to be the greatest adventure of my life. If I could wave a magic wand and make it so I'd have met Karen five years earlier I'd do it. What came from that day of me saying "I do" has been something so good I would'nt trade it for a winning ticket to the Irish sweepstakes. What I have is a priceless treasure of a relationship with another person who is what I call my better half. Not my other half, but the better part of me.
We've had our rough spots, thats normal. You don't stay married to someone for 34 years and not have a few fights along the way. But alot of those fights were my fault. Sometimes we men tend to be a little narrow sighted. After a while you learn to trust your wifes opinion, because she looks at things from a different angle. So the two of you become a team. Over time that team becomes stronger from solving the problems you run into along the way. Like sitting up at night with a sick kid, or when the second kid is come and you wonder how the hell are we going to pay these bills. Then buying your house. Thats a big one in the stress deptartment. Then comes the time to help out with the student loans to get your children through college so they will have a better life than you. But it gets worked out. Trust me, it does.
Then there come a day when the kids are out of school and off on careers of thier own, the house is paid off, and you look at each other and say"Hey, we did'nt do too bad did we?" Then you relize how rich you are. You and this person have made not just a life together, but created lives. The joy that you felt when one of your children came into the world is matched by the thrill of a grandchild. And it goes on.
And then it's PLAYTIME!!!
Now all the years of work, planing, keeping yourselfs in good shape pays off. Now you have all the time for those fishing trips with just the two of you. You get to explore your relationship all over again on a second honeymoon. You both have the time now to put the romance back that sometimes had to be put on the back burner because of the buissness of raising that family. In our case, we have been doing all the things that brought us together all those years ago in Texas. Now in our retirement we have time for target shooting, canoeing and kayaking, camping, some travel, or just snugling in front of the fire with a bottle of wine and each other.
It's been a great adventure, and it's not over yet.
I hope this girl is the one for you, untamed. And I pray you will have the great time I've had, and am having.
Learn from each other, and don't let ego get in the way of things. Learn to become a team, and you will be rewarded with a woman who is a wife, lover, confidant, partner in crime on occasion, and best friend. You will write your own adventure.
Good luck!:thumbup:
