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Yvsa

Yvsa

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"The better part of valor is discretion, in the which better part I have saved my life" As said by Falstaff in Henry IV Part One.
Or maybe better put in my case as, "It is better to be prudent than merely courageous." although I certainly do not feel courageous at this point, actually just the opposite, but a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.:(

About a month ago I posted Well Hayil! Here I go again! where I said I was going to have to have another back surgery.
So what does this have to do with the title of this thread you wonder? :confused:

Simply this Gang, I have chickened out. I figure I know my body better than anyone else and it's not up to a battery of heart tests to say whether I have surgery or not, it's simply up to me in the end, as is the case with all things IMO. And knowing my body better than anyone else I don't believe I have what it takes to recover from another surgery like this either mentally or physically.
Right now I'm heavier than I've ever been with my other surgeries. Also at this time I have less stamina and strength than I've ever had in my entire life so it just doesn't make good sense to go ahead with it.
But even more than anything else I just flat don't have good feelings about it, call me crazy but my gut feeling's have saved my arse more than once in my crazy life.;)

So what happens if my pain gets to where I can't stand it anymore? Quite frankly I don't know at this point but I do believe I have the best team of doctors I've ever had and that they will figure something out. We'll see.
I'm also checking out some other options that look promising and if it comes to pass that I'm able to get into one of those programs/studies then things could really be looking up, but again we'll see.;) :)

Just remember that next to some folks here on BFC my problems are as nothing. I do realize that all in all I'm pretty well off.:thumbup: :cool: :D
 
I'd say you're thinkin' right ,Yvsa.
wait till your guts give ya the go ahead.
maybe thru pain management and some good ol' fashioned physical therapy you can make yourself strong enough. you always have options.
i always go with the gut feeling also.
the times i havent.....well lets just say they've caused me problems that linger.
hopefully within the smoke song and prayer we here send, the answers will be revealed and you can heal. you know better than anybody what you need and must do for yourself. we appreciate what we have and make do with the rest.
 
"Chickened out"...no, I don't think so.
After all these years and having endured/recovered from similar surgeries you know what is needed from you. And right now mentally and physically you don't think you can. The wise man acknowledges that.
Perhaps your team of doctors can help you get to the place where you can do the surgery.

Continued prayers up from the west coast.
 
I'm really glad to hear you are listening to your instincts. Perhaps at another time when you are feeling stronger you can come back to the surgery. Heal well. I hope the best for you.
Dan
 
When in doubt-


-trust in your cantankerousness! ;):D;)



Hang in there Yvsa- we're all pullin' for ya. :)
 
I know the feeling. Go with your gut. I'm pretty sure things would have been much worse for me if I had ignored my instincts telling me something was seriously wrong.
 
Chickened out? No, no, no -- chicken soup!

Always go with your instincts, and your experience, and your intelligence. You made the right decision.
 
The first part of winning is sizing up your opponent/obstacle accurately... the best course of action will come, Mr. Y.

Mike
 
The only chicken in you, sir, is that which you may have eaten. What Shappa said is exactly how I feel about it too :thumbup:. As far as surgeons go IMHO...trust em as far as you can throw them, bum back and all ;) Smoke up from the coastal dunes.
 
Yvsa, I don't believe I could maintain your positive attitude if I had to go through what you're going through. I just wish you didn't have to go through so much of it! Prayers sent from SC.

Eric
 
You are doing the right thing;always do as your gut instructs you. Somke and prayers from Texas. Al
 
Smoke and Prayers and Song and Dance...


Gamblin's my nature;
and ramblin's my game.
Deal me out your hardest cards,
and I'll win this G*ddamn game...
--Woody Guthrie--
 
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Yvsa said:
"The better part of valor is discretion, in the which better part I have saved my life" .....

Hi Yvsa,
Sandy and I really do think You are wise to listen to your body and what it is indicating... I know I was in a similar situation not long ago... not near the amount of surgery that You would have, but enough of a procedure that neither my Wife or I felt wise to tackle right now.

So don't feel bad listening to your Body Yvsa.... Day by Day hang in here, and I think your Docs WILL come up with a way to manage the pain further.

Just Our 3 cents worth Yvsa!!


I'll drop You a line and sort of update You on our situation this afternoon when I finish a nap.


Regards,

Ed
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