I'll second (or third?) the candlepowerforums.com. I've ordered probably a dozen of them over the last couple of years from different guys on their buy/sell pages. I like them a lot.
Mill a small slot in the scales (you can even clamp on a couple of straight edges and use a dremel with a burring bit) and epoxy in using a good, clear epoxy. I cover the whole thing with epoxy, carefully sand flush, and polish. That will keep dust and dirt from building up and partially obscuring the vial.
I've never had any problems with them, they aren't that delicate. The size I like is about 1.5mm x 5mm. They're small, about the size of a piece of rice, but show up well when it's really dark. If your guy has to have something bigger, you can get a couple of the Nite rings keychain fobs. They are in an acrylic tube, but are pretty easy to get out.
The reason you can't get them here easily is the NRCC deems anything except watches and gunsites to be a "frivalous" use. I've got them on the bezel of an HDS flashlight, and on a couple of other flashlights. I've carried them everywhere, including in my pocket on airplanes and never had any problem. As far as it being poisonous, you would have to buy a LOT of them and crack them open with your teeth and sucking in the gas at the same time. The wavelength is so short it can't penetrate the glass of the vials or even the epidermis of your skin.
Oh, and get green. It's the brightest. (I'm waiting on Bart to get more yellow)