Update on Snake's mental state

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Snakeplissken83

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What's up Hogs,

So I picked up my new TGLB from the parcelforce depo yesterday, she's a beaut let me tell you, black G10 and desert sage :D pics to follow obviously.

Anyhow, as some of you may know I was having some women trouble and wanted to give you guys an update. I actually have a doctor's appointment in about an hour where I'm gonna ask to be referred to get my head shrunk. This was at my girlfriends request.

Basically I told her about the paranoia and she asked me to get help (after having completely flipped out). The last straw was when I found some strange stains on the matress last week that couldn't have come from me (if you catch my drift) and only happenned to be there after an interval when she was alone in the house. I couldn't help myself and confronted her about it and it just all came to a head. We nearly broke up, but I think she's since had second thoughts and will give me a second chance if I go and see a councillor or psychologist.

I actually didn't think picking up on dodgy matress stains and confronting her about them was that unfair - I mean I know that I have no way of proving what the stains actually were, but still...wouldn't you guys be suspicious of that? At any rate, im going to see what the headshrinker says. I'll keep you posted.
 
I think when issues are building it is easy to rationalise any suspicion as truth mate. I think seeking some professional help is the best thing you can do just now as long as you are going in to properly participate and not just going through the motions to keep the GF around a bit longer. There is much that is unhealthy about the state of your relationship, I glean this from this, and your other postings. Getting to the root cause of your feelings and the triggers for what is spurring these on may hopefully help you BOTH greatly or at the very least put you on the best possible position to assess if this really is where you want to be and if so, what you BOTH need to do to get it healthy and maintain it that way.

Goodluck !!!
 
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You're right there mate. When I told the doctor what happenned she basically said: you are obviously having great difficulty coping with your partner and her children, you need help, and the fact that you need help is not a reflection on you. It doesn't make you a failure or any less of a man. She referred me for councilling then and there and we talked about me maybe taking anti depressants (I haven't made my mind up about that yet).
 
Wow, you look at the mattress? I guess I need to check mine! Just don't tear those tags off.

Dude, if she is making you seem crazy, is it really worth having her around???
 
Use the presence app to re purpose an old smart phone as a security cam that uploads content the instant it detects motion. This will confirm your suspicions or allow you to move on and not worry about it. It's kinda big brother but it sounds like you may have reason to be worried, if your finding unexplained stains.
 
Dude really...Drugs....No woman is worth being strung out on drugs...Doctors are so quick to make people life time customers for pharmaceutical companies...I understand wanting to be with someone special but not at the price of sanity and suspicions! Who's to say in 2 weeks (get it) she doesn't just give you the gate to move along. On the other hand if she is Loaded and owns a liquor store hang in there Bro....:cool:
 
Fact that you suspected something wrong in the first place means there is a lack of trust. If you do not trust, do not be in the relationship.
 
Better be Bill Gates' daughter to go through all that shit. And remember, depending on what paperwork they submit when they put you on Anti-depressants, you could end up in the FBI system preventing you from purchasing firearms. Has happened to vets I know. A woman isn't worth that kind of headache when you can find one who doesn't cause that kind of stress.
 
Went through a similar thing with my ex-wife. She played the same card so I went to a therapist and all that and guess what she was actually cheating and I wasn't crazy. It's just a way for her to make it seem like you're the one with issues. RUN as fast as you can. It is not worth it.
 
Busto said:
Dude really...Drugs....No woman is worth being strung out on drugs...Doctors are so quick to make people life time customers for pharmaceutical companies...I understand wanting to be with someone special but not at the price of sanity and suspicions! Who's to say in 2 weeks (get it) she doesn't just give you the gate to move along. On the other hand if she is Loaded and owns a liquor store hang in there Bro....:cool:
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This. Docs are fast becoming pimps of the drug of the week. Since seeing a shrink was your woman's idea after she convinced you that your mattress wasn't dumping grounds for who knows what.....


Dude. Remember my story. Hurt people hurt other people. Plain and simple. Listen to the voice in your head. Don't quash it.

Good luck
 
18 years me and the ex played this game and it was like 18 years in prison. It took time apart, not meds for me to figure out I needed to go. Don't know the whole story and don't want to. Just throwing my two centavos in there. I would do a couch vacation before meds. Good luck man.
 
The ex and I split long ago....I have a great career I purchased a huge hunk of land started a Pecan farm went on vacation to Hawaii to visit family purchased a small place there and a fishing boat...NO MEDS....Just took a deep look inside my head and figured between working and relaxing fishing was better than any drug...AND I have a nice pile of INFI...The Pecans ain't too bad either:D ;)

Life is too short to dance like a Marionette!
 
I agree with the others on the meds mate, they are not a cure all, not by any measure, they are a mitigation. You need to make changes in your life that have long term benifits for your health, mental and physical. The meds don't accomplish much more but dull the senses, this is neded in some people (not all) to be able to function and get back on a proper path, they are not a way to live the rest of your life, think about the alternatives first !!!! And yes, to be harsh, this may mean removing yourself from a unhealth situation at home, maybe not permanently, but maybe.
 
Congrats on your TGLB!

Snakeplissken83 said:
... The last straw was when I found some strange stains on the matress last week that couldn't have come from me (if you catch my drift) and only happened to be there after an interval when she was alone in the house ...
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If you are 100% sure it is not from you (and you are pretty sure it is genetic material), then you need to change your locks and tell her to find another place to live – SHE IS NOT WORTH IT, and it does not matter how hot she looks!

Snakeplissken83 said:
... I mean I know that I have no way of proving what the stains actually were ...
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You could have it DNA tested.


If she is cheating and you confront her, do you really expect her to tell you the truth and admit it?

I do think some counseling would help you sort things out, AFTER she is gone. Take care!
 
Andy the Aussie said:
I think when issues are building it is easy to rationalise any suspicion as truth mate. I think seeking some professional help is the best thing you can do just now as long as you are going in to properly participate and not just going through the motions to keep the GF around a bit longer. There is much that is unhealthy about the state of your relationship, I glean this from this, and your other postings. Getting to the root cause of your feelings and the triggers for what is spurring these on may hopefully help you BOTH greatly or at the very least put you on the best possible position to assess if this really is where you want to be and if so, what you BOTH need to do to get it healthy and maintain it that way.

Goodluck !!!
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.....this sums it up right thare!!!!;)

This is pretty much what I was about to answer you.... Andy saved me the time.

Andy, mate, gotta shout you if ever we cross paths.....
 
Stains??
Who's to say, she didn't canoodle her self, and left those stains solo?

Or ate a banana cupcake in bed?

Or whatever...

Mistrust makes you draw the worst conclusions from ill founded suspisions.
 
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