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DannyinJapan

DannyinJapan

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Takako gave birth to a healthy baby girl yesterday at 4:56.
(1-23 4:56 07 - very weird)
I have no idea what the heII I am doing. I really don't, but I think I may spend less time getting red eyes in front of this machine.
Dont congratulate me, please, send smoke. I am not ready for this...
 
DannyinJapan said:
Takako gave birth to a healthy baby girl yesterday at 4:56.
(1-23 4:56 07 - very weird)
I have no idea what the heII I am doing. I really don't, but I think I may spend less time getting red eyes in front of this machine.
Dont congratulate me, please, send smoke. I am not ready for this...
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Our prayers are with you, your wife and daughter. You all are beginning a great and wonderful adventure! :thumbup:
 
some suggestions, in no set order:

1. do not put her in the freezer if she gets a fever.
2. do not warm her in the microwave if she gets chills.
3. do not drop her.
4. she is not a toy.
5. your purchase price is non-refundable.
6. food goes in the noisy end, clean the smelly end frequently.
7. pray she does not grow up to look like you.
8. aunty yangdu will not exchange her for a new one if you break her.

i pray for you to get the wisdom and calmness required to handle this new turn of the wheel....
 
Congratulations!!! Congratulations!!! Congratulations!!!

Danny, take heart. Your feelings are common for the first time father. You are made to do this just as she was made to do the birth miracle. Your daughter will be a lot of fun for you to raise. People don't tell you that its fun, but it really is.

Look around you now, and notice the desperation in the children with no father. This is very important, children need fathers almost as much as a car needs gas. You'll notice it now. When you're playing with your daughter, other kids come around and wanna play too. At the pool you'll be throwing children till your shoulders hurt, and there will still be a line waiting for your attention.

Were you there for the birth? Did you cut the chord?



Leave the worry go, and enjoy this experience as much as you can. Hannah is 4 now, and it seems like a worldwind.


Edited to add: Smoke up bro, of course.
 
Cut the cord? I had to physically threaten a nurse just to let me open the door to the delivery room and watch. They didnt want me to go in but there were 6 or 7 nurses in there chatting- sterile my a$$.
She put her hands on me and tried to shut the door and I had to get nasty with her. Japans' medical system is like ours in the 60's...
 
Congrats, Danny!!! Let the sleep deprivation experiments begin. ;) :D

You'll do fine. Watching a young life develop is a majorly cool thing.
 
Smoke, and Congrats, Danny. Congrats whether you want 'em or not!

For what it's worth, Danny, I get the feeling from everything I know about you that you will be a great daddy. Daddyinjapan? Hehe, maybe...

Smoke and all my best wishes. Let love guide your life, and you will surely prevail.

Chris
 
DannyinJapan said:
Cut the cord? I had to physically threaten a nurse just to let me open the door to the delivery room and watch. They didnt want me to go in but there were 6 or 7 nurses in there chatting- sterile my a$$.
She put her hands on me and tried to shut the door and I had to get nasty with her. Japans' medical system is like ours in the 60's...
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Jeez. I'm sorry to hear that bro. Enjoy it though. It'll be challenging, but fun. You can handle it fine.
 
Danny,

All you have to do is focus on your love for Takako and your baby girl---the rest will naturally follow. The circumstances surrounding the birth of my first daughter were horrible---and it was a mix of worry and fear for the next 5 weeks before we were in the clear. So I understand mixed feelings.

Remember this: take all of the "supposed to.." ideas of what the birth of a child brings to mind and flush them. It is your life and you can feel however you feel about it. That will free you up to breathe and take away any guilt/worry.

Email me anytime----use the BF private message option, I'm more likely to get it that way. then I can give you my personal email.

Breathe. Hold her a lot--but be warned she'll wrap you around her little finger faster than any ninja sensei;) :)
 
Congratulations and smoke up, Danny. I wish you, Takako, and the little one the best of luck.

Bob
 
Actually, as you'll be up some nights with formula, or walking, or changing, or rocking, you might drop in and post a line.

Congratulations, friend.


munk
 
Nothin' grows us up as fast as having kids to take care of.

Enjoy them while they are little. Things sometimes get complicated when they hit their teens.

Good luck!

Andy
 
As Andrew said, now you're on the fast track to becoming a grownup. Nothing changes a person as much.

Congrats to you and yours.

t.
 
Congratulations! Please do not dwell on feelings of uncertainty or apprehension. If we all waited until we were "ready" to have children, there wouldn't be many of us running around today. We have four boys and I wake up each morning and go to bed each night wondering if I'm up to the task. I keep my standard of success as a parent fairly low - if they're alive at the end of the day, I've done my job. (:)) Enjoy each moment of the rollercoaster ride. They appear and then disappear in a flash. Best wishes.

Eric
 
Congrats and smoke, Danny:D Don't worry, I think I'll be in the same boat as you once my wife and I have kids. We're going to put kids off for a few more years. We're both scared to death about having them! I'm selfiish (comes from being an only child, i suppose) and don't know if i'm ready to let a life go where my interests don't come first. My wife works as a school psychologist, and quite frankly, works with a lot of kids where things went "wrong" during the pregnancy. Look for a very nervous and worried post from me in the next few years where you can look back on your anxieties now with a good chuckle and lots of ribbing at my expense.

BUT, take heart:) You have a lot to teach this wonderful little girl. I hear it's quite a ride:) Smoke up for you, your wife, and daughter, and please keep us posted on your many adventures through fatherhood.

Jake
 
Ain't that the truth, Eric! I used to have high aspirations for my kids... rocket scientists, brain surgeons, Noble Prize winners.....

Now, if I can get them to the age of majority without -

1. Criminal convictions
2. Physical disablities
3. Mental disabilities

And -
4. Some level of education

then I have been largely successful in my parenting tasks!

Andy
 
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