What to say, what to do......

gunfixrjoe

gunfixrjoe

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Don't know what to say here. Forgive my rant, but I'm mostly inside a bottle of Jack. Tragedy just happens sometimes. No rhyme no reason. Sometimes unexplainable things are put in front of us. What to say, what to do. There is a coping mechanism for every one of us for every situation. Each unique to the individual. Just wish I knew what to do here, such a new situation for me. I pray to never experience again.
Yesterday, the wife of my father's one brother committed suicide yesterday. Leaving behind an amazing husband and son. The son, my cousin, came home to discover she had shot herself. How do you do such a thing to your loved ones. How do you come home, open the door and see that, then continue living normally? I'm at a terrible crossroads and I'm sorry to bring any of you down. I'm not really asking for help or guidance. Just feel compelled to rant some. Such selfishness to do such a thing to the people that love you the most................. God speed.......
 
It's alright to share that here. Let it out man. My family is riddled with the like. It's never easy and never seems right. Not to try to make any sense or good feelings out of it. Just some empathy and understanding. Prayers outbound.
 
My condolences sir. There is just no way to understand what brings a person to that place, and there's absolutely nothing that can make it easier. No one deserves to be left behind like that
 
Sorry you're having to deal with this, I can relate. I had a close friend commit suicide last year. He was a guy I sat in the same office with for the three years prior. There was no warning sign. It was a complete shock to everyone. I'm still not at peace with it. Sometimes shitty things just happen.
 
I've worked in mental health (state hospital) for 12 years. 10 years ago my older brother took the top of his head off with 00 buck, intra-oral gunshot wound. I cleaned his house & kept my family from goin' through what I had to endure. It hurts for a few years, but then the numbness sets in. It's rough, but you really do get used to it. Email me if ya wanna talk about it. I'm at work now & computer usage will be limited until after 1500 tomorrow, but hit me up if ya need to!
 
That's terrible.. Stay strong and keep yourself busy and mind off of the accident.. Look forward.. Surround yourself with people you love and people who love you..
 
People who attempt suicide, whether they are "successful" in their attempt or not, have reached a point in their lives when the physical and/or psychological pain that they are experiencing has overwhelmed them and they wish only to end that pain. Obviously, without regard to the consequences of their actions to themselves. As to the effects of their actions on others, there may be no thought of others at all, their personal agony all-consuming. There may be some thought, but not enough to prevent action. They may discount their importance to the others in their lives, not realize how great an effect their act will have on those they leave behind. Some may deeply consider how their proposed act will effect others and this will stop some but this consideration can actually add to the already unbearable burden for others, leaving them even more likely to do the unthinkable.
Some people want help, want to be talked out of it and only resort to suicide if they find no one who can or will help. Some can be persuaded to accept help. Some, for whatever reason or reasons, don't want help. Some are in obvious pain, some seem a just a little off their usual chipper selves, and some surprise everyone. Perhaps these last have perfected the art of fooling everyone, including themselves, into believing that everything is great, until it isn't. Then nothing is right and they can see no acceptable way to fix things, no way or place to even start. A terrible place to be, to think that the best thing that you can do is commit the last act, become nothing, take your own life. If successful, their pain is over but the living, those who remain, have not only their own problems but, now, a suicide to deal with.
For what its worth, those who are left behind should do what the person who took their own life should have done and most likely would have done given an acceptable opportunity: SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP. Psychiatrist, psychologist, counselor, priest or pastor. TALK TO SOMEONE. The good ones, if they can't help you themselves, will help you find someone who can. Speaking, unfortunately, from experience.
Pete
 
I have had this experience myself i may not know you nor your family but you have my thoughts and prayers and in the end everything will be alright
 
That's terrible news. Suicide is a horrible thing on all levels. The loved ones left behind suffer terribly. The darkness one must end up in to do that to themselves is incomprehensible. I hope you all get through as smoothly as possible.
 
gunfixrjoe, I'm thinking about you and yours tonight. Hang tough. Life is full of miseries. Those who soldier on are wiser, more empathetic, and kinder for it.
 
Feel for you mate, it is a terrible thing to happen and for a child to find thier parent like that (or vice versa) is just plain wrong ... :(
 
Depression is a horrible disease. I takes over a persons mind and they can't think of anything else. Sorry for your families loss Joe.
 
There is nothing wrong with bringing things to light here Bro, not at all. Wrapping your head around it, dealing with it, however anyone wants to phase it will forever be hard. My deepest condolences to you and yours. Main thing is just start talking to someone, professional if need be. I would imagine that a great many right here could and would be a sounding post anytime you need it. We are a family in our on right so feel free to vent. God speed Brother...
 
Thank you all so much for your thoughts, prayers and kind words. It's the people that make this forum what it is, not just the steel. I really appreciate you folks.
 
Prayers sent... depression is a hard thing. I dont believe many people truly understand it... (i know i dont). Hopefully they knew she cared for them...
 
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