What would you do?

KnifeAddictAK

KnifeAddictAK

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Aight, I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I was just wondering what other's would do in this case. I know that different people do different things, but I am curious.

Over the past year, I have/had a few really good friends that I would hang with, camp, fish,etc... We life happened, as expected, and they got married. But the thing that makes me go :confused: , is the fact that as soon as they got married, they dissappeared. I understand and respect the fact that their marriage is something new to them and I know most, if not all take time to get adjusted. Well, it has still been a year and they are off in their own little "Couples Cliche".

I didn't so much mind them getting married, as I was happy for them, but they wanted EVERYONE to become a couple. Anyway, I was invited to go camping with some friends, but they are all married. :rolleyes:

My question is: Would you tag along in hopes that you may get to hang out with your old friends or would you just say no thanks and find something else to do?

And no, I don't have a g/f to bring along to "fit in".
 
You owe it to yourself to go along...really! You'll see what married couples are like (the good,bad,and ugly). You can stay single as long as you want, but don't lose your friends over it ;)
 
Go! don't feel like 3 is company. You were invited and it sounds like fun. Give it a chance and relax. Old friends are just that and it's fun to think about good times you had so don't worry. Just be yourself. ;)
 
Been there, done that! :) Friends are friends. Go camping with your friends and their wives... you may get lucky! :D
 
Just go along with your friends and have fun. I was the last of friends to get married but I still hung out with them. Sometimes I was the first to bug out because I had 'singles" type of business to take care of. That was cool too.
 
Matches said:
Maybe we should rethink this... :D
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Well, if we were going where bears were frequent, I wouldn't go. The child's crying may mimic a predator call that attracts bears. :eek: But I am not sure if they are bringing their son or not. :confused:
 
It's funny, I've never had a problem dealing with married couples (even when I was single) but there's something nauseating about watching them raise kids :barf:
 
If these are the really good friends that you say they are, then you can assume that they are sincere about the invitation- and they are not doing it for form's sake.
 
Make new friends but keep the old
One is silver the other Gold....


Go camping...have fun...someday you will have a G/f or a wife and if you are friends already with your friends and thier wives..you have a instant circle of friends to hang with

best of luck..
 
KaaK: Do you want a girlfriend, or at least some connections? Then by all means hang out with your married friends. Their wives have friends, single female type friends. There is something in the female psych that wants to fix their friends up with single guys. And your chances of a hookup are better when someone she already knows introduces you to her.
 
As a bachelor myself, I can tell you that it's a struggle to keep up with old friends once they're married. And I'll tell you from experience that it's up to YOU to do it. This is what Day Planners are for. On the day of the wedding, make a note in your planner four months out to call your old friend up just to say, "Hi! How's married life?" Make a note to call up in six months and say, "Let's get together for lunch next week." (Lunch is great because a) she won't be there, and b) it's ordinary for guys to go to lunch together. There's nothing suspecious or threatening about it at all... as long as you don't go to lunch at a shaker bar.) Don't forget to send cards on birthdays and so forth (again, that Day Planner in action). Send a nice card for their first aniversary. Then, about 13-14 months post wedding, invite them both over for dinner. This is the perfect time to do this.

E-mail makes it easier to keep in touch too. Just dash one off every few weeks.

As for your current camping trip problem, one word: GO! I go camping every year with a group of old friends most of whom are now married. It works out great. (BTW, "camping" in this case is defined as going to this park where you can pitch a tent about ten feet from your parking stall. I just sleep in my car (did I mention it's a Mercedes?). We grill burgers, stay up until about three in the morning drinking... it's a great event.
 
KAAK,

I’d definitely go on the camping trip. If you don’t have fun you don’t have to go with your married friends again, but if it helps re-establish the friendships it might be worthwhile.

Most married people sort of return to the world once they’ve got used to being married.
 
djolney said:
Most married people sort of return to the world once they’ve got used to being married.
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It's also good for them to have old friends, married and unmarried, still happy to hang out with them, so they don't feel they're now stuck with nobody but each other. :)

Actually, the new couple should now have twice as many friends (his AND hers), so don't be a stranger.
 
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