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Brendan

Brendan

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Why does life have to be so complicated !!

I love life and live each moment to it's maximum but lately there is always complications ! Nothing serious, my reaction to certain events remain questionable and I find myself saying "why did I do that", you guys are always full of good advice so help me out !!

B
 
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I'm in no position to give advice on that general of a topic. I often ask myself the same question.

Can you be more specific? If not, I understand completely.
 
Originally posted by Brendan
.........Why does life have to be so complicated !!
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Answer: In order for each of us to get to the second part of your question.
...... my reaction to certain events remain questionable and I find myself saying
"why did I do that"
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"...... weigh in that Balance thine actions every day, every moment of thy life. Bring thyself to account ere thou art summoned to a reckoning, ......"

Life's an education.

you guys are always full of
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Sometimes. :D
 
To ask of myself : It's not my life which is complicated, it's me. Only me.

Good week man, and keep your mind open.
 
gentleman - if I had to post that sort of information on the net !!

I haven't hurt anyone but maybe I have tested my own opinion of myself !!

B
 
Rusty summed up my opinion.;)
I drove my self nuts question and all that for years; studied psychology, sociology, history, and religion. I stuck with religion. I read the Bible and it convinced me. Now I use it as my standard of measure for all things. Life is not easier and is in some ways harder, but I have something solid to stand on in an ever changing world. Read it and decide for yourself.
 
this question :"Why does life have to be so complicated"

is: "Because death is so simple."

This answer espouses a Taoist philosophical angle.

Life is friction. It all heats up and rubs together, which does stuff and causes more stuff to happen, enacting the great dance of Life.
Death, or non-life, is rest, inaction, stability. Stuff cools down, and moves to a rest state.

Coincindentally, Taoism and Thermodynamics see eye to eye on this point.


Boy, this is one of those weird posts, isn't it?

Keith
 
Ive found complications tend to compound themselves, especially when children are involved. We all have those moments where we wish we could have done things differenyly, or wish things could have turned out differently. I personally try and not hang on to the things that could have been, and try to look ahead. Though somedays its real hard to do that, and lifes complications seem to just gang up on you and hit like a freight train. But theres nothing else to really do, except to pull your pants back up and keep trudging along. Anyways keep youre chin up. This place is special, and the guys here probably have more useful stuff to say (especially Bruise :D ), youre not alone.
 
Brendan,
Sometimes life gets cluttered with things that seem important only because we attach importance to them. Stop and take a hard objective look at what's really important, and you'll see the unimportant things for what they truly are. Why is life so complicated? Because we make it that way.

Sarge
 
You've got some good advice from Bobwhite and Sarge and Ferrous's quote about death was right on. (It's the kind of quote that did not deserve or need commentary afterwards..hint hint. It really was a good quote. You surprise me often, Ferrous)

We look at the small things with amplified importance because we do not wish to look at the big things where the attention is deserved.

I'm cursed too, brendan. I go off on stupid stuff.

There are many days when I look at my untied shoes I wonder: "why must I do this again? "


munk
 
Anything really worth doing is simple.
Anything simple is hard.

My opinion - and mine only, follows.

Simplicity is good. In the end it is nothing more or less than putting your values in order, taking care of what is important, and not sweating the small stuff. OK? Follow that? Good.

Because when you decide to go for simplicity you open up the ungodliest most complicated can of worms you can imagine. But doing that is worthwhile because once you do so for yourself you have your priorities in order and a rock to stand on that is your own, and not anybody else's.

Mine ended up being this:
1) Do justly
2) Love mercy
3) Walk humbly with your God.
( Micah 6:8 )

The word humble comes from the latin root humus, or fertile soil. As I understand it I am to nurture the seeds God ( whomever he is ) plants in my mind, heart, or soul, and tend them so they grow to fruition or full bloom. That also means I need to weed and water and fertilize the garden that is my soul. There is a prayer in fact that asks God to: "be thou the gardener of my soul". Good image, analogy, etc.

But then, what do I know? Doesn't seem to be a hell of a lot, so take with a large grain of salt. Better yet, go to rhe feed store and get a 25(?) pound block of salt like they use for a cattle lick. IMHO, YMMV, etc.

Now on to something important such as whether to spell it katsup or ketchup.
 
couple things:

1, If you have people you care for, people who care for you, and a modicum of health....ALL the rest is just "stuff." It comes and goes throughout your life.... Trust me, as you live you will see the flotsom and jetsom of the entire world float by you, but the essence of living is in the first statement I made.

2. If humans didn't think, it wouldn't be an issue. This might explain all the retreats into drugs and alchohol by human beings. All you have to do--in any circumstances--is your best. You don't have to win, triumph, be insightful, or make fortunes. All you have to do is the best that you can do, seeing life as you see it, with the values that you have, and with a sense that you are a member of various community sub-sets to whom you owe some consideration.

Thinking is good. Agonizing is self-defeating.

From stab wounds to gun shots, from trechery to ill-treatment, from disease to devastating loss...if you do your best, you will simplify your life and make substantial contributions to your world(s).

Polonius has some advice to Laertes(his son) in Hamlet:


-*And these few precepts in thy memory
See thou character.

Give thy thoughts no tongue,
Nor any unproportioned thought his act.

Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar.

Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,
Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel;
But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
Of each new-hatch'd, unfledged comrade.

Beware Of entrance to a quarrel, but being in,
Bear't that the opposed may beware of thee.

Give every man thy ear, but few thy voice;
Take each man's censure, but reserve thy judgment.

Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not express'd in fancy; rich, not gaudy;
For the apparel oft proclaims the man.

Neither a borrower nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.


(Polonius to his son Laertes, before a trip.)
Hamlet, Wm.Shakespeare

End of sermonette

Kis
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The reincarnation people, those that believe the Soul comes back to learn what is lacking to move ahead, say the old Souls like simple things. Cheese and crackers instead of a French sauce.

The hardest thing to do isn't to read what is here, this is frosting; these words you've been listening to from all of us.
The hard part is getting up and doing what neccesity demands when there are no fine words or comfort. Doing things when you just don't feel like doing them. Doing them when you're sick. Doing what needs to be done day after day with no visible end in sight. That's what the pundits call character.

munk
 
Why does life have to be so complicated?
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It is a much better alternative to boring. To live is to screw up, get up, and screw up some more. Eventually, you will get something right, and even learn a little along the way.

n2s
 
Originally posted by Brendan
....and I find myself saying "why did I do that", .....B
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I used to find myself hollering, "Hey yall, watch this!" and then the next morning asking myself "why did I do that". :D
 
I know what you mean about regretting your own actions and finding you have a lower opinion of yourself. Just did that last night as a matter of fact. As to why, well, that's a question for the ages. The best solution I can come up with is to make reparations whenever possible, then remember that you can't change the past; life is a one way street. However, the events of tommorrow haven't occurred yet and can be affected by your decisions. What's done is done, so the best you can do is to make sure you don't repeat mistakes. Having a time machine sure would be great though. I hope this helps somewhat, just remember you really aren't alone.
 
Thanks Gents !!

:)

I dont think there is a simple answer but you guys sure make it easier for me !!

B
 
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