A question: Keep it or return it?

46Alpha

46Alpha

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So I'm in a quandary. Yesterday was my four year anniversary. The wife and I had previously agreed to NOT buy any gifts as we're taking our daughter to Disney next month (first trip). So I got her a dozen roses and called it good. At dinner she announced that a new Micortech Whaleshark is en route to me.

She knows I've been looking at it and kinda wanting one, so she contacted my favorite knife guy and ordered one up. Bless her soul, she even got the steel and finish right (CTS in satin). I do love her so.

My heart tells me that she went out of her way to get me something she knew I wanted and I should keep it and treasure it as a gift from someone who loves me.

But some of the questionable stuff with Microtech and the fact that we could use the cash for other things makes me want to return it.

What would you do, return or keep?
 
I would definitely keep it unless she's thinking about returning it, too. I imagine she's pretty excited about getting it for you.
 
Keep it and enjoy it. All other factors aside, your lady obviously put a lot of thought and effort into that purchase. That's what matters most in my book!
 
I think she would feel confused knowing that we went above and beyond managing to purchase something you had been drooling over for a bit and not understand the politics behind microtech at the moment.

All politics aside microtech produces quality functioning knives. Your wife got you an awesome gift. Be excited and thankful and cherish the moment. If in the future you decide it's not for you or you'd like a different knife then have a chat with your wife and see how she feels about you getting rid of in. I assume she probably won't mind because she didn't get the knife for your for the knifes sake, she got it for your sake and enjoyment.

I's make the decision for yourself if 1. you want a whaleshark or not. (politics aside, is it a knife you'd like to have and use) 2. if you do decide to keep it thank the heck out of your wife if you want to get rid of it for your own reasons have a chat with wifey poo and ask if she's alright with you getting rid of it and explain why. She'll understand. ;)

Just me 2 cents,
Hans
 
Keep it, and let her know how happy you are with it. That will make her happy, which in turn will make you happy. Its the circle of life.
 
It is a thoughtful gesture and that is the true gift. Keep it and enjoy.

Please have your wife call my wife.:p
 
I wonder how many guys would almost (though not literally of course) kill to be in your shoes.

If you like the knife, and it will be something you will use, then keep it and cherish it, not only as a great knife that you like, but as a token of love from your wife who obviously knows what you want, and is willing to give it to you.

Enjoy it, treasure it, and never lose it. And more importantly, treasure your wife more and more each day.
 
If it were me, I would keep it. If it was a perfunctory gift, that would be one thing. But she obviously put some thought into getting you a very specific knife. If it was any old knife that she got you simply to give you a gift, then yes I think you could return it. But if you return something that personal, then I think she might be offended or disappointed if you return it. Just my opinion though.
 
It sounds like a great gift. If I needed the money, I'd rather sell off one of my other possessions than to return it. The best things in life are the experiences, and this sounds like a good one.
 
Keep it. She got joy out of getting you something you really wanted. Make sure to continue to do the same with her and your relationship will grow and grow. $300 is a lot of money.. but not A LOT of money. Enjoy the fact she loves you and wants you to be happy. The rest of the needs will fall in place. Congrats on a great catch (your girl) and the knife.
 
I would say from personal experience keep it...I made the ignorant mistake of returning something my wife bought and felt like a total piss of crap seeing her response when I told her.
 
Keep it forever, no matter what, and say nothing but nice things. It wouldn't matter if the knife you received was a totally non-functional. She went out of her way to be thoughtful. Even if it doesn't function as a knife, it does function as a lovely symbol of her thoughtfulness and should be cherished as such.

If it's so broken as to be not worth carrying, then keep it in your dresser as a pleasant reminder of her actions. If she ask, "why don't you carry it?" You reply, "it's too special to carry and I'm afraid I might lose it."
 
Of course you need to keep it. Not only do you need to keep it but you need to convince her that it's your absolute favorite knife EVER! Not to sound sexist, but she is a woman, they can be very sensitive in ways that we men may never understand, especially when it comes to gifts.

I don't know your wife, but I've known more than a few women who would be hurt more if you returned the knife than if you actually STABBED them with it (slight exaggeration, but you get the point).

And don't think for a second that if you ask her about returning it and she acts like it's ok to do so, that she really feels that way. I'd wager that if you return that knife, even with her blessing, that it would break her heart.

When a woman gives someone a gift, they aren't just trying to please the recipient, they are also getting a lot out of it themselves. Keeping the knife, smiling really big when you get it, and treating it like your prized possession is a VERY small price to pay to keep your wife happy.
 
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i'm with everyone else here. A gift is not about the gift but the meaning behind it. Keep it, and think of her whenever you use it.

My wife got me a Zermeno Azrael, and it'll be part of my collection forever, even if i don't love the knife *i will* i love her enough to make up for that
 
Politics are really pointless when thinking of something you'll enjoy.
I love the Whaleshark(could have got one instead of my Sebenza but I got the Sebenza). It's a great and well made knife. I also found out some interesting information about the whole issue from the guy at the local shop. I love going in there because of the knives of course but the people are great and have amazing information.

Anyways, keep it and enjoy it! She thought of you and ordered you something she knows you like and thinks you will love. Keep it because that will make her happy and you'll be happy because not only will you have an amazing knife it will also be an amazing gift from the woman you love.

My mom got me a Spyderco Chokwe and not only is it one of my favorites it has a special place in my heart because it's from someone I love dearly, and I know she got it for me because she loves me.
^^ I know it's not the same as a wife but it's the same gift concept.
 
The thoughtfulness of your wife outweighs the dickishness of those who made the knife. :)

Keep it.
 
Yes, definitely keep it. I've been in a similiar position on a few occasions where I've been bought knives, and in one case a straight razor, I'm not 100% happy with, but you just have to keep quiet and enjoy the fact that somebody loves you! :)
 
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If you want to break her heart, return it.
You can even things out on her bd or your anniversary.
 
Sonnydaze said:
If you want to break her heart, return it.
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That sounds about right, especially with a knife of that price point.
It's bad enough with a $30 knife, but to return one that cost her that much cash, and likely some research time to boot?
Not a good idea. At all.
 
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