Another one bites the dust. I'm done here.

Fred,

I am an aspiring sharpener and have learned from your posts and contributions. I hate to see you go.

I am a strong believer in the need for civility in any online forum, even to the point of bending over backwards since it can be hard to judge the other guy's intent when you can't hear his voice, see his face, etc. In other words, on a forum, it's good to err on the side of civility.

Obviously, there are those who don't share that view. It is a sad fact that a few bad apples, who feel they must be rude and insulting to make their point, can seriously degrade a forum. It seems to me that the best defense to that is for them to be outnumbered. If there is a strong majority who have the basic manners we were all taught as children and who lead by example, the trolls and bad actors will usually leave and go somewhere else where they can ruin everyone's day. (And a little private "talkin' to" by one of our wise mods---watch your tone or get sanctioned or banned---might not hurt, either).

I hope you'll reconsider and stick around. The forum needs more of the good guys, not less.

Andrew
 
Krav said:
Fred,

I know how you feel, lately I have let things out of my control, to gain momentum. I get really specific in my thoughts and I feel really bad. It's like a car parked on top of a big hill. If it starts moving forward or backwards and I hit the brakes right away, I can stop it. But if it gains momentum and I try to stop it when the car is at the bottom of the hill, it's impossible.

I go general with my thoughts (this really sucks). Or (this to shall pass) I go from specific negative to general negative. Then after some relaxation, distractions, I can go to general positive. Then I can feel really good when I get to specific positive.
There's a big difference in passionate for something or frustrated and angry. But I can not jump from anger to passionate. I have to scale out of it. Anger to frustration to relaxed to peaceful and so on.
Click to expand...

Well said. Some people (me included) take pride in what I do and who I am, and I unfortunitely take things too personally sometimes. Its not for a lack of trying...It just seems I care too much about making everyone happy..Even though I know the same exact thing will create different emotions and feelings in different people. I mean even Jesus (if you believe in that sort of thing) wasn't loved by everyone.

I don't know you personally but I hope a few days or weeks away from what frustrates you, regenerates you and you come back :)
 
Letting people get under your skin is a pretty bad thing for any business owner. Easier said than done sometimes I know, regardless I think if most folks just took the good with the bad and separated the obviously unhelpful folks from the ones that are helpful and interesting would be a better solution than up and leaving. YMMV. There will always be disagreeable anywhere you go, learning to deal with them is key.
 
I don't know you, Fred, and you don't know me; but I've appreciated your posts and have learned quite a bit from you. I know others have, too. So please stay. Bladeforums is better with you than without you.

One thing that I try to remember -- and often fail -- is that I can't control the language of others, but I can (potentially) control my own response, and that's what's important. Your goodbye post contains a lot of anger, and I can understand that. I don't think there is any large forum on the internet where you won't run into extremely good people, people who haven't learned how to control their own language and people who are somewhere in between. In the Maintenance section, it always amazes me how many knowledgeable people are willing to offer help to others, over and over, even when the questions are often repeated again and again. You're one of those people.

It will be a favor to us all if you stay.
 
A second degree black belt didn't come by giving up. You know in you heart that you are better then that. Take a few breaths and continue on this journey of sharing with those who respect you. If you must leave this part of the forum then I'm sure you input will be missed by those who don't think they know everything. Those who think they do aren't worth anyone's time.
 
Well obviously there are allot of us who care. It's sad that the few ca. Ruin it for the many. I took karate for a few years and while sparring there was always someone that takes a cheat shot. Sometimes it really hurts and you know it's not right but in the end they lose and any gain they thought they had is always lost. Losers don't get stronger by doing loser things. You know this first hand.
I hope you have a change of heart and mind.
Someone famous said if you aren't pissing someone off you are either not trying hard enough or doing something wrong.
 
I came close to leaving early in my time here. I'm glad I chose to stay and I hope you do too. I am still wanting an ERU and will pick one up very soon.

Hope to see you around!
 
Fred,
The world is full of key board expert warriors. Just ignore the few asses and participate with the rest of use.
You have lots to contribute to new and old alike.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top