Breaking in new girllfriends to your knife passion

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I'm married for quite a while, so when I took on this knife nut hobby, my wife was sort of taken aback. One time, she said, 'what are you going to do, stab me with one of those?", to which I replied, "Hey, I could use a kitchen knife for that, so what are you talking about?"

Well, it's been some time and she's finally accepted it, even to the point of asking me knife questions once in a while. So I wondered what it might have been like in the event I was not married and met a girl and eventually had to introduce her to the world of knives.

How are some of you unmarried men dealing with this, when you meet someone new?
 
Haven't done the new gf thing since I've started on knives :(, but here's a related pointer. If there's a psycho nasty underage S&M stalker chick who collects pictures of blow-up dolls (I hope that's the extent of her collection) stalking you, don't tell her you like knives.
 
...accepting it so far, versus all the other hobbies I have had in comparison. It helps she knew I was a practitioner of combative arts when she met me so it is no surpise to her. There are worse things to collect. She has even mentioned that I might want to display and put them all out to show one day in our future living room. *CHUCKLE-SNORT* I like to think she humours me once in awhile...
 
A problem I know about.

I got into knives only about 8 months ago. My girlfriend wasn´t happy. "What to do with them", I suppose was the biggest question. And what a waste of money. I began by showing her picture of really beautiful knives, trying to justify the expense by their sole beauty. I noticed that she fancied the ut-6 better than others, since it´s more of a mechanical miracle, in AND out.

Nowadays, she thinks it´s pointless arguing about this. And she sometimes has that "nice" smile while I rant about new knives, looks too deep on the screen or polishes them while we watch "Friends" on the tube.

Time, time, time, and a nice girlfriend/wife... AND, I spent less money on myself these last 8 months. Clearly, I can justify buying a 300 usd knife if I don´t buy a new pair of boots!

It´s a nice hobby, a hobby like many others.

Take care


Niclas
 
When my wife gives me the eye roll :rolleyes: and comments on the expense, I counter with the cost of her jewelry. At least my knives serve a functional purpose.:)

Paul
 
My take on this is, if women need a billion purses and a million pair of shoes then who are they to complain?
 
I haven't had any negative responses from any of the girlfriends that I've had. I'm almost suprised actually but I guess I've either been very lucky in this regard or maybe people aren't as narrow minded as they sometimes perceive.

Edit - to answer the question when when I meet someone new I usually show them my Gunting or Gunting drone since its usually the one I have on me and its one that seems to generate a lot of discussion.
 
My wife of 6 years has no issues with the knives I buy or have made for me. She initially didn't like the outlay on blades while dating but never really said much. Thought it was extravagant as first.

My return on investment from training others and selling retail pays for the blades I want and then some.

She also gets to be the beneficiary of this as I hand her a few hundred after a training day and tell her to buy something she wants.;)

Brownie
 
I get quite few odd looks when they finally notice I am carrying one or when I empty my pockets for the night. Usually because they didn't notice what I was carrying and wonder what I plan on using it for. Like I'm some kind of Johnny Rambo. One girl I date thinks it's pretty cool and actually has few of her own although she doesn't carry them.

The first time they "need" your knife becuase their favorite sweater has a snag or some such, then they are totally accepting.
 
Is that a Sebenza in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?

sorry, that phrase just popped in my head. My girlfriend is pretty accepting. She now knows a lot of the brand names, and knows what is cheap knock-off crap.

Every once in a while she gets upset that I'm on bladeforums though. :)
 
Originally posted by Boink
How are some of you unmarried men dealing with this, when you meet someone new?
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What would we know about dealing with it? We're still unmarried:p

Actually, one of the first things I ask them is if they have a handgun, and a knife.
It's the hunter/prey thing, where you have to think like they do, and answer the questions before they are asked.
Single women in my age bracket (I'm 32) are either divorced, or have stayed single a long time. However much they may like having someone to take care of, defend, or support them, they usually don't want to feel dependent on a man. For anything.
It's not hard to make a logical argument for carrying a knife, or even a gun to someone like that.
I imagine it would be alot different for younger people.


Explaining away spending $400+ on a custom knife, though....well, I haven't figured that one out yet!
You don't have to tell them everything, you know:D
 
Easy.

I say "If it's between you or the knives - well, let's just say it's an easy decision."

-- Rob
 
How women react to the "guy things" we do, and own, largely depends upon how you present it.

If you approach it very matter-of-factly, chances are good that she'll accept it without question, and it will actually be perceived to be part of your male appeal. A man who owns guns, knives, fast cars, and all the other accoutrements of real manhood, and who uses and displays them proudly, will generally be seen by his woman/women (and all of her/their jealous friends) as a manly man indeed.

If, however, you approach her as though you're seeking her approval -- or, worse still, as though you may have some reservations about it yourself, like the cost of the hobby, for example -- then you're in for big trouble. There is no masculine appeal whatsoever in self-doubt and hesitation ... and far less, in her mind at least, in actually seeking her approval. This all has to do with the complicated, twisted psychology of women.

It is good for a wife or girlfriend to suspect that your love of your toys rivals your love for her. It keeps her on her toes, and makes her try harder.
 
Early on as a dealer I had bumper stickers made up that said:

My wife said I buy one more knife she is going to leave me....I sure am going to miss her.

While my wife found no humor in this. I sold and gave away thousands of these.
 
Best way I have found is to get them interested in knives themselves. A "Cute" knife will get em started. Got my wife a Purple MT UDT and a Rainbow Leek, now she is a beginning knife knut herself
 
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