Busse Parenting Question

MikeC

MikeC

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Long story short, I hunt and fish a lot, have a son who is 12 and over the years bought good knives for him to have along the way. Haven't given them to him yet as he is not ready maturity wise for them. Bought him 2 game wardens and 2 skyco 1311 for when he was older as I was afraid when he got older given the way Busse and kin limits production, I was afraid I would not be able to find them new again.

Anyway, the boy and I since August have been going down hill as his discomfortidis as I call it, has reached a chronic phase and he is completely incapable of doing anything other than what he wants to do, when he wants to do it, etc.

I'm ready to sell all this stuff off, my only hesitation is will I be able to get these things new down the road one day? Anyone know?
 
Sounds like a teenager.:rolleyes:

Nobody knows what the future holds, but chances are good that Bussekin knives will be found.;)
 
WOW, I am having the SAME experience and SAME thoughts! please let me know if you find any solution! :) Good luck! Keep the Busse and Kin for YOU!!!!!!!!!!
 
I would still save them, he'll eventually come around. My oldest daughter tries to pull that too but we're finding new ways to get around it. Takes time and effort and some motivation.

If you sell them off and can't find them later you might wish you hadn't. Personal opinion though.
 
As a parent of four kids, three of them now teenagers, all I can tell you is that kids go through stages and ages 12-15 can be challenging. The stage will pass and you might regret selling those knives down the road. My advice is to hang tight, and wait for things to improve with your son. Good luck!
 
12 year olds don't have the right to act like they want. They are to do as they're told.

I wouldn't sell the knives. I'd remove whatever he currently has that's important to him and prove the point.
 
Hold onto the knives. Things can change dramatically with kids! Im sure in time he will understand and done as his father has done and continued to pass down the knowledge youve bistowed upon him! Family takes time,patience and effort! Goodluck!
 
jd4320t said:
12 year olds don't have the right to act like they want. They are to do as they're told.

I wouldn't sell the knives. I'd remove whatever he currently has that's important to him and prove the point.
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We were cut from the same cloth. I bet if you take video games away he'll come round right quick
 
My honest opinion is to keep them. Yes you will more than likely be able to get them down the road but you will be paying more for them. Plus the fact they will not be the ones you have been saving for him. If he does not like them or appreciate them now, there will be a time when he will. You may have to hold them until he is past college, who knows. I have several knives I am holding for my son with the hopes that he will one day be able to take care of them and appreciate them accordingly. Until that day comes, they will be safety tucked away for a very nice surprise when that day comes.
 
jd4320t said:
12 year olds don't have the right to act like they want. They are to do as they're told.

I wouldn't sell the knives. I'd remove whatever he currently has that's important to him and prove the point.
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perfect

Been through these growing pains

And made "ol Bacon Bits" earn the Busse's he has by working for them, shop, pressure washing or whatever and really appreciated them a bunch more than the ones given to him.

he is 22 now and has grown out of most of the trouble ;)
 
You sound like a good dad who wants to be involed with his son. Make sure everything is going OK at school. This is probably just a phase.

Could you involve one of his friend to do things with yall? Sometimes I find my kids have more appreciation for our life stlye and "things" when their friends see how good our kids have it.

Unless you need the money keep the knives. Alway good to have xtra Busse's around. And remember your not alone in this department.

Good luck, David
 
Dude, kids all go through caring more about what there freinds care about. An everything mom n dad say or wanna do is lame. But it's a matter of time when they will gravitate back to the one place that holds true. There home an parents, if not just for advice. Hang on to that stuff.. the right time will come. Your just playing the waiting game now. Just be there when he wonders back. Trust me... I was "one of those" kids..
 
I'm sure that it's only a matter of time before I am on here asking for advice on how to deal with a snarky 14-year-old girl, luckily I have 6 years to figure out how to deal with that!
My opinion is that you keep the knives for later and hope that this phase passes ASAP. I know that I look back on the times when I was getting into a lot of trouble as a kid and my parents were being the toughest on me, and I thank them for being firm but fair, I'm sure that's not what I thought at the time though.
 
When I buy things for my son in the future, so far a few firearms and several knives, these thing are already his even thought he doesn't know they exist yet (he's 4). I won't sell them or use them. Obviously his maturity level and age will determine when he gets to take possession of these items.
 
Keep them. If not for him, then you. That aside, sounds like one of the stages kids go through; there is absolutely no reason to give him anything of such a nature until he demonstrates that he's ready to get along with his dad and get over the revolt. But revolt bring a lot of uncertainty; hang tough and be the dad you know is good and necessary--be the dad that looks out for your son's best interest even when he may think your not. My guess is that somewhere down the line, you'll tell him about this BF exchange, and how you almost sold his knives, and you'll both have a good laugh drinking a cold beer by a warm fire with that day's catch cooking. From one dad to another, hang in there. And from a one-time monstrously rebellions teen, hang in there--wayward sons need good dads to look out for them (even from themselves).
 
You have a surly teen in your future for at least 1/2 decade. Most of them straighten out by their early 20s. Nothing new there. But why did you figure on gifting a sack of designer knives that no child can fully appreciate? The most useful thing I ever got at that age was a SAK Spartan and 50 years later (after wearing out quite a few) still treasure that model.
 
rcb2000 said:
I'm sure that it's only a matter of time before I am on here asking for advice on how to deal with a snarky 14-year-old girl, luckily I have 6 years to figure out how to deal with that!
My opinion is that you keep the knives for later and hope that this phase passes ASAP. I know that I look back on the times when I was getting into a lot of trouble as a kid and my parents were being the toughest on me, and I thank them for being firm but fair, I'm sure that's not what I thought at the time though.
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I have 9 yr old twins (boy/girl) and I'd be lying if I said I don't worry about them hitting the teens as well.

They have some SAK Classics and MTechs, lol :) They're safe enough with them, but they lose things far too readily for me to want them to have nicer blades atm. Don't have anything specific set aside for them/the boy, but I figure I'll have plenty in my hoard to hand stuff down or just look at what's on the market for something new when the time comes.

I guess if I was in the OP's shoes I might sell just the back-ups to start if I thought my boy would never really be into them.
 
Keep them; kids grow up eventually. Of course I have one that's 50 & I'm still waiting.
 
Keep the blades.

The kid will come around, they always do.

Be paitent, always show respect towards them and explain things calmly. They will follow your footsteps when the grow out of this phase. (i'm 19, i know)
 
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