Busse Parenting Question

Keep them, chances are he'll come around with time.
Maybe this'll make you feel a little better.
I caught my 8 year old son ( my oldest ) playing his iPad at 11pm, bedtime is 8pm. I took it away and tucked him in, told him the next day that it's mine until further notice and not to even ask about it again.
That next day he spent a lot of time in the bathroom saying he had a belly ache ( of course we knew better ). I caught him coning out of the John with the iPad I had hidden away; things were out of my control at that point, my Wife tore him a new ass. We then explained that he had broken our trust, that's when it kicked in for him and he felt bad. I erased every game off of the iPad and hid it away ( better this time ).
Here's the real kicker!
The next day while I was out my Wife caught him trying to break into my gun safe because that's where he assumed I'd put the tablet👿👿👿👿👿.
At this point my loving and caring Wife who is a terrific Mother unleashed holy hell on him until I came home. I gave him another talk about betraying trust, explained what could've happened to him or someone else in our family had he gained access to it, that the iPad wasn't in the safe, and quite a bit more.
Then I reminded him that he had seen me erase the games and asked him what he had hoped to gain by defying so many rules trying to get that game and that's when I realized that he is addicted to it- a very sad feeling as a parent to say the least.
Like you I'm involved and he's cared about deeply, like I believe you care about yours. Now he'll get even more of my time and I'm going to help him earn our trust back and beat his single minded desire to play that damn game. We're hiking a lot ( in the large parks but it's hiking to him ), using the camping gear, cooking lunch in the woods, and playing a lot more lego's and board games. The tv is off and we read at night- it's helping the whole family.
Our rough patch is going to make us stronger, as long as you keep on trying yours will too.
Know that you're not the only one facing these things and at least yours was older than some of ours before he started causing trouble.
 
jd4320t said:
12 year olds don't have the right to act like they want. They are to do as they're told. ]


We had major trouble here with a 10 year old and a 12 year old with internet addiction. And we took the connection away, and guess what? Attitudes improved, they spent much more time outdoors playing and were more willing to do the chores on the farm. everyone was happier after the first detox period... Children are a gift, and may we treasure them enough to give them valuable things like time, and love and training on how to do real things.... Life lessons ... And 12 year olds are unable to know what things need to be a priority in their life. That's what parents are for... I know that is "old school" thinking...
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Keep the knives for him. This is a phase that he will grow out of. Now, it might be 5 years or it might be 15. ;)

My son went thought a 6 month phase when he was about 15 where he got suspended from school, we caught him with some weed, etc., just a total rebellion against any kind of authority. We pretty much told him that if he didn't straighten up, respect us and other adults, that he would not be getting his drivers license. He slowly got better over time, I learned from my wife that yelling at him didn't work and it all worked out. Now he is 21, got his own place with his fiancee, got a full time job in construction and does side jobs on the weekend, and has a baby on the way.

So just be patient, show him love and support, and it will all work out.
 
Welcome to parenthood and the teenage years. My advice is not to buy your kids respect. Keep the knives for yourself if he never shows the maturity to have them.
I hate to say it, but I think the sad truth is that some kids never come around. I have a sixty year old brother that I would put it that category. If they do come around, we can pat ourselves on the back for the parenting job we have done. Give him some time though, and don't force it. They all have to test the waters to find their independence. As much as we would like to carry our kids, it does them a disservice to do so. You can guide, but you can't force or carry them.
That being said, damn I'm glad my kids are grown. Now I just worry about how they raise the grandchildren.
 
Kids are kids. Keep the cutlery. The dawn of a new, positive day will eventually greet you. Hold your course.
 
Kids have to find their own way. Mine haven't hit hardcore rebellion yet but I suppose they will.

Hang in there but there is no guarantee kids will like what you like. My dad, outdoorsman, hunter, fisherman,....I hate fishing...

My college roommate, his dad, rifleman, elk hunter,.... he would rather play tennis and write computer code...

My son (10) was playing some video game the other day and using an AR type rifle, I told him "hey, I have a couple real rifles like that, we could head out to the range and shoot some real guns".......his response "nah"

I guess if we never deviated from our parents we would still be in the Stone Age.

Good luck to all of us!!!
 
I have bought both of my boys traditional knives and other fun stuff.

I won't purchase and sit on Busse for them for years.

They may get them when they are older. But really, at the rate the companies are turning out great designs, and all thefantastic production, and more importantly custom knives are out there, I'm not too worried.

My older boy is 10, and some times not to keen on doing what I want him to do. But he is a great kid.
 
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I appreciate all the replies. To all, I haven't given him any of the these knives yet and wasn't going to until years down the road when he is older and has been taught proper use, handling and care. It's just been a rough 6 or 7 months with him and this weekend I hit a wall and just started thinking all I was doing for him like the knives and stuff was just in vane. I felt like I was just wasting time, effort and money. My Dad taught me not to make decisions when your emotional and I was definitely that this weekend. Knives r important in my family, I still have my dads first buck knife and my son has already been given my Dads pockets knives including the Swiss Army knife that was in his pocket when he died. He takes care of them and keeps them safe Ina special drawer in his room. It's just I knew that if I sold the busses and kin he would know how unhappy I am with right now. In retrospect not very Fatherly of me.

Thanks for the opinions and the words of encouragement and I'm keeping the knives for him. I knew this time would come for him I just need to knuckle up and anchor myself for the coming storm.

Thanks again
 
MikeC said:
Long story short, I hunt and fish a lot, have a son who is 12 and over the years bought good knives for him to have along the way. Haven't given them to him yet as he is not ready maturity wise for them. Bought him 2 game wardens and 2 skyco 1311 for when he was older as I was afraid when he got older given the way Busse and kin limits production, I was afraid I would not be able to find them new again.

Anyway, the boy and I since August have been going down hill as his discomfortidis as I call it, has reached a chronic phase and he is completely incapable of doing anything other than what he wants to do, when he wants to do it, etc.

I'm ready to sell all this stuff off, my only hesitation is will I be able to get these things new down the road one day? Anyone know?
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willic said:
WOW, I am having the SAME experience and SAME thoughts! please let me know if you find any solution! :) Good luck! Keep the Busse and Kin for YOU!!!!!!!!!!
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Hey Pops', I'm ready to go hunting now! :p Oink! ;)
 
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