Outside, in bright daylight, colors will appear darker than they are inside or even in the shade. That's part of the reason the old blacksmith worked in the shade of the tree... better temp sense.
Your workpiece should become the same color as the interior of your forge. Thus, you can watch the color of your lining as you learn to adjust the temp.
You will need to experiment with your air/fuel mix for your forge and understand how it affects temp. One thing you need to do is maintain a proper atmosphere for forging. You want a neutral-to-reducing flame, not oxidizing. This means that you have essentially an excess of propane that will want to burn as it exits the forge from finding more oxygen from the outside air. For this reason, one should have tongues of orange flame licking out of the front of the forge 3-6".
Now, maintaining a reducing atmosphere, play with your air/fuel mix and see what gets hotter or cooler. You will find quite a bit of interplay between the air throttle and gas pressure. If you can get it to a bright yellow out in daylight, you are probably plenty hot enough.
Use those two tips I mentioned for gauging temp. Vigorously bubbling borax is an excellent welding temp. You can use 20 Mule Team Borax from the grocery (NOT Boraxo...that's soap!). Later, you can choose to purchase or make anhydrous borax. Many people do that because they don't like the tendency of 20 MT to fluff up as the water in it boils off.
Added: forgot to answer one question. It takes my kaowool-lined forge about 15 minutes to reach full heat. You need to run it long enough to reach steady state, then make an adjustment, wait 5 minutes or so, and so on.