I would suggest you look at the Ruger LCP...
I respectfully disagree. While I love carrying my LCP because of it's size, I absolutely hate shooting it. it's quite snappy to fire, and starts to physically hurt to shoot after about 25 rounds. I have to force myself to practice with it when I go to the range. For someones first handgun, I personally recommend they start with something more comfortable to practice with, so that they will, actually practice. In a
'pocket .380', I'd recommend a G42 over the LCP for someone who's only gonna have one carry piece. Or, if they're willing to go SOA, a Sig 238 (love mine, but won't carry it for other reasons). I can put 100 rounds through either of those with little to no fatigue. YMMV
Budget is anything under 700 or so, I’m not looking to go cheap, I don’t want to have to worry about if it will be reliable if I need to protect my life or someone else’s; it’s a used Glock or something. But I will definitely take a look at the compact M&Ps and Shields, and the J frames. I’m also not looking for external safeties, the last thing I would want to happen is the gun being on safe if I need it to go bang, although it may be better to have for a first carry gun. Should probably be noted that I’m a bit caliber partial, either a 9mm or .38 on the lower end and a .357/.45 on the higher end. I’ve shot everything from a 9 up to and including .357, so I have a little bit of an idea on how the recoil is. I also have been reading a bit into holsters, what are y’all’s opinions on Crossbreed’s belts and holsters?
Under $700 will get you almost anything you want in a CCW pistol. And most of the more common ones are gonna be dead reliable as long as you maintain them.
Nothing wrong with external safeties, as long as you practice, and build the muscle memory to thumb the safety off in an emergency. That said, I've moved away from external safeties for all my carry pieces for just that reason - one less thing to think about in a high stress situation.
For your first pistol, I'd stick with 9mm in a semi-auto. It's the cheapest to shoot. Price of ammo is about 30% cheaper than .45 acp (with .40 being somewhere in between). Makes a big difference if you're gonna be putting a lot of rounds downrange.
For a revolver, go to .357 - You can run .38 through all day at the range, and keep .357 chambered for carry. But do note:
- Periodically run .357 at the range, so you are used to how the gun fires the hotter load
- A 'snubby' revolver will have quite a bit more kick in .357 than you may want, so if you go that route, definitely make sure you shoot one before making a decision
There's nothing wrong with any of the other calibers (my favorites are .40 and .45), but 9mm and .38 are just gonna be your most economical to start off with, simply because they are the most popular rounds for defensive handguns.
Crossbreed makes a good product, though personally, you can find similar styles, for cheaper, in just as nice of a holster. The other thing to remember is, just like the firearm itself, not every holster is going to work for every person. Unfortunately, you kinda have to find out what works for you by trial and error. I've got a drawer full of holsters that I've accumulated over the years trying to find the ones that work best for me. And I also have two or three for each carry gun, based on what I'm wearing, where I'm going, and what kind of activities I'll be doing. Holsters become their own separate rabbit hole... LOL