Have to get this off my chest

extrastout

extrastout

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I know I am only an internet part of this community, and have not met any of you personally (I am from MA and don't like flying).........I just found out my mother will lose her hard fought battle with MS due to a friggen bed sore that will not heal. I am 32 and my family has been dealing with her frustrating decline since I was in elementary school. This disease came to the point where I thought she did not understand what I was saying. Yesterday I got the unexpected news and visited her today in the nursing home (she has been there for a month to recover). As I was leaving, figuring she didn't know she was not going to recover (this was the agreement with hospice), I said goodbye and gave her a hug (acting like everything is ok :mad:). She all of a sudden grabbed my hand, made eye contact with me and held it to her chest, then said "I love you" and would not let go (she couldn't feed herself at this stage of the disease). This is something that was so small, but I cannot explain how big it was.... Thank you Busse knives and community for keeping me happy:D through this............ Thanks for everything mom!
 
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I'll keep her in my prayers. It's nice that you got to share that moment with her and it sound like you have a really good mom. She'll be waiting for you on the other side no doubt.
 
Extra- Must be getting old or something, I just teared up reading that. My mom is on chemo from colon cancer.... Hard realizing that the ones we love won't be around as long as we'd like them to. Hang in there.
 
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Extra- Must be getting old or something, I just teared up reading that. My mom is on chemo from colon cancer.... Hard realizing that the ones we love won't be around as long as we'd like them to. Hang in there.
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So did I...phew :( . Every now and then, I read something like this and realize this is more than just a knife forum.
 
I can imagine what you're feeling. I went through it with my Dad and cancer 10 years ago. Prayer headed up for you.
 
I'm so sorry man. Life is so precious and we often let it pass by. Thank you for sharing this. We're here for you man. The least we can do is help get your mind off of things. As someone who works in therapy and related fields -- if I may recommend finding a way to "heal" another in need as a way of putting yourself through a cathartic healing process of your own. Let your pain be a shield for another -- soon enough your hardship will be a source of your courage. Best wishes man.

-Rob Abyane
 
I lost my mom to an unrecoverable stroke a few years ago . After she could no longer gain consciousness I realized she still well knew what was going on. I pray for comfort for your mom and peace in your heart. Feel free to email me if you would like to talk.
 
I understand what you're going thru. I lost my step-dad in '99 to a heart attack (he was 49). I lost my dad back in '11 to cancer. He was only 59.

My prayers are with you and your family. Remember, the body is temporary but the soul is eternal.

I wish I would have talked to my dad about the plan of salvation.
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your mom. She will be with you always. Prayers sent.

God Bless,

Gus
 
Its tough mate, lot my mother 30yrs ago next month (I was 15), seems like only yesterday sometimes. The last moments of her life are what makes me sure there is somehow something past this word, what I don't know nor do I try to explain it. Still those last ten seconds of lucidness (after a couple of days unconscious) left me with a memory I shall always cherish.
 
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Someday you will see her again at the the clearing at the end of the path. I pray that until that day you will find peace and tranquility in this life. I lost my mom a few years ago to cancer. She passed away while I was on the road. I was in Wisconsin at the pinecone restaurant when I found out. My thoughts are with you.
 
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... She all of a sudden grabbed my hand, made eye contact with me and held it to her chest, then said "I love you" and would not let go (she couldn't feed herself at this stage of the disease). This is something that was so small, but I cannot explain how big it was....
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I very much understand just how big it was – I went thru a somewhat similar experience with my mom not long before she died. She had been transferred to an ICU where they had given up hope. I had left the hospital for a much-needed break and I got the call about her going to the ICU, so I rushed back but she was unconscious. I was just standing beside her when all of a sudden she became conscious and very alert; we talked for awhile, and then she slipped away and died shortly thereafter. After 80 years of her life it was a relatively small moment in time, but one that I will never forget.

I am glad you had that special moment with your mom. Take good care of yourself.
 
I'm sorry for your loss. Your story reminds me of the last time I got to see my grandpa. He was in the nursing home, and had become very confused. He hardly recognized anyone, even grandma. When I walked in, he called me by name and we had a conversation like nothing was wrong. Everyone in the family had told me that he would not remember you, and we talked like always, and he offered some sage advice, before telling me that he loved me. A few days later he passed. But I'll never forget that moment. The human spirit is incredible. I send my prayers and thoughts to your family.
 
Thank you for sharing this with us. Having lost a close family friend to MS, I feel for you. Prayers going out to you and your family.
 
Man.....my heart aches for you. That is hard to imagine.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

The Brown family
 
My heart and prayers go out to you, extrastout. There is no disease that can break a mother's love, and your last few moments with her show that. Stay strong, brother.
 
My prayers go out to you and your family, I'm sorry to hear such sad news. She loves you and wanted to you to know, that it a moment that will stick with you forever.
 
Prayers sent to you and your family extrastout. I lost my mother about 14 years ago, and we shared a similar moment. It is my most cherished memory of her in late life.
 
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